745
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- 3y
Bookworm91Bookworm91
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- 3y
It’s not a competition. It may not be fun but there’s nothing wrong with being single and there’s a strength that not many posses at being able to be alone /on your own for a while. To be our best/healthiest we all have to be in that position at some point in our lives
745745
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- 3y
I know it’s not a competition... I just feel lonely because I’m constantly reminded that the holidays are about romance and how am I supposed to celebrate when I don’t have a girlfriend, I’m 4 hours away from my family for university, and I don’t have any friends? Not to mention with the HOCD it makes things feel real and makes me feel like crap... 😭😭😭
Bookworm91Bookworm91
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- 3y
@POCD/RealEventOCD Oh please no they’re not. Or at least they aren’t SOLEY about romance. How’re you supposed to celebrate? Do you want a gf just cause you’re lonely, as a place holder? Or because you want to share a life with someone? As for celebrating with no friends. buy a special dinner, watch your favorite movie, play video games, video chat people from home. go home for holidays if you can.
Bookworm91Bookworm91
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- 3y
@POCD/RealEventOCD I can empathize with SO-OCD, which I prefer to call it, but like I said singlehood may not be fun but there are worse things
745745
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- 3y
@Bookworm91 I want a girlfriend to emotionally connect with someone. Spending my life with the girl of my dreams would be something beautiful that I would love to have... I don’t have a car so I can’t drive anywhere, I don’t really have the time for video games due to finals and such, and my dads busy at work all day and so is my mom. So they never really spend time with me and my sister on the holidays...
745745
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- 3y
@Bookworm91 I also have POCD and real event OCD... so my life doesn’t feel great in any way...
Bookworm91Bookworm91
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- 3y
@POCD/RealEventOCD Well maybe it’s better that you’re single at the moment until everything settles a bit. You seem to have a lot going on. And another human brings with them their own issues that will inevitably add to yours. Not that there aren’t people worth handling that kind of stuff for but still maybe it’s good that you don’t have any added stuff to deal with. How old are you out of curiosity?
745745
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- 3y
@Bookworm91 20 years old... The fact I’m dealing with heartbreak over the holidays just sucks... 😭😭😭 and it’s not because I’m trying to find a replacement for the girl that rejected me... it’s because I genuinely want emotional connection with a girl who understands me 😭😭😭
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