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Thank you
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Dang, that's is the worse feeling in the world. Does she know you have OCD?
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Yes she knows now
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Can you send her flowers or a card... maybe that would be better than a text or phone call
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I’m going to pick some up she drops our daughter off on Sunday and it sucks being told that my ocd is no excuse and it really isn’t but I didn’t know why my mind always took me to these places until a few days ago I’m 31 years old I’ve always been afraid to seek help because I thought that I was weak if I did but I needed to long ago and it hurts more that it took for her to leave for me to realize that I need this for me so I can be a better man but it’s sucks and my mind fills up with so much
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I'm sure it will be fine How long have you been together. It's hard for those who don't have OCD to really understand, so they see it as a cop out. But that's really not the case. Maybe there's a book or website she can read. But, maybe she just needs so space to think too. Idk But I hope there's a resolution
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We were together for 2.5 years and have a daughter together. I have sent her links to ocd and rocd and I have tried to explain in the past even before I understood what was wrong with me I tried to explain how I don’t mean for these things to happen but I didn’t truly realize how much my compulsions were taking ahold of me I didn’t know I was feeding a monster and was allowing it to live inside of me I’m doing what I can to get rid of it I want to be better not just for her but for me and our daughter so she can see her daddy be a better man everyday
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Or maybe she needs to sign up to NOCD
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I wish I could get her to understand what’s been going I want her to know how much I’ve battled and am battling this monster I don’t want it to feed off of me anymore
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@Anonymous Hopefully, it will happen. I'm pulling for yas. ... Are you on any meds?
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No meds I quit smoking weed and and quit playing video games because they were part of my compulsions and it’s a little more stressful but I’m trying to force myself through because then my ocd demon will have nowhere to hide anymore and I have to feel every emotion and feeling and listen to every thought it is very hard to do but I’m forcing myself to do so in order to fix my brain I have a lot of willpower but my ocd has been fed a lot since I was 12 and I’m 31 finally getting help because I realize I need help it just took a very traumatic experience for me to realize I need to get back on top of my life
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I hear you loud and clear. Keep up the good work.. You'll come thru it. Can't go around it... just straight head on! .. i wish you the best! Good luck tomorrow! Stay tough
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- 22w
I’ve been really struggling with Relationship OCD since I got married, and 3 years later, I’m afraid I’ve lost the love of my life. Between the Relationship OCD, the Religious OCD, and the Sexuality OCD, she couldn’t handle it anymore. Now that she left, the fog of doubt has faded, and I’m realizing how much I truly loved her all along. I just don’t understand how our minds can play such sabotaging tricks on us. And why? I don’t know what to do. I hope and pray we eventually get back together, but I know I need help. I want to do whatever I can to return to a place where she can feel loved by me, the way she did before ROCD took over. Is anyone here going through something similar? Has anyone overcome ROCD? Were you able to repair your relationship? I’d really appreciate any insight or advice. Thank you.
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Hi everyone. I’m really struggling and I need to let it all out. I’ve been dealing with ROCD (or what I think is ROCD) for a long time, and I feel like I’m at my breaking point. I’m in a loving relationship with a boyfriend who is kind, understanding, and patient. But ever since I started reading a lot online, googling symptoms, talking to AI like ChatGPT, searching for reassurance, things have gotten worse and worse. And now… I feel completely disconnected from my feelings. I don’t know what’s real anymore. My boyfriend told me that he believes I’ve convinced myself that I have something that needs to be treated, and that all this constant researching is making me feel worse. And honestly, I think he’s right. Before I fell into this cycle, I could be more intimate with him. I used to say “I love you,” I used to feel warmth. Now I don’t say it anymore. I haven’t in a long time. And it hurts him. And I know I’m hurting him, and that makes it even worse. He also said that maybe I’m having these obsessive thoughts because I don’t have a daily purpose, that I need to get occupied, to stop being consumed by this. And others in my life have told me the same. He even suggested taking a break from each other for a week, just to give me space. But I’m terrified of that. I’m scared that the thing I fear most will become “the truth.” I’m scared I’ll feel relief, and that will mean everything I fear is real. But he told me that if I don’t want the break, maybe it means I still care. Still love. Still want this. The problem is, I don’t know anymore. And that’s what’s killing me. I’ve also had a psychologist who told me that just because I feel guilt or “care,” it doesn’t necessarily mean I like him — and that sent me spiraling. She said that maybe I care about people in general, but it doesn’t mean I love him. And it made me feel like I’m just lying to myself. That maybe I’m holding on out of obligation, or because I set in my head that I “have to be with him.” And even when he tells me beautiful things — logical things — things that SHOULD make me feel safe and seen… I don’t feel better. I just feel more empty. And then I start spiraling again: “If this doesn’t help me feel better, then something must be wrong.” “What if I’m just pretending?” “What if I’ve been lying to myself all along?” I feel like there’s something wrong inside of me. Like no matter what anyone says, or how much love I’m given, I can’t feel it. I just want to know what to do. I want someone to tell me what this is. I want to stop feeling like I’m running after a version of myself that used to feel, used to love, used to be calm. I don’t know if this is ROCD or if I’m just slowly facing a truth I’ve been afraid to accept. Please, if anyone has felt this way, I need to hear that I’m not alone. And if you’ve come out the other side… how? My relationship is perfect and he is perfect, i just deal with this and i am far from happy.
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For some time i was obsessing over relationship with my girlfriend. For a long time we we're each other's best friends and we only had each other. Recently she made a good friend in work and im obviously really happy for her because she deserves to be loved by more people than me. But i started to feel really jealous. I never thought she can cheat on me i just have really low self esteem and i started to obsess over if she is still in love with me or if she is still attracted to me bc she sometimes would be more interested to spend time with that friend and not me. We talked about it a lot and i tried my best to not be jealous and give her space but i felt how she's distancing from me. At some point she stopped showing me her love in any way. She stopped hugging me and kissing me and she kinda stop telling me she loves me. She only responded "me too" when i told her i love her. I talked about it with her few times and she always said she understands and that she's tired and don't really need physical touch etc. But i was still worrying bc i just knew something is off. She really was acting different. And then few days ago she told me she's actually tired not because of job but me. She feels irritated by me and she don't know why and that she actually thought about breaking up with me and she don't know what to do because she's confused about her own feelings. She said she thinks she still loves me but it's hard for her to see a difference between friendship and love and that she feels tired of concept of dating someone. She said we should wait and see bc she thinks she still loves me but i don't know if that's honest. I don't know what to do anymore im crying all the time every day since that conversation we had. I feel like my worst nightmare just came true and now it's real and not only a though in my head. I can't do anything and i feel like it's the end of the world. We're living together and i don't want to go back to my parents but that's not the worst thing. I just love her so much and i can't hande thought of loosing her. My ocd made me question every single thing about me but somehow i never questioned my love for her so that's why I'm so emotional about it. I don't want to lose her. I don't know what to do i just want to be loved but I don't want anyone else. I don't know what to do im so scared. I want to die every time i look at her with love in my heart and i know she doesn't think about me like that anymore.
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