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I can definitely relate to this, although Iām 30. Really relate to all Iāve ever wanted has been that story. Now when I picture my future, I canāt picture anything at all. My OCD is using that against me.
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i think it is super important to remember that our subtypes are only a small portion of what we need to focus on when having OCD. it is common that when we have OCD, our themes will change. this is because OCD is trying to find the next topic to cause anxiety. you need to look at all your OCD thoughts as the same - they're just thoughts and they need to be handled similarly even when different subtypes pop up. i can tell you that in this post, i can sense you doing a really big compulsion - ruminating. youre looking for answers within your thoughts, and that is where OCD is catching you. don't give answers and just accept that you have these thoughts.
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Hi Jesse! Do you have an answer of whatās our āregularā thoughts and whatās our OCD thoughts? Iām having troubles with that.
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Thank you so much for commenting! š„°
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@WhyMe? Hey! Iāve learned to realize Iām not always sure what my OCD thoughts are and what my regular thoughts are. I can sometimes tell what my OCD thoughts are because I get stuck trying to solve them, and then I remind myself I donāt have to! Itās just a thought like the rest of them.
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@Jesse Miller Thank you Jesse, youāre such an inspiration to this community. Definitely have to learn that thoughts are just thoughts. One day Iāll get to where youāre at. Take care! š
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@WhyMe? I appreciate you so much! You for sure will get there one day š
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Itās annoying and it can really make you doubt your feelings. Confusion can happen too. Iāve had SOOCD for over a year now but it went away until this year, until I was finally diagnosed. This flare has been going on for 4 months now with ERP + therapy combined. Iām 28 and newly engaged to my fiancĆ©, who was my bf for 7.5 years. I also know these feelings and doubts doesnāt last forever but itās definitely hard and challenging š i feel you and hope for the best, keep pushing yourself š
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Thank you!! It always makes me feel less alone when I hear about others who go through SOOCD and especially people who go through it when theyāre also in relationships. Congratulations on youāre engagement š„° and sending love for healing!!
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@Anonymous Iām glad it helped you feel less alone! NOCD also have free support groups & thereās a group every Monday + tues for sexual content. I especially love the Tuesday group, the therapist who host it is hilarious and also has OCD herself. Thank you for the congratulations š„° take care! š
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Sending love to you both! It gives me hope for my future.
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Same! Thank you both for sharing āŗļø
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As a lesbian with SO-OCD, I feel so helpless. It's truly exhausting because no one I know understands what I'm going through. The first response is always, "You're just confused" or "You don't have to know yet." But that's not the issue, I do know. I just never see any lesbians with SO-OCD so I feel so invalidated. These thoughts flood my brain constantly, forcing me to analyze my reactions to every man I see. I feel trapped in an endless cycle of "testing" myself, trying to prove that I don't like them. But my brain fights back, telling me I do want to love a man, making it feel real even though don't want it. It's terrifying. At this point, it's hard to even hold onto my identity as a lesbian because I'm so overwhelmed. I don't know if this is what real attraction is supposed to feel like, and that fear eats away at me. The truth is, when I think about being with a man, all I feel is disgust and fear-but my brain twists that into doubt. I hate it. I'm at the point where I'm scared I'm going to have to accept something I don't want because I don't know if this will ever go away. I miss who I was before all this.
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