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Yes very normal my boyfriend is the same. Can I ask, do you get urges in your ROCD? How does yours show? X
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Yes that is normal behavior
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You literally sound the exact same as me!!!
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I constantly will bring up to him what annoys me or makes me anxious - and some days it’s almost everything. I feel so bad and so mean but it just comes out cause I get stressed over what he is doing. I obsess that he isn’t working enough (even though he does) , I compare to prior people, my parents, etc, the cycle never ends —- I feel like such crap cause I know how bad it makes him feel
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- 6y ago
☀️ I start thinking about it over and over again and I make myself better by hearing about other people who do the same things and I get the urge to get reassurance from people , my triggers are people who have a lot of fun by doing activities like bungee jumping, sky diving, and go out a lot with their friends and go clubbing etc , those who just have similar life style to him make me feel so much better , but I have to admit my ROCD was SOOOO bad before I would get angry at him or bring it up to him or encourage him to do certain things and now I’m learning that acceptance is KEY!
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- 6y ago
Wow :( I feel ur pain , its sooooo hard ! How do you cope with it?
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I’ve just ask for time to my bf because of thisss :(
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Time away from him?
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Yes
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I know! I used to do that but I promise you it got sooooooooooooo much better once I started to accept it to myself , like for eg. I would say “he is not outgoing, he is quiet but I love him anyway that’s why I haven’t left him” or For you say to yourself “he doesn’t work as much as X and that’s okay, he doesn’t need to be that way” like just accept everything that your fighting against even tho here and there I still do it it for so much better and easier because I broke the cycle
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- 22w ago
Right now, i’m waiting for a response from my partner. Yesterday, we got into a serious conversation about the repeated cycle of reassurance seeking and extreme anxiety. he’s been so incredibly patient but I think he’s hit a crosswords in that if I don’t make serious, healthier changes, he does not see the relationship continuing in a healthy or meaningful way anymore. This morning, I told him I wanted to give him space and to respond once he felt comfortable. I attended a support group today but I am consumed with spiraling, obsessive thoughts due to his lack of response now that it’s 5pm and I sent that text at 8am. I dont want to overwhelm him but i just dont know how to sit with the uncertainty. I feel like his lack of response and communication today means he wants to break up. I feel sick and cannot eat. I dont know what to do- any suggestions or thoughts?
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Does Rocd make it nearly impossible to forgive your partner for anything. Whether it is big or small? My situation is so gray area where there’s something my bf did that I feel like I’m not okay with but he did this when we were first dating (not bf and gf yet). I ruminate all day about it bc I don’t want to lose him and see a future with him and I know he loves me so purely. But I also feel like I’m going against my morals here bc I do feel betrayed by what he did. I try to forgive him by diminishing my feelings and telling myself “he never did anything physical with a girl or went out with another girl while we were together” but still feel so hurt that he even messaged another girl while us dating. He’s given me an explanation and has proved how much I can trust him so I’m just completely stuck on whether I should forgive something I know I would’ve never done to him or leave him even though the only thing he’s done wrong was before us becoming official. I’ve broken up with him countless times over this situation bc I feel like I “can’t live with it” but then immediately when we break up I want him back and I kind of understand his explanation and reasoning. I don’t know what is ocd and what is my real intuition anymore. I genuinely think it’s both. Are any of you guys in the same boat?
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I'm 18, and been in a relationship with my man for nearly 2 years. I started living with him around 2 months ago, and all I do is think about if he's cheating. We were long distance for a year and a half of our relationship, maybe seeing eachother once every month or two. I decided to move in with him, and ever since all I can think about is if he's cheating or watching porn. When he's in another room I think he's doing something wrong, I have to check on him every ten minutes to ease my anxiety. I didn't have this problem before moving in. Granted he has talked to some girls on his phone, even having his ex on his phone (didn't do anything bad) and he is porn addicted though he is getting better for me. It's gotten so bad I want to leave him. A couple days ago I broke up with him and it absolutely broke my heart, I couldn't bare it so I gave him a month to show me he can do better, and for me to work on myself. If I'm still unhappy with us I'm going to leave. I love this boy more than anything. I'm scared to be without him, this is my first real relationship. At this point I refuse to even sleep until he is sleeping. I don't want to start over, I don't want to leave him, but I really can't take this pain it's causing me. It's all I think about. I've convinced myself so many times that he's cheating, but I know he wouldn't. I question whether it's anxiety or intuition. Maybe I just know deep down he really is cheating and I just don't want to believe it. I don't know. I don't think he would do that, but at the same time he's really into women. I hate that he looks at other girls in a sexual way, it bothers me so much, and we talk about it often, but with it being an addiction it's difficult. He has gotten a lot better since we have talked about it. He understands I have an issue and is usually happy to talk about it over and over and promise me over and over that he's not cheating. He allows me to have his phone whenever I want and everything, I have no reason to think he's cheating, but I can't get over it. It's not fair to him either. How do I deal with this? How do I stop hurting so much?
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