Hi! I need an opinion! There is this thing that is flaring up my rocd, since always, and I would like to understand the situation better. A little background: me and my bf had some poor moments (a lot of disagreement, delusions etc) pasts months. Now we talked; we decided to try some compromises. One in particular keeps triggering me. I don't understand why for him is okay to see me only a few times (2-3) during the week. We already talked about it, and in this last weeks I saw his efforts so I'm proud of him. (For example now if he have to do something else, and doesn't go out with me one day, he makes plans with for the next one etc). We chat more too! He always give me the goodmorning and goodnight, he always finds some times to at least replay to my messages. But for him, seeing me 2-3 times maximum In a week is enough, he doesn't feel the need or doesn't want me more. I can understand when there is university, when he has to work etc... (I don't like it, but he can be tired and it'd right to take some time alone). But now we have holidays!! And I would love to spend all my time with him, because togheter we have a lot of fun, and all I want is to be in his arms! I would love to make plans, travels, even free experience in thoose days togheter! But he keeps wanting to see me only the 2 or 3 times and I can't understand why for him this is enough!!! (Both of our love languages is quality time! And in the first month I was always above everything else! He said that I'm still important to him etc) I would love some opinions, not to find rassicurations, but to understand better why for him is enough, and his mentality! I can't see how loving someone and not wanting to see her whenever he has the opportunity can get along togheter!!

Pls help me My boy is super expansive with all the girls. He said that he don't want to flirt with them, that it is just his personality. I have a quality time love and it is super hard for me to see him give a lot of attentions to other girls... It makes me feel so unspecial, just one of others... I don't know what to do... i feel so much pain right now because of this, and I'm about to asking a pause; I don't know If it is the right chose, or an rocd compulsion, but I don't want to keep being hurt like that... what should I do??

Hi. I would love an opinion: Me and my bf, have a really similar personalities and intrest. We get along really well. The difference came out from the fact that I have an anxious attachment (= giving priority and attentions to express my love. I would love to spend all my days with him) but he is avoidant! (=super independent, prefers to do things alone, fears being "strict" in a relationship; have a lot of females friends, ready to take my place). I get really hurt by some behaviours of him, but that he do without giving them the same meaning that I see and that hurts me. He want to solve the problems. But all of that make me question myself: would be better finding someone more compatible with me (I mean, someone that gives to attentions and time spent togheter, the same importance that I give? I would prefer it, I don't want to keep being hurt... but I don't want to broke up with him either... what should I do?? Is that still rocd?

I'm writing this with fear and shame, i really love him. I do love him i don't know how to tell you how i really love him i just can't explain how but i really love him. Me and my partner are dating for almost 8th months, our 1st-5th months was very genuine, beautiful it just feels so perfect (not having this unwanted thoughts). Until we reach 6th months we started to have this nonsense arguments, he start to bring up my past, to the point that he will feel upset then i will feel sorry for dating them, this continue to happen for 3 weeks or 4. I give him the reassurance because he deserve that. I give everything so that he wouldn't feel insecure. He always tell me not to leave him. Not to cheat on him. And i undrestand bcs i know that his ex cheated to him, as much as i can i give him the reassurance. Then sunddenly i have this unwanted thoughts, about this 1 ex who is my classmate, who gave me a trauma. -What if i haven't moved on to him? -What if i'm cheating to my partner? - His feelings? my man's feeling he will get hurt - Why am i thingking this? am i really cheating? - This is emotional cheating Searching - How to know if you really love your partner - What is the meaning if you're thingking about your ex -How to know. if your partner is the one -Signs that you're missing your ex etc... This make me feel guilty, and ashame because i started to have unwated images also its like a tv then my ex will pop up then even music, movies, or even a book! i can't even rear or watch or hear a single song because it made me think that i relate to that song, i relate to that movie, i relate to that one line in that movie. Its crazy for example i'm watching tiktok, then boom the first who comes in my mind is that ex, anddd thisssss make meeee goo crazinggg i having this battle with my brain, i keep saying the name of my partner how i love him i just can't control it. Until i got my first key word by searching which is *Unwanted thoughts Then boom, Rocd So i search, youtube,fb,tiktok,google every information that i can have i watched awakening into love every rocd channel that i can find. I analyze every situation just to know where it started, how it started so that i can explain to my partner properly, until one day i finally have this courage to tell him he say sorry, and he feel sorry so we have this rule in rs now "we won't bring up past na" he stopped doing it na, i gave him information abt it then yeah he stop doing it na, but it still hunt me. Im sorry for my grammar, im not really good at english. I really did my best to explain this as much as i can. i just want an advice. :)❤