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How do you feel when you're with her? What kind of thoughts are running through your head?
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Lately, I've been overthinking everything. "She touched my chest. I should like that" basically that for everything. I can have a good time with sex but it feels like I can't finish you know
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I do know, do you feel like you're enjoying it and then you over think it and you stop enjoying it?
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Yep. Every time
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I've had issues with that as well. I've come to realize when you spend your time thinking you're not really giving yourself a chance to feel anything but the feelings that come from the thing you're thinking about. How long have you been going through this?
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2 ish years
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It's been over 3 for me now. The first year was with my ex and the last 2 plus years have been with my wife. To be honest I'm not even convinced rocd exists anymore. However if it does, there is no way on hell I don't have it lol. I noticed it says sexual orientation ocd as well. Do you have thoughts that you may be gay and if so what makes you feel that way?
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- 3y
I get alot of arousal and physical sensations when I think of men. I don't like it and I've tried to accept it but I just don't want to be with a guy
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Have you always found guys attractive?
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If it makes you both feel any better I had to check nearly every box when I downloaded this app. Ocd thoughts manifest in so many different ways The clue for myself that it’s my ocd and not really true is if a thought is obsessive chances are it’s probably also rooted in my ocd. Whether it be relationship wise, related to being a parent, identifying false threats in people, false memories, purity ocd, religious ocd, afraid my thoughts will become real if they’re a bad one etc chances are if you’re sitting here analyzing and questioning it’s the ocd these are more subsects of ocd thoughts and actions but it’s all ocd
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Thanks man, that was nice to read
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Yeah, I needed that
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@Exoduslevi It will help to stop analyzing yourself These are just thought you have and don’t have to act on them or even believe them. They are distressing to you because ocd likes to make you think what is most scary to you. A small thought or fear becomes something to analyze something to “make true” rather than how lost people can say “geesh that was a weird thought” and move on. We can’t do that. So often times a normal thought or random brain poop I call it will lead to us questioning what it means, we then give it power as if it is “real”, we then fear it more, which causes more distress, which causes us to obsess etc etc When you get the urge to “check your thoughts or actions or feelings” to “make sure you are or aren’t something” That’s the time to try and distract and avoid tell yourself brain no. I don’t need to solve anything let the thoughts Pass try and not put more analyszing into the physical and emotional discomfort the thoughts cause I used to have to hide all the knives in my house at night. Then I realize o didn’t “have” to I just did it because it made me feel better. By not allowing myself to do that anymore I have slowly learned to deal with that one fear. Many others take its place and the fear still exists except I am better at allowing that fear to flow through me and have stop compulsions to alleviate it etc Find the areas in which you comulse mentally or even physcially and try your best to slowly try and do something else when those issues arise—art, reading, singing, walking anything to distract. He talking to yourself out loud if you had to. And it sound silly but if I have to I say inside my head like scream it stop stop and distract every single time it happens. Eventually things slowly get better and even thought the thoughts will always be there you’ll get better at not giving into analyzing them. And the soecific thoughts will occur less. The more you can learn not to “fear” whatever it is you’re thinking the less power your ocd will have. I try just saying to myself so what! I’m in control of my actions and who I want to be. And I repeat that type thing a lot when it gets bad
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@hurticanekat524 Thanks man
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@hurticanekat524 - Very well said! Sums up OCD’s bullying, and how to cope with it and recovery so well. I still have to verbally shout at myself sometimes when I notice I am giving into my compulsions. The thoughts never truly go away, but eventually the volume on them has gotten turned down and they don’t cause me nearly as much anxiety as they used to. And @Exoduslevi, my OCD definitely gets much worse when I am stressed and/or tired. I have had those times when the intrusive thoughts or just some minor distraction while I am being intimate with my girlfriend will take me down a rabbit hole and complete take me out of the moment and I absolutely hate it. Trying to not focus or give those thoughts any weight is definitely key, but it so much easier said than done.
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@DB444 It will get better you’re in a really bad spot right now I go through phases like this and YES I DO FEEL YHE LOVE AGAIN AND FEEL BETTER in moments that I do not give my ocd power. It will take a lot of work but once this bad blip passes you will be able to see more clearly For now just know you can’t really think clear just take it one second at a time. If your kissing and you find yourself analyzing etc try to being yourself back into the moment and say ok I cannot enjoy love or feel it if I’m battling my own mind every second and. It allowing myself to “feel” I hope that makes sense and gives you comfort. And you will question the comfort it gives you but you’re ok. It will all be ok.
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By asking these questions you’re analyzing yourself. It is your OCD. What you are experiencing is absolutely what many of us go through all the time. Who hve to stop questioning for now even if you do not believe yourself you hve got to try to accept the ocd is causing you distress in your life and relationship. And try your beat to do what you can to keep yourself busy. Try. It to research or even do this app too much if you find that you are only commenting to “check” yourself, or to “get reassurance”. That part of our brain is literally broken, we do not feel reassurance. So you feeling halfway comforted by what we are saying but also questioning but is it really just the ocd? IS IN FACT YOUR OCD. Take care honey
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- 20w
Do you ever feel like you wonder if your ocd would be less if you were with someone else? Or would it be better if you were with someone else? I’m really upset because I used to be able to enjoy myself even with the anxiety and now it’s like i am just analyzing and I don’t have feelings and I’m irritated because there’s things that frustrate me about him that I don’t like and my brain says if I was with someone else I would be able to deal with those things better and that we just aren’t right for each other. And the thoughts that used to make me anxious about breaking up don’t like it’s really me that feels it. I know no relationship is perfect but it’s like my brain keeps saying with someone else I wouldn’t feel like this or I would but I’d be able to handle it better. It feels like I have to just start fresh with someone new cause the ocd got too into this to the point where I don’t feel or even know what’s real. It feels like fear and anxiety and just being so into this has just made me feel not into this anymore but idk if I’m thinking right. It’s also just warped the way I see him like I only see the negatives and my brain keeps saying you don’t feel this cause it’s wrong. And it’s depressing bc of how happy and safe I used to feel. I’m supposed to see him soon and it’s like I want to but also don’t because I feel like things have changed unless that’s just something I made in my head and cause I don’t feel the feelings I used to. But then I think I will just be this way with someone else but then my brain says otherwise and it’s so confusing. People keep telling me not to make decisions because I’m fogged but it feels like I’m not. Like my brain is manipulating me. And also like all the things I used to like I’ve somehow turned into like distaste which is so upsetting. I would like to think this is just ocd taking control and confusing me and distorting my perspective but I’m scared it’s not and that my feelings are gone. Has anyone experienced this but it was still ocd?
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I know it’s long but plz read :( have been having really bad ocd about my relationship and my partner and it has gotten worse and worse over the span of like about nine months I’d say. I do acknowledge there are flaws and legit issues about him and the relationship like there are with anyone but I also know ocd has clouded my judgement and perception by analyzing everything and compulsions. For a while I kept feeling this need to get out which I know was ocd. I was really scared to spend the weekend with him because I thought I would just be annoyed and irritated cause it’s been that way for a while but he also was going through a period of high stress so maybe I was resenting him for that and I also wasn’t communicating how I should have been when I was upset because I’ve done that too much in the past. This weekend I was told in therapy to just be in the moment and not have to worry about trying to answer the question of do I love him or should I break up. It did help but It’s weird cause this weekend ended up better but I also was kind of numb? Like I was enjoying myself but didn’t feel what I always have felt in the past? Anyway, I am really anxious because i feel like if I loved him I would be supportive of when his parents compliment him or when he does well at something when instead all I think of are that I’m not happy or annoyed because of things he does that upset me or make me mad and it’s like that’s the only way my brain wants to see him as a person. Or when he is upset it feels like I don’t care like I used to because I think of how he doesn’t deserve this when he does this or he shouldn’t have this when he is like this etc. Why does my brain automatically go there? That’s horrible! I feel like I should be excited for him, rooting for him. But it also feels like I do care for him? But my thoughts keep changing. I am afraid I only am with him because I love that he loves me and how he treats me. This makes me feel selfish cause I can’t do that. I notice I still like when he cuddles me and is sweet to me and does fun things watching movies etc. And that’s not how it used to feeel which scares me because I don’t want to be without him. I also love his parents am I only with him cause of how his parents treat me? I feel so selfish and like I have to tell him and break up with him cause it’s the right thing to do. I never used to feel like this. I’m scared. Is it possible I’m just I’ve been mad and resenting how it’s been cause he’s been stressed mix with my ocd? My therapist said relationships can go through phases. Can I fall back in love with him again? I feel like I have to try to start with someone else like this is too far gone. I don’t want to stay in something where I don’t feel toward him the way I want to but I really don’t want to leave him. I feel like such an awful person cause he doesn’t deserve this and is so caring and loving despite everything the major thing that bugs me is how he gets irritable a lot which is an imperfection that makes me get anxious and question him😭 trying not to read into this and just follow what the therapist said but this is scaring me because I feel like if I loved him I wouldn’t think like this or feel like this.
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- 13w
One of my ocd symptoms is hyperfixations, and i fixate on my girlfriend’s face- like, itd as if my ocd tries figuring out if something’s wrong This has caused me to avoid looking at her because ocd numbs my feelings from the anxiety- i have difficulty video calling, she doesn’t mind at all cause she doesn’t really video call w me (were in an ldr, she just doesnt really mind it at all) but i still mind. I love her, shes my beautiful princess and it enfuriates me that i cant get in touch with my real feelings cause of this :’( Same thing is happening with like, intrusive feelings aggainst her like random irritability- its so exhausting, im very tired, but im NOT irritated at her. Its disgusting how repulsive i feel to certain actions she does when she asks me for help, like, its as if I’m anxious and overwhelmed cause I have to help her with a lot of stuff, but I am not irritated or mad at her, thats intrusive :’( but it bugs me that its here :’( She knows about my intrusive feelings im just so frustrated
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