The one thing I don’t know how to do is if I date, how would I let my significant other know about my POCD? I wouldn’t want to keep secrets but I don’t feel like it would be the easiest conversation. Does anyone have advice for how they did so with their significant others?

I just recently told my boyfriend of 3 months about mine. I had the article pulled up on my phone so I could show him, and I wanted to tell him something before I showed it to him. But I couldn't find the right words to introduce the concept to him. I wanted to say something like "I'm not dangerous" or "I'm not actually attracted to these people," but those things would've simply made him apprehensive, I felt. So at some point, I finally just handed him my phone and let him read the NOCD article that explains it. He was accepting and very sweet about it. I would say to get to know the person you're dating and make sure you're on the same wavelength emotionally and commitment-wise. If they truly like who you are, they'll understand that the disorder is *not* you.

I carefully and slowly explained OCD and then POCD to my boyfriend. He freaked out at first, but then asked some questions then understood.

I can definitely relate. I kept it from my partner for six years and didn’t feel safe telling him until I was secure in a therapy program. Take your time, it’s not lying. He already knew about some of my other subtypes so I had printed out some articles and materials to share with him so he would have some “proof” that pocd is real. (Since that’s the biggest fear right?) I had a 30 minute panic attack in the fetal position on the floor before I could get the words out. It was one of the hardest things I’ve done. BUT he was very supportive and understanding and it is such a huge relief to have my person understand me and truly see me for the first time. I was worried he was going to be upset that I kept it from him and “lied” but he straight up said “don’t be ridiculous, I’m really glad you shared this with me” I feel very lucky to have this kind of support so I hope the same for you all. It’s made a huge difference in my ERP therapy as well because I have someone holding me accountable