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Overthinking is terrible it happened constantly
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I tend to think symbolically so not necessarily conceptual but I understand overthinking things. Especially things that are important
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Yep I get triggered constantly by people who hurt me emotionally and mentally the most or do untrustworthy things like people who are workers who overcharged and didn’t complete work and that bothers me tremendously and then you’re upset and helpless and can’t believe people are so cruel and ignorant and stupid
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Ugh the gender identity ocd is so crazy and stressful! I know my fender identity fully deep down but I’m so scared of being another gender like literally my biggest fear that my ocd will try and scare me with intrusive thoughts. I know it’s super scary to not reassure but that is one of the only things along with erp that’s helped me slowly get through this. However scary it gets just don’t reassure!
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@helloyes555 By not reassuring I mean when I get really scared or feel “uncertainty” I don’t do my compulsion which is a little phrase that I stay or I’ll hug myself or something. My reassurance only makes me feel safe and better for about 2 seconds and causes a lot more damage so I’m trying to stop it and I think it’s a crucial part of ocd recovery
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Try eft tapping there’s a free event today at 3 tapwith/bestyou
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Ok thank you!! Where can I find it?
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I am dealing with it now, im just worried sick that I am trans. I have no core fear besides feeling embarrassing that id have to come out like that.
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Ya I think that’s the difference with actual dysphoria and gender ocd,(you’ve never questioned gender identity before and have a history with ocd sometimes, also it’s scary the thought of a different gender not like liberating or something)
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@Ellab Do you mean that I am trans?
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@Imaan7 No that wasn’t what I was saying I was just trying to maybe help you navigate what’s ocd so you can understand that you most likely have it? Because I know soemtimes the doubting part of ocd can be scary and that the fears even if it’s a fear about coming out is probably just your ocd
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@Ellab But i am not doubting it i think bc I feel like i have no identity left to doubt at. Like I dont even feel like a man anymore and coming from hocd and like realizing that Im gay in a way its goes to the trans thing and it feels like I want to change and stuff. And apparently tons of gay/bi people are also trans, its all just connecting in my head.
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@Imaan7 Ya whatever’s right for you is good but soemtimes ocd will try and convince you of things fully and play tricks on you so you have to stay mindful of that but if you really don’t think it’s ocd than I’m excited for you to start your journey whatever it may be
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@Imaan7 At this point for me I’m terrified of this and have never questioned my gender identity and have always and still felt like a girl and wanted to be one these thoughts just instill some doubt in me which makes me want to do my compulsion and can get very scary. Maybe understanding the differences between tocd and dysphoria could maybe help you figure out your next steps?
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I’ve had this theme for years, erp has helped significantly so much so that there’s days and weeks where I don’t think much about ocd but having a lapse over Christmas - tough one so sending positive energy to you all 🙏
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Oh god... I really don’t wanna have this theme for years, I just wanna feel like fully myself again without reassurance. Do you have any tips?
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@Ellab I think the best advice i have in all honesty is that if it weren’t this theme it would be another one which feels just as rubbish - once you then do apply the techniques such as act and erp and simply build up the confidence in the ability to know that you can and will handle the thoughts no matter what then they have far less affect on you, it’s only when we insist on getting rid of them or not wanting them to surface that they become problematic
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@Anon Ya I agree with that and know what you mean I just want to feel like me again so badly and have no idea how to do that without reassurance!!
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@Ellab don’t wanna reassure you too much but you will as I have felt far more like myself lately - however the sheer desire to ‘feel like yourself’ is part of the reason you won’t, before this ocd you weren’t focussed on ‘feeling like yourself’ everyday, it came naturally so tryna force it will have the opposite affect! Fully get what you mean though, but that need to feel like yourself is the ocd talking rather than you!
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@Anon Ya that’s definitely true it was before more of just soemthing I never even thought about. But then my ocd is like what if your not you and you wanna be someone else and are in the wrong body and hate being a women... which is just so so false yet scares me into wanting reassurance but I’m not sure if there’s anything wrong with more remembering who you actually are and want to be or compulsive reassurance. Not sure the difference and if there both harmful
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This obsession is new, but feels so much more grounded and it’s so anxiety inducing. Since the ocd started I’ve lost my sense of self and confidence. I got soocd and it slowly turned into be doubting my identity on whether I want to identify or dress masculine or feminine. I don’t feel good in the clothes I would typically wear out before I’m constantly overanalyzing how I’m feeling , it makes me really anxious and like I’m preforming. So then I started doubting if I would rather dress masculine and it’s extremely anxiety inducing and idk if it’s the ocd now but it feels like that’s how I want to dress.. that’s not what I associated with at all before the ocd but now it feels like that’s what would make me feel fully confident and loose in the world, does anyone else experience this??
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So my OCD has been bad lately. I’ve been ruminating and obsessing over my sexuality again. And it just keeps getting worse. I hate it so much. I try to sit with the discomfort but then my ocd does the backdoor spike. And the groinal response is what keeps me looped. It SUCKS. I am not attracted to men, but my OCD is trying SO hard to convince me that I am. There have been days where I’m just so mentally exhausted that I “accept” what my ocd tells me and I just walk around a hollow, lethargic shell. But then I rethink it and I feel better. It feels like I can only find my TRUE self when I tire my nervous system out enough that it literally breaks down and has me suicidal and hopeless. And then accepting my OCD’s “truth” (that I’m attracted to men) feels like a burden and a chore. I woke up today from an OCD dream, tried to go back to sleep, and my stomach kept cramping bc I was so anxious and ruminating over my intrusive thoughts. I’m starting to doubt it being OCD anymore. My brain is too tired to fight and cry about it anymore.
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Hi! It’s pretty difficult for me to get the courage to post this but I’m really struggling to figure out if what I’m experiencing is OCD or Anxiety or neither. I think I have the “pure O” type of OCD where most of my compulsions take the form of ruminating and trying to figure out something all in my head. When I hear this talked about in forums or online the intrusive thoughts don’t really match mine- I worry often about things that seem more “grounded” if that makes sense. A common one for me is my own identity- i will spend long amounts of time stuck in my head trying to figure out my feelings (often sadness or other real emotions I have and patterns I have) and why I feel that way and what in my life caused that and how it’s impacting other things in my life. I also think often about which parts of my personality are the real me and which aren’t. Sometimes this takes the form of strictly ruminating and sometimes I have fake conversations with people I know. It’s intense and I feel I have to figure it out but with no specific intrusive thought that says something like “you have to figure this out or all of your loved ones will die” but it’s very intense. I think also often of all of the decisions I need to make in the future and how they’re going to affect those I love and care about as well as how much I’ll regret them. I imagine all of the ways I think my actions will emotionally hurt others and how to make the least harmful decision, but to me this feels like a valid concern but go over and over and never come to a conclusion. I often just get scared and never make any move because I don’t see an option that doesn’t hurt someone somehow. But again I’m having a hard time identifying the intrusive thought behind it. But I also don’t choose to think about these things most of the time. This is almost all decisions but especially big life decisions. It’s such a struggle because they are things I eventually do have to make decisions about. There is so much more to it that would take too long to explain but in general a lot of my fears revolve around pleasing others/ understanding others emotions to ensure they’re okay, my own identity and personality, and work/school performance. Someone mentioned OCD to me because in my head it feels like I have to solve these things and will go over and over them but I seriously can’t figure out if it’s anxiety, OCD, or none of the above. It’s all very disruptive to my life. I am never not thinking or not trying to figure something out and I feel as if I have no control over it Anyone have any insight?
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