- Username
- lyndal
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Yes very normal my boyfriend is the same. Can I ask, do you get urges in your ROCD? How does yours show? X
Yes that is normal behavior
You literally sound the exact same as me!!!
I constantly will bring up to him what annoys me or makes me anxious - and some days it’s almost everything. I feel so bad and so mean but it just comes out cause I get stressed over what he is doing. I obsess that he isn’t working enough (even though he does) , I compare to prior people, my parents, etc, the cycle never ends —- I feel like such crap cause I know how bad it makes him feel
☀️ I start thinking about it over and over again and I make myself better by hearing about other people who do the same things and I get the urge to get reassurance from people , my triggers are people who have a lot of fun by doing activities like bungee jumping, sky diving, and go out a lot with their friends and go clubbing etc , those who just have similar life style to him make me feel so much better , but I have to admit my ROCD was SOOOO bad before I would get angry at him or bring it up to him or encourage him to do certain things and now I’m learning that acceptance is KEY!
Wow :( I feel ur pain , its sooooo hard ! How do you cope with it?
I’ve just ask for time to my bf because of thisss :(
Time away from him?
Yes
I know! I used to do that but I promise you it got sooooooooooooo much better once I started to accept it to myself , like for eg. I would say “he is not outgoing, he is quiet but I love him anyway that’s why I haven’t left him” or For you say to yourself “he doesn’t work as much as X and that’s okay, he doesn’t need to be that way” like just accept everything that your fighting against even tho here and there I still do it it for so much better and easier because I broke the cycle
I love my boyfriend so much! Sometimes though I get irritated with everything and anything he does. He won’t do anything bad, just make a joke, or laugh, and I get anxious, which I think is because I’m internally checking how I feel about him (completely unaware I’m even doing it), and then I get irritated. And it’s like I’m always irritated by anything he does. I feel it’s because my mind is rescreening how I feel and checking my emotions and whether “I love him enough” and that anxiety makes me anxious. Is this normal? Anyone else know what I’m talking about or have tips to help me?
Is it normal/ok to think your partner is weird? I keep thinking it and I keep panicking and feeling like I don’t like him and need to leave. I’m starting to worry that maybe he’s just too weird, or maybe a “little off” and crazy. It’s so frustrating.
Anyone else who spends every day with their partner have times where they feel disassociated and just don’t feel anything and panic that you don’t feel anything- makes me sad when I get agitated at everything he does when I feel like that
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