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I can definitely relate to this, although Iām 30. Really relate to all Iāve ever wanted has been that story. Now when I picture my future, I canāt picture anything at all. My OCD is using that against me.
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i think it is super important to remember that our subtypes are only a small portion of what we need to focus on when having OCD. it is common that when we have OCD, our themes will change. this is because OCD is trying to find the next topic to cause anxiety. you need to look at all your OCD thoughts as the same - they're just thoughts and they need to be handled similarly even when different subtypes pop up. i can tell you that in this post, i can sense you doing a really big compulsion - ruminating. youre looking for answers within your thoughts, and that is where OCD is catching you. don't give answers and just accept that you have these thoughts.
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Hi Jesse! Do you have an answer of whatās our āregularā thoughts and whatās our OCD thoughts? Iām having troubles with that.
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Thank you so much for commenting! š„°
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@WhyMe? Hey! Iāve learned to realize Iām not always sure what my OCD thoughts are and what my regular thoughts are. I can sometimes tell what my OCD thoughts are because I get stuck trying to solve them, and then I remind myself I donāt have to! Itās just a thought like the rest of them.
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@Jesse Miller Thank you Jesse, youāre such an inspiration to this community. Definitely have to learn that thoughts are just thoughts. One day Iāll get to where youāre at. Take care! š
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@WhyMe? I appreciate you so much! You for sure will get there one day š
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Itās annoying and it can really make you doubt your feelings. Confusion can happen too. Iāve had SOOCD for over a year now but it went away until this year, until I was finally diagnosed. This flare has been going on for 4 months now with ERP + therapy combined. Iām 28 and newly engaged to my fiancĆ©, who was my bf for 7.5 years. I also know these feelings and doubts doesnāt last forever but itās definitely hard and challenging š i feel you and hope for the best, keep pushing yourself š
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Thank you!! It always makes me feel less alone when I hear about others who go through SOOCD and especially people who go through it when theyāre also in relationships. Congratulations on youāre engagement š„° and sending love for healing!!
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@Anonymous Iām glad it helped you feel less alone! NOCD also have free support groups & thereās a group every Monday + tues for sexual content. I especially love the Tuesday group, the therapist who host it is hilarious and also has OCD herself. Thank you for the congratulations š„° take care! š
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Sending love to you both! It gives me hope for my future.
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Same! Thank you both for sharing āŗļø
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Iāve had so many moments of clarity with my OCD that I love my boyfriend and Iām beyond willing to go through this to be better and be with him. in the back of mind Iāve in a way known I was at least somewhat sexually attracted to women (Iām a woman) since the start of the ocd it was always like āokay. Fine, but I donāt want to date a girlā I only just realized this after the ocd started, I never really argued with this. my ocd has always revolved around if Iām romantically interested in women and not men. Iāve done so many compulsions through this year and a half and 9 times out of 10 have come to the conclusion that I donāt want to be with a woman romantically. I always end up feeling like I know I love my boyfriend. But the doubts donāt stop about whether I want to spend my life with a woman instead, my heart literally breaks to think of not being with my bf and imagining him with someone else. I donāt want to be with a woman I know deep down somewhere underneath the anxiety that thatās not what I want. It doesnāt feel natural for me, unfulfilling. I want to tell my boyfriend about the possible sexual attraction to women (ik itās still ocd related) but Iām scared that once I tell him, Iāll realize that I actually do want to be with women and not with him. Ugh Iāve spent hours today ruminating about this after being solid in my commitment with him for a little while, Iām stuck in this loop and idk how to get out right now
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For the past 3 months ish Iāve been struggling on and off with this anxiety and fixation over my relationship. To wondering if i still have feelings for an old friend, wondering if i actually love him, wondering if the thoughts are all real and im just trying to cover it up with ocd. It sucks, when im talking to my boyfriend i feel fine. The words i love you and talks about the future come naturally. I canāt imagine myself with anyone but him. But this constant rumination on my relationship is KILLING me and Iām scared itās going to ruin what i have. It makes me numb and disconnected which therefore makes me believe the thoughts even more. They just feel so real sometimes and itās so scary like why can i not just enjoy it. Weāve been together for a while so i know thereās periods of like feelings ebb and flowing but this is so much more. Itās just constantly sitting on my chest with anxiety. My compulsions are coming on this app, looking at photos of us and confessing it to him. Heās very understanding and helpful. I love him so much. I just need help / Iām also just starting new meds as well ..
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Iām 25 and never ever thought this before my soocd relapse. I have a bf of 5 years. Never been a high libido kinda girl. Donāt get me wrong I do get turned on by my bf but not like every day you know? - That had always been in the back of my head, is this normal and ok? But my ocd has latched onto the most scariest what if EVER. My brain is now saying How do you know you wonāt prefer to sleep and kiss girls if you havenāt tried it: and itās that unknown that is scaring the shit out of me. I DONT AND NEVER HAVE wanted to sleep / kiss a girl. But now my intrusive thoughts is all I think about!!! I donāt want I donāt want I donāt want??? So why does my brain think BUT WHAT IF??? I know ocd thrives off uncertainty which is why I think this is happening? But I donāt wanna find out or work it out because all I want is to be with my bf and marry him!! Is this just the epitome of OCD?
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