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Yeah my brain can’t accept bi or lesbian no matter how times I tell it it’s fine 🤣 I’ll be like but I find women to be SO pretty??? And it’s like then you’re gay!! And then I get anxious and I’m like NO IM NOT. And it’s like wtf!!! How do I just get over this?
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Hi Hannah! My name is also Hannah hehe. I relate so so much! My brain is always trying to come to a conclusion about one or the other but if I say maybe I am, maybe I’m not or maybe it is real, maybe it isnt, that really helps me not put pressure on trying to figure it out. It’s really really difficult not to think about, but please be patient with yourself and allow the uncertainty. That’s the best thing you can do!
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Omggg I have this same issue!!! My brain is constantly questioning it, even when I can say I’m bisexual. My brain isn’t pleased with that information. It needs certainty
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I am so terrified of being bi, but at the same time I’m not? I feel like I could accept being bi but I don’t want to date girls, I never have. I don’t understand. But I’ve done things in the past that prove I’m also attracted to women, and that scares me. How do you know you’re bi?
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I just feel like i’ve actually had crushes on girls in the past when i was younger and just didn’t realize they were crushes. I definitely do think women are attractive sometimes so. And at this point being bi doesn’t scare me anymore and i know that could just be because i’m so used to the ocd that it doesn’t make me anxious anymore or maybe i just accepted that i am. But i still have ocd thought and compulsions about it so it feels like it’s never gonna stop
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@hannah - Hey what type of women do you usually find attractive? My hocd has made me think that I find masculine lesbians attractive and I don’t know if it’s genuine or not anymore
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@Tan??? - But I don’t want to be bi I’m married and I don’t want to have sex or date a woman but I’m so afraid I might
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hi i’m a lesbian! and i have known im a lesbian for a really long time and i have a sweet girlfriend of 1 year. it all started when i saw this masc lesbian come out as straight, after that i had my guy friend over and he’s a sweet guy and he was flirting with me (he didn’t know i was gay) im not sure but i panicked and my brain froze and i was like “do i like him”, ever since my brain has been over worked 24/7 for 2 months now and it’s spiralling constantly. im trying to control it but all these thoughts are so disgusting and my brain tries to put him and i in scenarios that make me uncomfortable and i feel panic and i hate it. i have always been comfortable being a lesbian and i still am comfortable as a lesbian, but i dislike these thoughts i have about him and men and i want it to be over. i do not want to experiment with men even tho my brain is telling me i do, i find it disgusting and i dread it, i have a sweet girlfriend and i want to be with her forever, i do not imagine anything with any men and i hate these thoughts. im scared of becoming bisexual/straight one day and i hate hearing sexuality is fluid. its a whole mix of comphet and so-ocd
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Hello everyone, I just wanted to share a part of my journey that I’m struggling with right now. I’ve been diagnosed with ocd and while this is not my first subtype, ROCD and so ocd have definitely been the ones I’ve been struggling with the most. For context I have a boyfriend who I love very much and am terrified of loosing. That’s probably what ocd latched onto. The so-ocd especially is tricky because I’ve come to acknowledge that I am bisexual. Don’t worry I didn’t “discover” this through ocd, I’ve always known and it’s been in the back of my mind way before ocd, I had just never really directly acknowledged it because romantically I just always leaned towards men. The thing my ocd latched onto is “what if you are actually a lesbian and don’t know it yet and will have to leave your partner or are lying to your partner or end up leading him on” The thing is, I don’t have much experience with women except kissing my female best friend once, which didn’t feel special or made me have romantic feelings for her. I’ve always seeked men more actively than women and didn’t feel like I was gonna miss out if I get into a serious relationship with a man before having had more experience. I just know that I can be sexually attracted to women as well. But now that I’m in this beautiful relationship I’m terrified of getting it wrong or having missed something about myself or being scared that I’m actually a lesbian and have been lying to myself all along. I’m not seeking reassurance, just wanting to share and maybe someone else is going through something similar? If so I’d be so grateful to know I’m not alone. I love my boyfriend dearly and i really hope we will work out in the long run.
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I have a lot of trouble with my sexuality. I’ve been trying to figure out my sexuality for years. I’ve dated a man, and I wasn’t really into the whole time. And since then I’ve thought that maybe I’m a lesbian because I’m attracted to women, which I know for sure. But then my brain spirals, I constantly think back ti memories with my ex, how I felt with him, I check how it makes me feel. I often google to see if other lesbians have felt similar, I ask ChatGpt over and over again. I feel like I have to be 100% certain or that im faking for attention, or thst I’ll end up with a man. I guess im wondering has anyone else felt like this ? What’s been your experience how do you manage it?
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