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We are under grace . As Christian’s we have grace , truth and love endlessly. You can’t perform to gains God’s attention . He is already proud of you . He loves you more than you know it . You are His beloved daughter and that’s what matters . As for obedience , we just obey Jesus’ commandments . He is our Lord ! Do you have a church that you belong to ? Getting some wisdom from others are going to mold and shape your mind . A lot of what you think isn’t healthy . As young Christians, we misinterpret scripture and we become fearful and we tirelessly try to prove ourselves to God and others . That’s not what God intends for us . Be beautiful because you are . Love others because you are loved . Forgive because our Father in Heaven forgives us . Serve others because , Christ served us . Love God & love people ! That’s what our God wants ! Focus on those things . When you develop a healthy relationship with God , you’ll have so much more freedom and discernment . You have such a beautiful heart because you care about this . God is about to use you in so many ways . He is so proud of you !
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I thank you so much god bless you all .
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@Janajana God bless you as well ! Keep posting . I want us to help one another . I also love making friends , reading scripture and helping others. It helps me .
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@Junior96! Yes , do you think me wanting praise (I hope it is the right word in english😅) and recognition for a gift I did for someone is wrong? I described a gift I bought someone I love in this thread, maybe you could say your opinion on it. I feel like I didn’t had my intentions clear when I bought it but it costed money and I’m sad Nö throwing it away :/
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@Janajana Now *
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What girl where you planning on giving
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Gifts**
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a key chain with the engraving: "drive carefully🥰your mouse❤️". Maybe I misinterpret what is a sin but I feel bad because I want the person I love to think about me, and i feel bad because only god „owns“ me but this person is a person I love so I put the word „your“
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Not at all . You just wanted recognition . If I give my wife a gift , I’d love for her to acknowledge me and say thank you . We have feelings , so when you do something nice for someone , you want to be happy and make them happy . You’re not boasting and you’re not having any bad intentions. It’s a win win for the giver and the receiver . You gave a nice gift and the person received a nice gift .
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It’s awesome to be happy when you do something nice for someone . You should be proud of yourself in a humble manner obviously, that you have a heart of kindness ! We need more generosity like you . Keep giving out of kindness and not to expect anything in return .
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Also , if you don’t mind me asking , how old are you ? I just believe that you could truly benefit from women and men , mostly women on being virtuous and walking with God . I believe it’ll help you . My wife had to do the same thing . I am still doing that myself
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Thank you very much for your response:) ! I‘m 17 so I‘m very young and I‘m open to learn more , I‘m very new to learning about getting that close to god and jesus
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Wow that’s awesome . You have such a lot to learn , I do as well , but it’s a blessing to know that you’re that young and searching for God ! I encourage you to get into small groups at your church . Get with women who are wise and can help you through scripture
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I hope I will find a good church. I‘ve always been Russian Orthodox but I do not agree with things like praying to biblical figures like the mother of Jesus. That’s why I’m careful with the people there. I hope I find some good open people who want to share there biblical wisdom with me. :)
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@Janajana I’ll be praying for you .
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@Junior96! Thank you .
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I've been doing more research on the ins and outs of Catholicism, and man are the guidelines very strict. They're not bad in any sense, and following them makes for a good person, but with ocd these guidelines seem near impossible to properly follow. For example, it's a mortal sin to have an impure thought, and commiting a mortal sin puts you in a state of sin. This means you cannot receive the eucharist (body of Christ) at mass, which is a way to connect closer to God. You have to confess in order to be free from mortal sin. This is fine and all, but this means in my case I'd have to confess almost every week, which can be so tiring. I'm not trying to bash on my own religion, but these guidelines make it so incredibly difficult for me to feel good about myself. Knowing I'm committing one of the worst forms of sin everyday. Intrusive thoughts are a constant thing, does that make me a child of sin? I even skipped mass today because I feel guilty about being in mortal sin, but skipping mass is also a mortal sin! I feel absolutely terrible about myself right now, and feel as if my connection with God has been cut and it's entirely my fault...
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Every single time me and my boyfriend do anything sexual, I feel really really guilty about it after. We’ve never had sex before but have done other things and I don’t feel guilty about it in the moment, but afterwards I feel guilty. I don’t necessarily regret doing it but I just feel horrible as a human. He does not push himself on me in anyway and I know it’s all a me thing. He is very cautious in making sure I’m comfortable and feel okay, but I don’t start feeling guilty until afterwards. I feel like this always relates back to my faith, which has recently fallen off. I feel like I can’t talk to anyone about this because I always get told the benefits of waiting for marriage. And honestly I do understand that, but I don’t know that I want to wait. I feel like people keep shoving “waiting for marriage” down my throat and it draws me so much further from Christianity and makes things so much harder to feel close to God again. I just feel so lonely in feeling these things and scared I’m going to hell if I keep doing stuff with my boyfriend, but I genuinely don’t know what I believe in anymore and it’s draining me that my values are changing. I know it’s probably healthy and natural for values to change as you grow up, but I feel like there’s a stereotype of Christianity I have to adhere to and it makes me so anxious and scared I’m going to hell if I don’t get everything perfect. My relationship with Christ isn’t something that I involve others in because of how personal it is to me. But I just feel shamed upon by every other Christian and it makes me scared for myself and sad for the way society is making it such a black and white view of this religion.
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Recently, I have been obsessing big time over being the best girlfriend I can be and being the best Christian I can be at the same time. Its rough since I always have these lingering thoughts that I’m leading me and my boyfriend down a path of sin by being more passionate to the point of having lustful intrusive thoughts when with him sometimes despite the fact that we’re both not wanting to go past pretty passionate kissing. For some extra context here, I’ve grown up in a Christian household my whole life and over the past few years, have been getting progressively more interested in my faith after temporarily abandoning it. It’s been tricky knowing what’s okay and what’s not okay to do, especially since I don’t view it as a religion necessarily but more like me wanting to get to know my creator better, show how thankful I am to be here/have everyone who is in my life and show said thankfulness by being as devoted as possible while still being who I am to my core. As for my relationship, I have been with my bf for almost 6 months now and he’s made me the happiest girl in the world, constant hugs, kisses, sweet little gestures that make my heart melt, caring comfort, the purest of love in my opinion and I’m so blessed to have him as my partner. Unfortunately though, I’m always worrying about him and our future together and how this will work since he himself isn’t a Christian. A lot of people who aren’t Christian’s won’t understand this logic but my brain always goes to 2 places. 1 is possible disagreements we may have about how we want our lives to go since I don’t want to hold him back from what he truly desires. That though, may not always align with what I have in place for my life. 2, quite frankly the worst one, is worrying about my bf not going to a good place after he dies. Now, this is not because of him as a person (he’s the best, very kind, sweet, supportive and loyal) but rather, because of rejecting God from coming into his life, and that scares me more than anything. Basically, I was taught that going to heaven is accepting God into your life and having your sins forgiven, and if you don’t, your rejecting the one thing that can take away all your imperfections and make you whole once more, which leads you to not fully making the mark despite me practically begging on my knees that it wasn’t this way for the sake of others who may not view things the same as me (no disrespect towards others btw, I love and respect people no matter what the believe or do). Does that make me sound judgmental? Yea, it probably does, but I swear, I wish it wasn’t this way. Based on what I’ve come to understand as a believer in God and Jesus, it’s not that simple. Knowing that, there’s 2 things that I mainly worry about due to the context and concerns I have. I worry about being a bad influence and Christian as a whole because of how much I struggle with my mental health and how much I fall to my own imperfections. I try and I try but I never feel like I’m good enough, that I’m probably a lukewarm Christian (iykyk) and that even I won’t go to heaven because of my own doubts and mistakes. I pray constantly for reassurance and for peace so I can be with my bf and even by myself and not feel this overwhelming weight crushing my shoulders constantly. It’s scary, not knowing what to do, how to feel, if what I’m feeling is okay or not, etc. Idk if anyone else is in my shoes, whether they are worried about being a not good enough person, not strong enough in your beliefs, or even loving someone and worrying for them and their future to such an extreme extent. If there’s anyone out there who might have some advice to make the fear fade away, even if it’s a little bit, I would be forever grateful. Before I end this, I just want to say your are loved and appreciated for who you are and nothing will change that fact, even if you may not feel that way, I’ve been coming to accept that the more the years go by and I wish for everyone to know this. Anyways, God bless and hope everyone has an amazing day/night. ❤️
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