Is it ok to still be disgusted by sex and not wanting it yet but still being straight? Like my head keeps using that against me because I am still pretty young and I don’t need it and don’t want it but for some reason my head keeps using it as another reason on why I am not straight? This is so confusing.

When i was teenager i was absolutely terrified of sex. I was afraid i would be used and abandoned, and there were other reasons. (I likely had ROCD from a young age because i questioned a lot of things like feelings etc) but i didnt start wanting to actually engage in anything until I was at least 23 or 24. And i was very sure of my orientation. Its a myth that everyone is ready for sex at a young age, and i think people should be allowed to figure out that it isnt always something you jump headlong into because there are a lot of factors to it that make it different for everyone.

Sex is something that you have a right to define for yourself. I’ve known people first having sex at 13 to 25. What really matters is that 1) it’s consentual 2) confortable 3) open and honest 4) enjoyable. If you still need time to figure out what each of those means to you translated in attraction, then taking time to doing that is valid, necessary, and VITAL

Gfaux, YES! Because of my fear of sex I didn’t have sex till I was 21, almost 22. People thought that was weird. What’s WEIRD, is majority of people having sex at 16. You’re still a FUCKING CHILD

Thank you so much for helping. It really makes me feel better.

I'm also pretty turned off sex but for diffrent reasons. One's attraction is never chosen, only what one does with that attraction. If you choose to not engage that attraction its okay, I dont wanna express mine.

Jesus. I don’t think ANYONE should be having sex at 13 ?

Im 27. I have sex with my boyfriend and enjoy it. But even still, some strange trauma has happened to me sexually. (I wasn’t molested)And because of it I have a lot of obsessive thoughts about sexual things. This is a huge trigger to me. I can’t watch sex scenes in shows or movies, I skip over them in books, I don’t like talking about sex, even with my boyfriend. Sex is so gross to me. But to be honest sex is incredible and magical, but at the same time gross and super fucking weird. Sometimes my boyfriend and I will talk about that when we’re having sex, like this is just a strange thing that people do ?? Point being thinking sex is gross doesn’t necessarily mean you don’t want to do it and it definitely has nothing to do with sexuality

I think this is misinformation. "Waiting until marriage" certainly does not guarantee that sex will be safe and free of STDs. You could get married to someone who is abusive and has an STD. Marriage changes nothing.

Yes that is fine, your OCD likes to use any ammunition it can find and throw it at you

I have passed similar conditions and I know how difficult are they. Try not be affected by anything that you disagree as a person.

Sex is overrated. Sex can cause unwanted pregnancy and stds. Best 2 w8 till marriage where it's safe and secure. Disease free.