Where do you guys draw the line between reassurance seeking and support seeking? A lot of my ocd tendencies are the result of an abusive relationship. My current partner told me I can always tell him if I’m struggling and what I’m struggling with, even if he doesn’t understand. But I don’t wanna feed into the ocd cycle of checking if something I did or thought is okay

I don’t think there’s anything wrong telling your partner some of your issues you are facing. It keeps them more aware of who you are and understand OCD a little bit more. I think it becomes a problem when you keep repeating over and over again. One of my compulsions is repetition and I find that I repeat myself a lot. I think it’s okay to tell them what’s bothering you every now and then but everyday or hour could be a problem. I speak from experience so as long as you know you are not in constant repetition of checking and asking them all the time. Then it should be alright.

I think I tend to spiral very very quickly with reassurance seeking. Like as soon as I say one thing, I immediately start remembering and re-panicking about things I panicked about MONTHS ago. And then I worry it’s going to be a daily or multiple times daily occurance and I won’t be able to contain it.