I’m so upset. After years of battling my feelings about relationships and sexuality because of OCD I finally find a guy I have a huge crush on and he asked me out, gave me loads of compliments and was lovely and sweet. And he’s just ghosted me :( I feel like giving up. I’m 22 and never been in a relationship- barley kissed a guy! I feel like I’m destined to be alone and watch all my friends grow up without me. To make things worst I’ve just tested positive for covid too :’( I’m so sad

Getting ghosted is the pits. I have ROCD and on a couple of occasions I made a connection with a woman and the she dropped off the face of the earth. Then I matched with a woman and had my first sexual experience at the age of 36! Then my ROCD kicked in and I balied :-( That eventually spiraled into my current gender identity OCD troubles. But, now I know that that was OCD! So I am in ERP and things are getting better! Get well soon and take care of yourself.

bailed, not balied, lol

@djh123 Awh I’m so sorry that you’ve been through this too :( seems to happen to me all the time and it gets me down so badly. Can’t stop crying about how obvsioily worthless I am

@Melodyocd Obviously *

@Melodyocd - I am so sorry to hear that, and I empathize with feeling worthless or unwanted. I try to tell myself that I am a good person no matter if anyone is attracted to me or not. (Easier said than done sometimes, haha.)

@djh123 Haha yes I try and do the same but society today puts so much pressure on relationships it’s so tricky not to get brainwashed by it all!

Hi there! Thank you so much for being willing to share on here. I’m so sorry you’re experiencing so much distress right now. Being ghosted is absolutely the worst. It happened to me just about two weeks ago for about the 79th time, and it never gets easier. I’ve had to come up with some exposures with my therapist around my fear of being alone. As distressing as that seems, it might be something that you wanna look into. Those exposures an exercises will be distressing at first, but it will decrease your distress over time. I’m so sorry that you just tested positive for Covid I had Covid this time last year, and it just sucked. Allow yourself to be upset and don’t push away these feelings. Honor the feelings but don’t live in them. I can promise you it won’t be like this forever! Keep your eye on the prize. You’re doing a fabulous job already!