- Username
- idont241
- Date posted
- 5y ago
When i was teenager i was absolutely terrified of sex. I was afraid i would be used and abandoned, and there were other reasons. (I likely had ROCD from a young age because i questioned a lot of things like feelings etc) but i didnt start wanting to actually engage in anything until I was at least 23 or 24. And i was very sure of my orientation. Its a myth that everyone is ready for sex at a young age, and i think people should be allowed to figure out that it isnt always something you jump headlong into because there are a lot of factors to it that make it different for everyone.
Sex is something that you have a right to define for yourself. I’ve known people first having sex at 13 to 25. What really matters is that 1) it’s consentual 2) confortable 3) open and honest 4) enjoyable. If you still need time to figure out what each of those means to you translated in attraction, then taking time to doing that is valid, necessary, and VITAL
Gfaux, YES! Because of my fear of sex I didn’t have sex till I was 21, almost 22. People thought that was weird. What’s WEIRD, is majority of people having sex at 16. You’re still a FUCKING CHILD
Thank you so much for helping. It really makes me feel better.
I'm also pretty turned off sex but for diffrent reasons. One's attraction is never chosen, only what one does with that attraction. If you choose to not engage that attraction its okay, I dont wanna express mine.
Jesus. I don’t think ANYONE should be having sex at 13 ?
Im 27. I have sex with my boyfriend and enjoy it. But even still, some strange trauma has happened to me sexually. (I wasn’t molested)And because of it I have a lot of obsessive thoughts about sexual things. This is a huge trigger to me. I can’t watch sex scenes in shows or movies, I skip over them in books, I don’t like talking about sex, even with my boyfriend. Sex is so gross to me. But to be honest sex is incredible and magical, but at the same time gross and super fucking weird. Sometimes my boyfriend and I will talk about that when we’re having sex, like this is just a strange thing that people do ?? Point being thinking sex is gross doesn’t necessarily mean you don’t want to do it and it definitely has nothing to do with sexuality
I think this is misinformation. "Waiting until marriage" certainly does not guarantee that sex will be safe and free of STDs. You could get married to someone who is abusive and has an STD. Marriage changes nothing.
Yes that is fine, your OCD likes to use any ammunition it can find and throw it at you
I have passed similar conditions and I know how difficult are they. Try not be affected by anything that you disagree as a person.
Sex is overrated. Sex can cause unwanted pregnancy and stds. Best 2 w8 till marriage where it's safe and secure. Disease free.
The thoughts are oh so bad again. I even can get turned on by the thought of being sexual with a girl but I really don’t want it. ( I’m a girl ). At least I don’t think I do. I looked up questioning sexuality and it said THIS MAY TRIGGER YOU— it said that if you fear it, it may be because you want it because “sexual attraction can be scary”. I don’t want to be with a girl but I feel like lately that’s all I can think about. I can’t even get turned on or get off ( sorry TMI maybe ) to the opposite sex but I can so easily with the same sex even though I don’t really want to. This is so scary I’m not sure what to do.
Hey I really need someone to help me so please reply if you can. But basically I'm still getting LOADS of intrusive thoughts about this theme, but the thing is I have zero distress about it. The idea still bothers me and i still realise i don't want to be with a girl, but even imagining scenarios does not bother me at all anymore. Like i realise it is not that bad so i don't need to be disgusted by it but the fact that I'm not disgusted by it anymore makes me feel like i want it or something. I just want to be with a man.
I hate it so much because I'm not homophobic but I just don't want a y if this. My whole childhood and up to before this started I was disgusted by gay porn I never thought it was wrong it just wasn't for me and I was obsessed and loved the idea of being with a woman sexually. I've only crushed on women irl and only wanted to be with women the most towards a guy is I've found them aesthetically handsome but never wanted sex or crushed on them. When I check gay porn now I feel arousal but in my stomach I feel pain because I don't want it or like it. When I get arousal towards women I feel good, butterflies I want to do it in real life and I seek out a romantic and sexual partner I just don't get it why am I getting arousal response when I don't actually like it or want to do it in real life? It's so uncomfortable and depressing I feel like I'm losing myself cuz being straight has always been a big part of my identity and loving women.
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