ImagineSisyphusHappy
- Date posted
- 3y
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 3y
I just recently told my boyfriend of 3 months about mine. I had the article pulled up on my phone so I could show him, and I wanted to tell him something before I showed it to him. But I couldn't find the right words to introduce the concept to him. I wanted to say something like "I'm not dangerous" or "I'm not actually attracted to these people," but those things would've simply made him apprehensive, I felt. So at some point, I finally just handed him my phone and let him read the NOCD article that explains it. He was accepting and very sweet about it. I would say to get to know the person you're dating and make sure you're on the same wavelength emotionally and commitment-wise. If they truly like who you are, they'll understand that the disorder is *not* you.
dogluv13dogluv13
- Date posted
- 3y
Yes agreed! POCD is particularly tricky since there are even psychologists and psychiatrists who aren’t well educated on it. I found myself saying to my partner over and over again “it’s important that you understand I don’t want this… It’s important that you understand these thoughts make me want to end my life” before I could actually show him the paper that said the word pedophilia on it
ViVampire🧛🏻♀️ViVampire🧛🏻♀️
- Date posted
- 3y
I carefully and slowly explained OCD and then POCD to my boyfriend. He freaked out at first, but then asked some questions then understood.
dogluv13dogluv13
- Date posted
- 3y
I can definitely relate. I kept it from my partner for six years and didn’t feel safe telling him until I was secure in a therapy program. Take your time, it’s not lying. He already knew about some of my other subtypes so I had printed out some articles and materials to share with him so he would have some “proof” that pocd is real. (Since that’s the biggest fear right?) I had a 30 minute panic attack in the fetal position on the floor before I could get the words out. It was one of the hardest things I’ve done. BUT he was very supportive and understanding and it is such a huge relief to have my person understand me and truly see me for the first time. I was worried he was going to be upset that I kept it from him and “lied” but he straight up said “don’t be ridiculous, I’m really glad you shared this with me” I feel very lucky to have this kind of support so I hope the same for you all. It’s made a huge difference in my ERP therapy as well because I have someone holding me accountable
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Anonymous
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 23w
Pls I need advice
I’ve had so many moments of clarity with my OCD that I love my boyfriend and I’m beyond willing to go through this to be better and be with him. in the back of mind I’ve in a way known I was at least somewhat sexually attracted to women (I’m a woman) since the start of the ocd it was always like “okay. Fine, but I don’t want to date a girl” I only just realized this after the ocd started, I never really argued with this. my ocd has always revolved around if I’m romantically interested in women and not men. I’ve done so many compulsions through this year and a half and 9 times out of 10 have come to the conclusion that I don’t want to be with a woman romantically. I always end up feeling like I know I love my boyfriend. But the doubts don’t stop about whether I want to spend my life with a woman instead, my heart literally breaks to think of not being with my bf and imagining him with someone else. I don’t want to be with a woman I know deep down somewhere underneath the anxiety that that’s not what I want. It doesn’t feel natural for me, unfulfilling. I want to tell my boyfriend about the possible sexual attraction to women (ik it’s still ocd related) but I’m scared that once I tell him, I’ll realize that I actually do want to be with women and not with him. Ugh I’ve spent hours today ruminating about this after being solid in my commitment with him for a little while, I’m stuck in this loop and idk how to get out right now
Anonymous
- Date posted
- 20w
Sharing intrusive thoughts/urges with partners
Last night I had a fucked up intrusive thought/urge about harming my partner and I'm spinning out today. I let them know I had an intrusive thought and was struggling with compulsions around it and future repercussions, but did not tell them exactly what the thought/urge was, which they accepted. Do y'all share details with your partners about harm ocd? How can we healthily ask for support from people we are having horrible thoughts about?
Sam0506
- Date posted
- 11w
Should I share my ocd diagnosis with new employer?
I posted the other day about my subtype of staring ocd but I’m supposed to start a new job next week. I work in wellness/beauty and will be seeing people half naked. It doesn’t trigger me as I’m treating clients but only when I’m not supposed to be looking (like normal interactions). It happens when people wear very revealing clothes or are super curvy and my eye goes to that area. It also happens when people are adjusting themselves and my eye goes to their hands. It’s very embarrassing and I quit my last job because of this and I don’t want to make more people feel uncomfortable. It left me very depressed and hopeless. It’s such a frustrating type of ocd to deal with because it impacts me financially and socially. I just want to feel okay. Anyways, I’m writing this because I’m wondering if I should share with my new employer about this issue so I don’t weird anyone out or keep it to myself? I’m not sure what to do. I need money as I have a mortgage and two kids and would like to help my husband. I’m currently on Zoloft 50mg, have done therapy but this is such a hard type to treat as it’s not the cleaning type. I know I’m not supposed to ask for advice about what to do but I need to know so I can make a decision and not get cold feet.
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