How to not be affected by the inevitable ‘well u clearly don’t love him then’ when you tell people about rOCD or the ‘well just stop’ about physical compulsions?

Time an exercise! At the end, thoose phrases are just triggers! In the first place for me helped making a "selection": who among my friends (or family) can understand/listen without judging? I have a lots of beautiful friends, but I know that some of them can't understand rocd, or ocd. So I choose what friends are sensibile enough to understand that doubting isn't already an answer! + my therapist said that it is really helpful if they don't give me answers or their judge, they only listen! (Remember that confessing is a compulsion, so you should not do it, even ro your friends, because you are doing it just because you want reassurance that you want him-> you give importance to the thoughts) In the second place, the more you listen it, the less they will affect you. Maby the first time you cry for the entire day. The 10th time, maby for just an hour... the 200th time maby they just makes you angry! But I can tell you, you are the key to not being affected! And after a while, they will not trigger you anymore!!