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I can definitely relate to this, although Iām 30. Really relate to all Iāve ever wanted has been that story. Now when I picture my future, I canāt picture anything at all. My OCD is using that against me.
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i think it is super important to remember that our subtypes are only a small portion of what we need to focus on when having OCD. it is common that when we have OCD, our themes will change. this is because OCD is trying to find the next topic to cause anxiety. you need to look at all your OCD thoughts as the same - they're just thoughts and they need to be handled similarly even when different subtypes pop up. i can tell you that in this post, i can sense you doing a really big compulsion - ruminating. youre looking for answers within your thoughts, and that is where OCD is catching you. don't give answers and just accept that you have these thoughts.
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Hi Jesse! Do you have an answer of whatās our āregularā thoughts and whatās our OCD thoughts? Iām having troubles with that.
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Thank you so much for commenting! š„°
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@WhyMe? Hey! Iāve learned to realize Iām not always sure what my OCD thoughts are and what my regular thoughts are. I can sometimes tell what my OCD thoughts are because I get stuck trying to solve them, and then I remind myself I donāt have to! Itās just a thought like the rest of them.
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@Jesse Miller Thank you Jesse, youāre such an inspiration to this community. Definitely have to learn that thoughts are just thoughts. One day Iāll get to where youāre at. Take care! š
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@WhyMe? I appreciate you so much! You for sure will get there one day š
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Itās annoying and it can really make you doubt your feelings. Confusion can happen too. Iāve had SOOCD for over a year now but it went away until this year, until I was finally diagnosed. This flare has been going on for 4 months now with ERP + therapy combined. Iām 28 and newly engaged to my fiancĆ©, who was my bf for 7.5 years. I also know these feelings and doubts doesnāt last forever but itās definitely hard and challenging š i feel you and hope for the best, keep pushing yourself š
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Thank you!! It always makes me feel less alone when I hear about others who go through SOOCD and especially people who go through it when theyāre also in relationships. Congratulations on youāre engagement š„° and sending love for healing!!
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@Anonymous Iām glad it helped you feel less alone! NOCD also have free support groups & thereās a group every Monday + tues for sexual content. I especially love the Tuesday group, the therapist who host it is hilarious and also has OCD herself. Thank you for the congratulations š„° take care! š
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Sending love to you both! It gives me hope for my future.
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Same! Thank you both for sharing āŗļø
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having so-ocd has to be the hardest thing ever, and having different sub types pop out after is even harder. i want these thoughts to stop, when i think about ending up with a man i feel like itās the end of the world, when a sexual or romantic thought about a man pops up i feel like throwing and my stomach hurts. i donāt want to be straight or end up with a man. i know my body knows what it wants and thatās why itās making me anxious and stressed but i just want this ocd to stop, i miss who i was before this. are there any tips on how to battle SO-OCD and be back to who you were? i was in remission for almost a month and the thoughts that did come i didnāt care for, but itās back harder this time.
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people who have so-ocd, do you feel like youāre lying to your partner secretly. i donāt know why i get these intrusive thoughts but my mind continuously keeps making scenarios where i will leave my girlfriend in the future for a man. i want to stay a lesbian forever and i donāt want to hurt my girlfriend and it makes me so upset that my brain makes these thoughts up. i really hate all these thoughts and i donāt want to be with a man, i donāt want to be attracted with one, i donāt want to like one or anything related to one.
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Hello everyone, I just wanted to share a part of my journey that Iām struggling with right now. Iāve been diagnosed with ocd and while this is not my first subtype, ROCD and so ocd have definitely been the ones Iāve been struggling with the most. For context I have a boyfriend who I love very much and am terrified of loosing. Thatās probably what ocd latched onto. The so-ocd especially is tricky because Iāve come to acknowledge that I am bisexual. Donāt worry I didnāt ādiscoverā this through ocd, Iāve always known and itās been in the back of my mind way before ocd, I had just never really directly acknowledged it because romantically I just always leaned towards men. The thing my ocd latched onto is āwhat if you are actually a lesbian and donāt know it yet and will have to leave your partner or are lying to your partner or end up leading him onā The thing is, I donāt have much experience with women except kissing my female best friend once, which didnāt feel special or made me have romantic feelings for her. Iāve always seeked men more actively than women and didnāt feel like I was gonna miss out if I get into a serious relationship with a man before having had more experience. I just know that I can be sexually attracted to women as well. But now that Iām in this beautiful relationship Iām terrified of getting it wrong or having missed something about myself or being scared that Iām actually a lesbian and have been lying to myself all along. Iām not seeking reassurance, just wanting to share and maybe someone else is going through something similar? If so Iād be so grateful to know Iām not alone. I love my boyfriend dearly and i really hope we will work out in the long run.
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