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Again I see you are conflicted because your bf is not doing or being someone you want him to be. If you have asked and he doesn’t want to you can discuss with him his reasons for not wanting to meet them in a healthy and mature manner. No arguments need to happen with this conversation. If he doesn’t want to then you must respect his boundary and not push further to try change him. He is as he is as are you as you are. Non puoi cambiare questo uomo, capisci? si deve accettare lui come è nel questo momento. Nel presente.
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- 3y ago
Maybe part of you wants him to meet your friends as that shows he loves you and take you serious?
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- 3y ago
Yes sure in a little part yes, and that's the part that is flaring up my rocd right now! (You know, the "he doesn't want to see your friends because he doesn't want nothing serious with you) But mostly because my friends means a lot to me, like him does!! And I would love being able to go out and have fun all togheter! I have to choose every time if going out with them or my bf, I would love to make him see how beautiful people my friends are!! The thing is that there are no reason! I asked a lot of time (for the motivation) and he said that there aren't! And for him, what you said is an argument. Like even the littlest thing that is about our feelings is an argument 🙄🙄
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- 3y ago
Whenever I asked my bf to meet my friend he never wanted to. In my opinion I also found it weird because I wanted my partner ti be involved in ny life. Anyway, if he doesn’t want to I can’t force him. I either accept or find a man who’s more suited to me
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