My ocd is starting to make me think and believe I’m not attracted to the people I have been . Like I know I am but my head keeps going “no you aren’t you are making it all up” or like “you are just pretending to like them”. Idk why I mean I’ve always liked men, and the guys I find attractive I know o really do, but like it’s like I don’t feel anymore. But when I see a women my brain goes “yeah you find her pretty, because you fancy girls” I’m sick of it! Does anyone else feel like this? I know I only want to be with men, but it’s making me believe I’m gay. Like I’m not! But ugh I can’t explain it

Yes same

Thank god I’m not alone. I want it to go away. I wanna like what I want without feeling tormented every day!

im going through the same thingggg

It’s a nightmare! Actually makes me think I am when I know I’m not! If that makes sense

@Someday yea i completely understand

Im bisexual which makes this worse for me since I keep worrying im gay or straight and not actually bi. It sucks

ERP is really, really difficult, but on the plus side that usually means you're making progress.

You are definitely not alone

This is absolute classic OCD. And you probably only experienced this once you used your attraction to men as a clutch, which is why a lot of people here try to settle just for being bisexual. I’ve definitely felt the same in my respective themes, but fighting against these thoughts just makes them worse, especially within these situations. So despite how uncomfortable it may be, you just have to either move towards the thoughts (without feeling the urge to genuinely question yourself whilst doing so) or just disengage.

Thank you! I’m always trying to just let the though in because that usually makes me realise it actually doesn’t have power. But recently like it’s just hit me so hard abs the stuff I’ve really been enjoying recently doesn’t feel the same. It’s really hard. But thank you, your message has really helped!!

@Someday Welcome. Hope this wasn’t too reassurance-ish. ERP for the sake of comfort is a compulsion and usually falls on it’s head, so try and do it with the right mentality. But yeah, my pleasure.