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Ocdislame Ocdislame
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Almost sounds like there’s some childhood trauma and whatnot that needs to be unpacked. This happens a lot in Christian and evangelical housholdes, particularly the purity culture of the late 90s early 2000s. Girls are taught the value of their purity and how important it is. When they actually meet someone they love and even get married, they are unable to be intimate with their spouse because their brain has always associated sex as bad and with negative consequences. I’m not saying that’s the case for you, but based off of your post it sounds like there’s a lot of anxiety that’s been caused by expectations and morals that were taught by your parents.
Bookworm91Bookworm91
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Just because very one does it doesn’t mean it’s right or that you should. Do you really want to be like everyone else?
StarsxandxInkStarsxandxInk
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Are you wanting to get more comfortable with doing things like sending pictures because that's something you'd like to do, or are you feeling unhappy about feeling uncomfortable about it because you feel like you shouldn't be uncomfortable and you want to be "normal"?
Bookworm91Bookworm91
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You know it’s a bad idea to send pics to some random dudes on the internet right? That’s how people get stalked and killed. It’s one thing to send it to a guy you’re actually with but sending them out to strangers is bad. And why would you encourage “normal”? Look how stupidly normal people act?
StarsxandxInkStarsxandxInk
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@Bookworm91 At this point I did not encourage or discourage anything, I asked them to clarify what they were concerned about. I did not say "send full nudes to random strangers on the internet!". Additionally, something being "normal" doesn't automatically mean good or bad. People in general do dumb things, whether it's normal or not. If they're posting because they feel like they should be willing to send pictures because it's "normal" I'd say don't even worry about it, you don't have to do anything you don't feel comfortable with, just be you, the right person won't care either way. But if they're feeling bad because they want to do things (like send pictures) but feel like worry or guilt is preventing them from doing it, then I would have different advice. Is it important to try to be safe? Yes, of course. But that doesn't mean you will automatically get murdered if you send so much as a swimsuit picture to someone.
Bookworm91Bookworm91
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@StarsxandxInk Why? Why send it to someone? Why need that level of attention?
Bookworm91Bookworm91
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* everyone does it (stupid phone)
StarsxandxInkStarsxandxInk
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It doesn't have to be about "needing" a level of attention. That could be one person's motivation, sure, but other people do it because they think it's just another level of flirting, another level of fun. And yes, it's good to be careful. It's good to recognize that anything you send via internet or text or anything else has the potential to be captured and shared with other people. But that doesn't mean that people aren't still going to do it.
Bookworm91Bookworm91
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Ignore me I’m just hating everything and everything right now and not sure if I want that to change. Wont ever understand this stuff and don’t want to. I need to excuse myself from this. Don’t listen to me
StarsxandxInkStarsxandxInk
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Well everyone is allowed to have their own opinions, regardless if we disagree I hope you're alright and I'm sorry you're struggling.
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