I can't do this with this horrible Rocd... I am always feeling like something is happening even if things seem normal. It is like my mind us constantly trying to find something suspicious or wrong happening against me from my husband. I don't want to live like that, I have this shaky feeling 24/7 and don't seem to improve. I hate it and really want to get better and live a normal life...Why does .y mind needs to feel threatened?? I want to live a simple life and not spend my days in anxiety and doubt...

Because it doesn’t want to feel the pain you have felt in the past, it’s trying its very best to protect you even though there is no physical sign of danger. Our brain doesn’t know the difference between imagination and real life, therefore when you think and imagine a scary scenario, your body will still prepare you for fight or flight mode and the anxiety will ensue.

It’s about self reassurance and self soothing. I believe one of the reasons rocd is so bad among large populations is because we just don’t have the sufficient tools of dealing with it alone. The difference between those who suffer with rocd and those who don’t I think is the fact that those who don’t cope better or know how to cope. They won’t take the thought seriously. They won’t see it as threatening because they’ve managed to tell themselves an altenative thought and believe it. In CBT part of recovery is thinking alternative thoughts and once this becomes habit the thoughts don’t hold as much power. In short, one way I cope is by not going outside of myself but inside instead and maybe through journalling or just sitting alone, noticing the thought, not reacting, being mindful and present and trying to realise it for what it is, a thought. I know this is a lot easier said than done but if you practice this, time and time again it becomes second nature and you won’t take it so seriously. Another part is to come face to face with the fear. Tell yourself, fucking come at me, I dare you, try your very best to hurt me because I will deal with it. Instead of running away, challenge yourself! Ask the pain to come towards you, that u aren’t afraid, that you will overcome anything, any obstacle and challenge, nothing can beat u. Use this mindset for anything you fear and you will feel powerful enough to conquer it. The more you run, the bigger you make your fear become to your mind.

You are right this is the best attitude towards Ocd but sometimes my mind seems so confused and foggy that I am not able to keep a brave attitude and feel the courage and strength to welcome my thoughts. Thank you for your response!