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Right so this is probably not going to be helpful and I’m trying not to give you reassurance but just know that the fact u have tried to rationalize this so much here means that it is ocd. What u have to do now is leave the thoughts in your head but don’t entertain them or try to rationalize them further. Just sit with the feeling maybe or maybe not which is REALLY horrible I know but trust me is the only way to get better. TLDR sit with the thoughts don’t entertain them and just let them pass by like clouds.
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I don’t know if this helps at all, because it’s a form of reassurance… but you said you’re 21 and 18 yr olds are actually in the same age range as you. 3 years is not a huge age difference so it’s not weird to be attracted to guys around your age. It’s the people who are older who target younger people and take advantage of them for control and harm. You’re just sexually exploring, I don’t think it’s wrong to have a small age gap
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irl i definitely get that and usually stick within a year or two in age range for people i date. It’s just in these fantasies it’s like late high school aged i guess because that’s what society portrays as “a normal and preferred” time for guys to lose their virginity. Even though of course it’s different for everyone. But like i said irl i don’t even really have any urge or want to take anyones virginity, i don’t even really enjoy the actual act of sex with guys for the most part. And would never do anything with a minor.
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Right out of gate it isn’t pedophilia if you’re scared of being attracted to teenagers. Pedos are attracted to pre-pubescent children. That’s the one and only definition.
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right, my pocd has kinda morphed into what i guess i would call ephebophelia ocd. makes it hard to even enjoy fiction as i’ve outaged most of my favorite fictional characters (especially in anime) and most underage characters in video games or cartoons can vaguely fit an age of ranges and are often portrayed as more mature than real teenagers.
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@Brain1 This is the exact same as me wow. It’s so hard to read or watch anything without feeling guilty about experiencing a single emotion lol
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@snva i totally feel that! and i can’t even like a character or have any positive emotion towards them without my ocd telling me it’s sexual attraction
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this is helpful, i’ve been on this ocd rodeo to know long enough reassurance isn’t helpful in the long run. Thank you for responding! :)
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No worries u can do this!!!!! Hang in there x
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Ive dealt with pocd for a very long time now and it gets more real as time goes on. I was watching a movie and I’ve read the books so I knew there was a kiss scene coming up.The actors and their characters are children but I was basically looking forward to the scene. Then as they were kissing, it looked kind of weird and mechanical because again the actor was technically still a child. And I let myself indulge and enjoy it, of how someone young was doing something sexual and adult like. Idk I feel like a fuckikg creep but I don’t WANT this. There was nothing intrusive about this, it’s just something creepy that I’ve done. I keep ruminating about it but still. I don’t identify myself by this mistake but it still sucks. My mind then went to children that I know, one girl and one boy, and them separately doing sexual things for the first time and navigating that and it feels like I like it but I don’t. It’s not as real as the movie scene because the fact I enjoyed the scene WAS real but it’s still stressing me out.
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Anyone with pocd in the subset of teens/ fear of being attracted to teens have any advice? I never see anyone talking about it and it’s making me go a lil cray lmao
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So I just read a Reddit post about how this guy found out that he was a pedo because of how he started feeling that he was still attracted to middle schoolers as a 14 year old in high school and it never changed even when he got into adulthood. I’m currently under the age of 16 and I’m worried of my attraction feelings I felt towards some kids I’ve seen on social media and real life, I’m not sure if they are false or not. I have gotten a diagnosis, I remember lying on 2 questions, saying I didn’t feel aroused and that i don’t enjoy the thoughts n feelings. I’m not sure if i enjoy the thoughts and feelings, and now im worried i about it, i dont feel worry dread panic or shame and disgust when I get those thoughts and feelings anymore. I also remember that when i was 14 I felt attracted to a 12 or 11 year old, i kept going back to look at her idk why, but i think that i was worried because I didn’t want to be attracted to younger aged ppl. Im worried that all of these feelings of attraction aren’t false and that they are a reflection of who i am. I do not wish to be a pedo, nor do I wish to like kids. I know that I won’t hurt kids, but I’m scared that I am a pedo because of the feelings I get. I don’t understand myself anymore, I hope it’s pocd not actual pedophilia, I don’t trust that diagnosis I got because of those 2 questions I lied on, I said that i don’t like those thoughts n feelings even though I don’t know if I really do or not, can someone please help me? Idk what I have anymore, I don’t want it to be pedophilia
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