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- OCD Conqueror
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Same! Except I’m a girl fearing I’m a lesbian. But every time I wake up I analyze my dreams and sometimes I didn’t dream about anything related to HOCD so I Can calm myself down and have a good day but sometimes I do dream about stuff related to HOCD and it turns into a bad day/spiral.
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I am just avoiding seeing any men at this point , which is bad , sometimes it feels like I’m attracted to just every guy and that makes me so annoying cause I’ve never been attracted to men before and I know what it’s like to be attracted towards a girl and feeling good about that so I attach to that
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Hi is there any way you could help me? I posted something two hours ago and I really need help
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@2022Recovery Don’t avoid, the more you avoid the worse it will be. You have to do erp and purposely go in public, purposely see men; and then not react to the triggers
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@Justmesadly How can I do ERP by myself ?
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@2022Recovery The same way you do erp with a therapist watching, a therapist can’t do erp for you so you don’t need a therapist to do erp. This app has erp help for you, click on tools and use the erp help too, it tells you exactly what to do! And like I said to in public, see men, watch tv shows with gay men, whatever of these things that cause a low amount of anxiety not spiraling !
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@Justmesadly But I feel like there is no difference in this than just creating more problems , like everytime I go out in public I get desperate and it doesn’t get better when I get home
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@2022Recovery For assistance with doing ERP without a therapist, my therapist recommended "The OCD Workbook, 3rd edition" by Bruce Hymen PhD. It teaches you about OCD, walks you through doing your hierarchy, building exposures, exercises to do, how to do exposures, identifying the type of thoughts you have (like magical thinking, overestimating danger, etc.),
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@ReadyForImprovement I use it now that I have more than a month between sessions and it helps keep me on track.
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@2022Recovery Erp is not creating more problems, it helps so that you’re not anxious anymore when you have the thoughts that induced anxiety. What do you mean you get desperate?
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@Justmesadly When I go on the streets and I see men or watch movies I get anxious and when I stay in home I would be anxious but less
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@2022Recovery Oh okay good! That’s what I’m talking about! Go on the streets where you see men, go in stores where you see men and sit with the anxiety, don’t allow yourself to ruminate just do something else and allow the thoughts to be there. That’s the best erp
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@Justmesadly Ok , so I should do that and what else ? Should I record tapes and listen over and over again ? I want to get better but this is hard
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@2022Recovery If that causes anxiety then yes! You want erp to cause anxiety around 3-4 out of 10! So not spiraling but uncomfortable! That’s where you grow and get rid of the anxiety ! If you use the erp tool on the app they have lots of good examples based on your own hierarchy
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SAME. its like all the work we do gets undone over night
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I get where you’re coming from
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I won’t explain this again if you’ve been or going through it you know what I’m talking about. I felt good about women about an hour ago and now I’m worrying again I’m anxious and the groinals are back and it’s so annoying because I can’t study. And honestly I’m so sick and tired of this. I’ve been a girl crazy my whole life and my mind randomly decides “well what if you are gay” like bro. I’ve never seen a guy that way and in general IT WAS NEVER SOMETHING I THOUGHT ABOUT OR ASSOCIATED MYSELF WITH. IVE NEVER FELT ANYTHING TOWARDS A MAN AND NOW IT FEELS LIKE IT RANDOMLY FLIPPED. I CANT DO THIS BRO. WHY WOULD THIS HAPPEN IVE BEEN GOING THROUGH INSECURITIES ALREADY AND MY ATTRACTION WAS THE ONLY REAL THING I HAD LEFT AND NOW THIS. HOW MUCH DO YOU HATE ME GOD.
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So my OCD has been bad lately. I’ve been ruminating and obsessing over my sexuality again. And it just keeps getting worse. I hate it so much. I try to sit with the discomfort but then my ocd does the backdoor spike. And the groinal response is what keeps me looped. It SUCKS. I am not attracted to men, but my OCD is trying SO hard to convince me that I am. There have been days where I’m just so mentally exhausted that I “accept” what my ocd tells me and I just walk around a hollow, lethargic shell. But then I rethink it and I feel better. It feels like I can only find my TRUE self when I tire my nervous system out enough that it literally breaks down and has me suicidal and hopeless. And then accepting my OCD’s “truth” (that I’m attracted to men) feels like a burden and a chore. I woke up today from an OCD dream, tried to go back to sleep, and my stomach kept cramping bc I was so anxious and ruminating over my intrusive thoughts. I’m starting to doubt it being OCD anymore. My brain is too tired to fight and cry about it anymore.
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So over all of this. Why do periods have to make everything so much worse. I keep thinking that I can get over an intrusive thought and then the next one comes in. My brain tries to make be obsess over something that i've already obsessed about and moved on from. Wish this could be over.
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