BradOCD
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Sparker1289Sparker1289
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Lol! Yes
BradOCDBradOCD
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Hello there, how have you been getting on
Sparker1289Sparker1289
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@BradOCD Still in the mud. Still doing my ERP. Getting to the gym now. Learning to accept uncertainty and continue as best as I can in my current friendship with benefits with the girl I "love". How about yourself?
BradOCDBradOCD
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@Sparker1289 Idk man very up and down. Had some longer periods of up which had been nice but they make the downs feel so much more real. I just feel like I’m in the closet now, if there was a button that made me heterosexual id press it without a second thought. But now it just feels like realisation idk
Sparker1289Sparker1289
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@BradOCD Yea man, I feel you. I am attempting to stay off these forums and REDDIT as I know it's not good for me and my therapist recommended that I stay off here. Unfortunately I am finding myself looking up too many YouTube videos today
BradOCDBradOCD
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@Sparker1289 Hey sorry for not replying sooner. It just feels too real to me now yano
Sparker1289Sparker1289
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@BradOCD Yes sir. I know exactly what you're saying. It is extremely true for me these days as well. I'm very confused as to how to navigate this for the rest of my life. I'm just sticking to the ERP and trying to love myself for who I am without acting on impulse
BradOCDBradOCD
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@Sparker1289 I won’t lie to you. I’ve actually given up on ERP and therapy. Because the more I do it the more it feels like I’m just realising myself
Sparker1289Sparker1289
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like kissing her is a compulsion?
Sparker1289Sparker1289
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wanting to be with her is a compulsion?
BradOCDBradOCD
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Yep exactly that. It’s now like my head turns for men instead of women. I look at her and feel next to nothing. We’ve literally just been to sign a contract so live in house together in 6 months and I just spent the whole time panicking that I don’t want to be in the relationship even tho I think I do but I just don’t know. It’s like I do want it to work but How can it work if I’m/maybe gay?
Sparker1289Sparker1289
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@BradOCD Oh buddy, I'm with you sir
BradOCDBradOCD
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@Sparker1289 Are you really? It just feels like I’m the only person feeling like this it just feels like I’m struggling to accept the truth then ocd anymore
Sparker1289Sparker1289
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Oh yes, I'm completely convinced I'm gay now. And struggling to come to terms with it. Now I'm fully believing in myself being comp het. It's amazing!
BradOCDBradOCD
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Amazing?
Sparker1289Sparker1289
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#sarcasm
BradOCDBradOCD
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It’s just idk what to feel because sometimes it feels like I could almost enjoy this new life style I just don’t understand what’s going on. And it’s like I still find my partner attractive and enjoy intimacy but it just feels different? Like it’s not enough or something idk
Sparker1289Sparker1289
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Yea, I don't know either. The compulsive heterosexuality thought is stuck with me now
BradOCDBradOCD
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What do you mean by that? If you don’t mind my asking?
Sparker1289Sparker1289
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Like I've just been a compulsive heterosexual my entire adulthood. Ive only acted in a "straight" way out of compulsion
BradOCDBradOCD
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I feel like this may be true for me too idk but it’s like I still find my partner attractive but it’s like it’s not enough anymore
BradOCDBradOCD
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Hey man how are you getting on
Sparker1289Sparker1289
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I'm doing terribly. I believe I'm gay
BradOCDBradOCD
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Ngl me too. And sometimes it’s like I want it. Why would I want it? It doesn’t even make logical sense because I find my gf attractive and I enjoy intimacy with her and always have. If anything I enjoy it more now than ever. But my brain just keeps telling me that I’m not happy and that I should just give in because I would feel better if I did
Sparker1289Sparker1289
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Yea, I don't know. But you should keep fighting the good fight and going to therapy. I'm probably going to have the conversation with my girlfriend soon after our Disneyland trip. I don't want to get too graphic but now I feel more anxiety towards intimacy with her than with a man.
BradOCDBradOCD
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Have a nice trip. I hope you can still enjoy it.
Sparker1289Sparker1289
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Thank you sir! You got this!
Sparker1289Sparker1289
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I'm not happy about it at all. Seems fucked up that I have to go through this all of a sudden at 32. Erections during intimacy with your gf are no issue?
BradOCDBradOCD
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Luckily no
Sparker1289Sparker1289
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Sounds like you're on a good path my friend. Please, keep going
BradOCDBradOCD
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Every now and then I have these warm feelings that all will be okay and that I can stay with my gf and then they just disappear and I get all these thoughts about how I’d rather be with a man now. And now it’s like every man I see if attractive and I mean literally every man
Sparker1289Sparker1289
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Literally every man!
BradOCDBradOCD
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It just doesn’t feel like ocd anymore. It feels like I’m just suppressing the inevitable. It feels like I’m okay with it and I really don’t want to be but I can’t make myself not okay again? If that makes sense
Sparker1289Sparker1289
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Does it easily feel like you could act on kissing or doing more with said male you find attractive?
BradOCDBradOCD
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Yeah sometimes. It just feels like maybe this is what I’ve been destined for all along and that this will be a happier life for me even tho I was so so happy with my gf when we found eachother and now it’s like it’s all been taken away. And the worse thing is it feels like I want this new life now. I don’t even know if it is the ocd anymore or if I want it to be it’s just so confusing
BradOCDBradOCD
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How you doing sir?
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