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- 3y
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- 3y
I know this is really hard to understand when ur in the moment but when this happens to me I try to remember the thought would not bother me if I was a bad person and I wouldn’t feel shame towards it and I’m feeling the way I do towards that subject because I’m not that kind of person I hope it helps you too!
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- 3y
it’s just so mentally draining i feel like i don’t even know who i am anymore and it breaks my heart. i used to be a nail tech before all this happened to me & i always dreamed of making it big in this world & now? i feel done. i feel like there’s nothing more out there for me other then failure. everytime i try to be great it knocks me right back down on my ass. it’s so heart breaking..
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- 3y
im so sorry i just vented a little too much😭
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- 3y
i try to remind myself of this as well but my mind doesn’t seem to comprehend it😞
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- 3y
@Anonymous_234 I know ocd completely changes you and your life it is so hard to get yourself into routine and doing the simple things you enjoyed before but I promise you step by step getting yourself into a routine wether slowly or not will help manage the thoughts a lot I’m not saying distract yourself because that is strongly advised not to be done with thoughts but in general give yourself hobbies ect that you enjoy or always wanted to try because it will help you to get yourself back on your feet, there is still hope!! Don’t give up on yourself girl you are strong and more than capable of fulfilling your dreams it just takes a lot of healing and time you will get there
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- 3y
@Anonymous_234 Not at all I’m happy to help someone because that’s what I wish I had sometimes
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- 3y
@Anonymousoverthinkerlol thank you so much😞 i appreciate you! but yes it’s been such a hard fight. there’s always a good and bad days. the bad days always seem to really really knock me down but i really wanna get in the routine of thinking more positive even on bad days because “it’s a bad day not a bad life” i pray one day we all heal from our struggles & silent battles we fight with our minds every single day. im always here if you need someone to talk too!🥺
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- 3y
@Anonymous_234 Trust me I get you and I really hope things get better for you I know how hard it can be sometimes it can feel like your in this endless loop of thoughts and feelings and it is very true we may be suffering for now but it’s temporary pain we will heal with time. And thanks a lot same to you I appreciate it a lot I also wanted u to know you’ve helped me a lot tonight and just by speaking to someone I’ve managed to calm my thoughts down a lot
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- 3y
@Anonymousoverthinkerlol awee! my heart feels so full🥺 thank you soo much! & sometimes we all just need someone to talk to because bottling up emotions only makes things 20x worse. i don’t think im gonna be able to sleep tonight because my thoughts have just been so intense & all the the dispensaries are closed around me for the cbd oils ☹️ but we got this! we can be okay again!🥺
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- 24w
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am i ever gonna be able to do the things i love again? the things that brought me comfort? nothing brings me any comfort, and i spend all day in bed or sitting around doing absolutely nothing because i can’t distract myself. i can’t stop thinking about all the things i’ve done no matter how hard i try. i obsessively read and look up online things to try and find reassurance. i feel like i’m going crazy. and i just feel so sorry. to everyone. and i’m so extremely ashamed of my behavior. i can’t stop obsessing about the past, the present, and the future. don’t i deserve to feel this way when i’ve lied and done bad things? even if it wasn’t my intention, or if it’s a result of a mental illness? don’t i deserve to feel debilitating guilt when i’ve been a bad person? even though i know i never had any bad intentions, i don’t think it matters. am i gonna feel this way forever, where everything i do or everywhere i look, im reminded of the the things ive done?
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- 21w
I cant get over this thought that is messing my recovery up so much. it was “if you dont act on your thoughts this will never go away” which led to thoughts like if i even wanted to get better, if i even want my life back, if i even WANTED this to go away, etc. im scared. im confused. is this normal? am i gonna have to act on this stuff now? im mainly concerned about my family. i dont wanna hurt them. this disease is horrible. this subtype is horrible. i love my family. why would i want to hurt them? im so afraid this is it for me. i try to do what everyone tells me. ignore the thought, let it sit, sit with the uncertainty/discomfort but the anxiety doesn’t go away. this thought keeps coming back with a vengeance. i thought i was making great progress but im back where i was. i ruminate about this 24/7 and i dont know how to stop. we tried sitting on the couch together last night and it felt like i was RESISTING hurting them. im in constant awareness that i can act on these anytime and it hinders my daily life and work so much. everytime i talk to anyone in my family i feel things like i shouldnt be talking to them if im gonna hurt them and i dont deserve to be around them. i feel like i dont deserve to be alive, i dont deserve to be happy, and i dont deserve to be comfortable. i feel like a psycho whos never gonna get to live life with a husband and family. i feel like i don’t deserve my sweet boyfriend. i dont want my thoughts to latch onto him. this is my mind when i wake up, when i try to go about my day, and when i go to sleep. it feels like it just wont dissipate regardless of what i do. the cycle never ends. its been 4 MONTHS. what the fuck do i do anymore
- Date posted
- 20w
Sometimes it feels like I’m chasing pleasure with my intrusive thoughts. Like I just keep thinking them over and over, or even making them worse, because maybe deep down I *want* them. And that’s honestly scary. It feels like I’m trying to prove I’m a bad person or even a p*dophile just to see if I feel disturbed enough for it to count as “real distress.” But sometimes, I don’t even feel that bad. Sometimes it’s just… nothing. Because if I don’t feel guilty or sick enough, doesn’t that mean I like it? That I want to keep thinking about it? Sometimes it feels like I like it. And that’s when I spiral the hardest. But lately, I’m starting to think maybe I’m not actually chasing pleasure. Maybe I’m just chasing certainty. This desperate need to feel bad enough to prove to myself I’m a good person. And when I don’t feel that level of distress, I panic. I do compulsions, just trying to force that feeling. But it never feels “right.” It never feels enough. And I get stuck in this loop of testing, checking, pretending to be okay with these awful thoughts just to see how I’ll react. It’s confusing. It’s exhausting. And it makes me question everything about myself. But I think I don’t actually want these thoughts. Maybe I just want to know, with 100% certainty, that I don’t. If you’re stuck in the same cycle, I see you. You’re not alone. You’re not your thoughts. You’re just trying to make sense of something that doesn’t make sense. And that’s okay.
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