- Username
- lyndal
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Yes very normal my boyfriend is the same. Can I ask, do you get urges in your ROCD? How does yours show? X
Yes that is normal behavior
You literally sound the exact same as me!!!
I constantly will bring up to him what annoys me or makes me anxious - and some days it’s almost everything. I feel so bad and so mean but it just comes out cause I get stressed over what he is doing. I obsess that he isn’t working enough (even though he does) , I compare to prior people, my parents, etc, the cycle never ends —- I feel like such crap cause I know how bad it makes him feel
☀️ I start thinking about it over and over again and I make myself better by hearing about other people who do the same things and I get the urge to get reassurance from people , my triggers are people who have a lot of fun by doing activities like bungee jumping, sky diving, and go out a lot with their friends and go clubbing etc , those who just have similar life style to him make me feel so much better , but I have to admit my ROCD was SOOOO bad before I would get angry at him or bring it up to him or encourage him to do certain things and now I’m learning that acceptance is KEY!
Wow :( I feel ur pain , its sooooo hard ! How do you cope with it?
I’ve just ask for time to my bf because of thisss :(
Time away from him?
Yes
I know! I used to do that but I promise you it got sooooooooooooo much better once I started to accept it to myself , like for eg. I would say “he is not outgoing, he is quiet but I love him anyway that’s why I haven’t left him” or For you say to yourself “he doesn’t work as much as X and that’s okay, he doesn’t need to be that way” like just accept everything that your fighting against even tho here and there I still do it it for so much better and easier because I broke the cycle
My bf and I have been together for 6 years and im having trouble connecting with him. I’ve suffered from hocd and rocd for like 3 years now (maybe longer, who knows) but I feel like this is an actual issue? So I enjoy sex with him but my love language is quality time and snuggling. Sex is great but sometimes I look forward to the end of sex because then I know it means we can snuggle closely and enjoy each others company without the worry of him initiating it again. Because usually when I touch him and get close to him, he’ll get ‘excited’ and make advances basically 9 times out of 10. And when I tell him I just want to cuddle, he acts different: not in a douchebag way but he just falls silent and doesn’t really say much. His sex drive is higher than me so now I have an automatic assumption that when we are talking or I touch him in the slightest way, he’s only thinking about sex and not genuinely invested in our conversations. Anyways, just wanted to do a little rant. If any of you could relate that would be nice to hear.
“I love him of course I wanna spend the rest of my life with him” “I feel nothing I don’t know why because I felt everything 2 weeks ago” “I’m okay it’s ocd” “What if it isn’t ocd and it’s the truth” “I love him, wait I feel like I’m lying to myself” “I’m in denial the love is gone” I JUST WANT TO BE NORMAL AGAIN.💔
Hi guys I don’t want to start overthinking but I need opinions, so I saw my boyfriend was watching porn when I wasn’t home . I feel like he’s been throwing hints that he wants to have sex but I ignore it , I’ve never been such a horndog💀. Should I be mad he’s watching porn?
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