Is it common with ROCD to only have negative thoughts about your relationship? I love my gf and I can say a lot of things I think are great about her. Yet all of my "natural" thoughts are just about the relationship failing, and me focusing on my mistakes and feeling guilty (OCD has helped me make a lot of mistakes) and thinking negatively about her even though it makes me feel crappy because I just want to think positive things. I am starting to get so anxious before going to sleep and waking up because I am struggling to deal with everyday feeling this way. Sometimes I want to breakup with her just so all this shit in my head will go away. Then I feel guilty for thinking that because I love her and want to make things good.

*I genuinely fear waking up the next day, and am genuinely overwhelmed with anxiety the next morning because I don't feel like I can do another day of this. It makes me wish I was dead sometimes.

Yes that’s exactly what relationship ocd is 😔

Thank you! Can it also make these thoughts constant and not the same thought over and over? Can it be constant different thoughts that you disagree with? They come in clusters for me and I hate it

@AnonOCDsufferer Yes I literally had to check like almost all the boxes when I downloaded this app. My thoughts just go wild and it can be in every category and every way The main clue is when it’s just obsessive sometimes it’s the same thought or many thoughts related to the same thing Like constantly questioning certain things all day long due to a specific fear or thought Or a specific fear or thought repeating It can go both ways I get it sensationally as well and it’s very distressing You are not alone

@hurticanekat524 Thing that helps me most is trying to distract myself in the moment and trying to repeat to myself like this is my ocd it’s ok. Try it to give it too much power too much truth. The more you can try and let the thoughts pass and distract yourself from the distressful feeling the less the thoughts will happen. It’s a constant daily battle but some Of my scarier thoughts that were debilitating I am better at not allowing to take me as far down the rabbit hole

@hurticanekat524 By sensationally do you mean you can get a feeling that then turns into thoughts? Sometimes I will look at my girlfriend and then immediately feel down and alone and then I will get intrusive thoughts that don't stop for the rest of the day

@AnonOCDsufferer Hey! I am an ROCD sufferer whatever you said is relatable to me and I have been suffering from this almost for 3 months. Saying it’s just OCD might not always be helpful but you have try to live with like oh it’s ocd again but let the thoughts flow and just remember these are just thoughts and they don’t mean anything.

@hurticanekat524 I agree with you. Hope we all get better ❤️‍🩹

@Stardale21 Yeahhh, it's tough reminding myself that they are intrusive thoughts because since I was little I have always thought like this, so I just assumed I was a bad person for thinking this was and that I was insane. So I kind of accepted it as me, not a disorder... the problem is I now have to try and draw the line between me and it - when we are so mixed together

@AnonOCDsufferer *thinking this way

@AnonOCDsufferer I totally get you. Don’t worry. Whenever you start having intrusive thoughts take out a moment and say out loud it’s OCD not me. Then let the thoughts revolve around you. Honestly your thoughts doesn’t have any power over you. I understood this concepts 2 days back lol. Why don’t you try Self erp? I am doing the same and ngl it has helped me so much in just 1 day.

@SuzyBae I am glad it works for you! I am worried I might make things worse for myself. When I start ERP I might think about doing it myself.

@AnonOCDsufferer Yes that’s what I mean I get sensations and those can trigger ocd thoughts or o get thoughts that trigger sensations that trigger more thoughts You are not alone

@SuzyBae Yes exactly try let the thoughts flow when you can try not to analyze if you can catch yourself analyzing try to distract etc

I am always here if you wanna vent out ✌🏻

Thank youuuuuu

With all of my education and learning from NOCD I want to share some insight. There is no answer to satisfy OCD. So here is my suggestion as I am not a NOCD therapist but have gone through therapy. I would say to try your best to not analyze by placing your attention elsewhere as it can lead to emotional reasoning. It really begins with consistently practicing foundational steps whatever that looks like for you. Educating yourself, learning with a NOCD therapist, attending webinars, etc. I read an article yesterday by a Dr. Greenberg about rumination and it really covers how even asking things like this are typically forms of rumination and analyzing. So instead how about you sit with the doubt, discomfort, anxiety, and get back to whatever it is you were doing before. Were you reading, eating, exercising?… good, go and do something for yourself, not to avoid thoughts…but to focus on what actually matters to you.