Being a priority always meant being loved for me. It's my way to express feelings too. But not for my bf! He always want space, and doing things alone. This makes me doubt a lot if he loves me or not. But than I realised it is his decision: if he doesn't love me he will leave me,( I can't leave because he doesn't love me, it wouldn't have sense!) But he doesn't make me a priority and doesn't leave me. He loves me without making me a priority. I'm confuse. A lot. Should be like that in couples? You shouldn't be always a priority for the other?

Thank you!! Your words are really precious. 💖 I have to admit that I struggle a lot with thoose.. if you have some advices, to makes me accepting the "distances" that he takes, I would love it! For example, if you don't show your love with this, how do you show it? I know it sounds like a really stupid question; but I would really appreciate being able to feel loved even if I'm not a priority... maby I'm searching in the wrong "place"! We usually communicate really well; but when talking about feelings he puts up a wall; he try to avoid discussion so it is even harder for me😅

@Saraa I remind him in the little things that I am grateful for him all the time. By telling him verbally or with acts of service. I make his coffee, massage his hands, cook meals for him and all that. I live with him so inherently I'm always with him, but I like to isolate sometimes. When I know I need space I tell him directly. He knows this isn't about him, and I think he loves that I feel comfortable enough to be genuine and tell the truth about it, but sometimes I do feel bad because he, just like you, needs a lot more attention. It's really hard for me to give someone constant priority! But I am here for my boyfriend and the effort of being here is a lot of love as well.

@trying my fkn best You are right. Thank you so much again💖 Your bf is lucky to have you!!

I did! And mine is quality time! The problem with him is that if we talk about feelings, or about us, he became really rigid and closed... like if he puts up a wall! And for me is impossible to understand what he thinks!😅 Thank you for your answer! From your prospective, can I do/tell something to making him understanding better what I want... or to me, some advices to not being hurt by his "avoidant" behaviours! It's really a roallercoaster sometimes!

Mm I get it. But sometimes I get so mad, because we decided to do things togheter, and he does them alone by himself! Or maby he has to study, I give him a lot of space, but then in his free time/breaks he want to stay alone too! Yesterday he didn't find a minute for calling me, (even if I asked him, he text me back tho) and that make me feels so unspecial!! How do you deal when things like this happens? How can you sit with thoose feelings?