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- ImagineSisyphusHappy
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- 3y ago
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- AnonymousAnonymous
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- 3y ago
I just recently told my boyfriend of 3 months about mine. I had the article pulled up on my phone so I could show him, and I wanted to tell him something before I showed it to him. But I couldn't find the right words to introduce the concept to him. I wanted to say something like "I'm not dangerous" or "I'm not actually attracted to these people," but those things would've simply made him apprehensive, I felt. So at some point, I finally just handed him my phone and let him read the NOCD article that explains it. He was accepting and very sweet about it. I would say to get to know the person you're dating and make sure you're on the same wavelength emotionally and commitment-wise. If they truly like who you are, they'll understand that the disorder is *not* you.
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- dogluv13dogluv13
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- 3y ago
Yes agreed! POCD is particularly tricky since there are even psychologists and psychiatrists who aren’t well educated on it. I found myself saying to my partner over and over again “it’s important that you understand I don’t want this… It’s important that you understand these thoughts make me want to end my life” before I could actually show him the paper that said the word pedophilia on it
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- ViVampire🧛🏻♀️ViVampire🧛🏻♀️
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- 3y ago
I carefully and slowly explained OCD and then POCD to my boyfriend. He freaked out at first, but then asked some questions then understood.
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- dogluv13dogluv13
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- 3y ago
I can definitely relate. I kept it from my partner for six years and didn’t feel safe telling him until I was secure in a therapy program. Take your time, it’s not lying. He already knew about some of my other subtypes so I had printed out some articles and materials to share with him so he would have some “proof” that pocd is real. (Since that’s the biggest fear right?) I had a 30 minute panic attack in the fetal position on the floor before I could get the words out. It was one of the hardest things I’ve done. BUT he was very supportive and understanding and it is such a huge relief to have my person understand me and truly see me for the first time. I was worried he was going to be upset that I kept it from him and “lied” but he straight up said “don’t be ridiculous, I’m really glad you shared this with me” I feel very lucky to have this kind of support so I hope the same for you all. It’s made a huge difference in my ERP therapy as well because I have someone holding me accountable
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- cruzic
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I’m afraid to date with this disorder. I got diagnosed about 2 months ago. I’m on medications and doing erp. I feel like the whole subject is so taboo I have a hard time talking to my own mother about it. I’ve told my best friend but I don’t know how to talk to someone “new” about this. It’s so shameful I cry almost every day. I never had to deal with this disorder in previous relationships. I’ve been out of my previous relationship for about 8 months. The Pocd became unbearable about 5 or so months ago. I’ve been asked out on dates but I’m completely afraid of being triggered and talking about it. Any advice?
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- Darz
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- 4y ago
How do you guys connect with your significant others without scaring them about your ocd? I want to be open but it's hard to know what is too much... thanks
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- Evelyn4416
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- 4y ago
At what point in dating do you let your (potential) partner know that you have OCD? I’d like to start dating this year but sometimes I feel like I need to be in a better place to do that? Also I feel like if I actually get into a relationship and I don’t say anything about it that I’m hiding some dark secret. Any thoughts/experiences?
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