Can OCD make you fall out love with your partner. When I'm not with her it feels like there's just nothing there anymore. I used to feel so involve with her id even cry and not it feels like nothing is there. It feels like her love for me is getting stronger and my love for her is just disappearing. I find her attractive still but it feels like the romance has gone. And sometimes it feels like I just don't care, it feels like I'm just in this relationship for no reason and that hurts me. How can I go from being so deeply madly in love to feeling next to nothing. And with the HOCD as well it just feels like this is all just the process of 'finding my sexuality,' but it just doesn't feel fair it feels like a cruel trick that life has played on me. Making me feel like I want to spend the rest of my life with someone and then slowly taking It all away and deciding that actually I don't want it at all. When I see attractive women I still get turned on but it just feels dead, and like id rather be with a man now. WHAT'S GOING ON! And even as I'm writing this It feels like denial like Im just saying this to hide from the truth. My brain is saying "you don't really think this, you're just saying this to hide from the truth."

chattachana

157d ago

Hi, love is not a feeling, it's a choice. Feelings fluctuates from day to day, going from apathy, love, hate, neutrality. We all go through this. But you choose to stay, love is choosing to be with someone regardless of the so called "love feeling".

Bookworm91

157d ago

No. I think it can just make you feel bad and disconnected from you’re real emotions

BradOCD

157d ago

So that must mean I actually am not in love, or have never been now.

Bookworm91

157d ago

@BradOCD No. I meant your lvoe is real. The good and the positive the stuff that made you feel like you THATS the real sruff

Bookworm91

157d ago

@BradOCD Is there any way you could help me with the post I just made?

BradOCD

157d ago

@Bookworm91 But now when I look back was so many signs and it just feels like I was living a lie that I loved. Idk

BradOCD

157d ago

@Bookworm91 Yeah I’ll try and find it

justlive

157d ago

OCD tries to take the things that mean most to you and twist it. Love is not always this crazy amount of emotions. You aren't always going to feel those butterflies or intense feeling of madly in love. Love means different things to different people. Ask yourself what does love mean to you. Does it mean being comfortable with the person you are with, being able to open up and be honest, being able to be yourself, enjoying their company, etc. Love can come out in many different forms and ways. Don't beat yourself up over what you are feeling. Try and be comfortable with the uncertainty of life and OCD. Be patient and kind to yourself when you feel OCD flaring up.