Rocd kicking in again :( I feel like my man is kind of boring .. all he does is go to work and to the gym and play video games, is that normal for a 26 year old or ? #fml

Yes very normal my boyfriend is the same. Can I ask, do you get urges in your ROCD? How does yours show? X

Yes that is normal behavior

You literally sound the exact same as me!!!

I constantly will bring up to him what annoys me or makes me anxious - and some days it’s almost everything. I feel so bad and so mean but it just comes out cause I get stressed over what he is doing. I obsess that he isn’t working enough (even though he does) , I compare to prior people, my parents, etc, the cycle never ends —- I feel like such crap cause I know how bad it makes him feel

☀️ I start thinking about it over and over again and I make myself better by hearing about other people who do the same things and I get the urge to get reassurance from people , my triggers are people who have a lot of fun by doing activities like bungee jumping, sky diving, and go out a lot with their friends and go clubbing etc , those who just have similar life style to him make me feel so much better , but I have to admit my ROCD was SOOOO bad before I would get angry at him or bring it up to him or encourage him to do certain things and now I’m learning that acceptance is KEY!

Wow :( I feel ur pain , its sooooo hard ! How do you cope with it?

I’ve just ask for time to my bf because of thisss :(

Time away from him?

Yes

I know! I used to do that but I promise you it got sooooooooooooo much better once I started to accept it to myself , like for eg. I would say “he is not outgoing, he is quiet but I love him anyway that’s why I haven’t left him” or For you say to yourself “he doesn’t work as much as X and that’s okay, he doesn’t need to be that way” like just accept everything that your fighting against even tho here and there I still do it it for so much better and easier because I broke the cycle