Do any of you constantly have the feeling that ir cheating no ur partner psychologically? Like if u think someone is interesting that means ur not in love with ur partner! Or if u have a friend of the same sex as ur partner and u love him/her that means ur in love in a sexual way with them! I’m always thinking that I might Love someone either than my partner! It’s an awful sensation!

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Uhhhh wow; that is like that most rocd thing that I read today! (Haha didn't mean to make you feel bad, but I really thinks that joking around problems is a solution to take them more seriously so suffer less!!) Anyway; everything you write is completely normal; not cheating, and nor a confirmation I'd you love or not your bf! (Sorry for the big rassicuration, but it is like a key point).

5 months ago I was full of doubts like thoose. I kept asking myself, testing myself, ruminating, rationalizating, and feeling bad for all of it. If one day I didn't felt super attracted by my partner, my brain would have started screaming me that I don't love him enough. Same if I maby find someone else attractive, or if I get annoyed, or if I don't miss him all the time... Because I had this super wrong beliefs of "the right one" that I'll make you feel always good, always superattracted; that he will be the only one forever etc. But someone like that doesn't exist!! Thoose standards are not human! It's completely okay and normal to find other people interesting, attractive, or if you want to spend times with others. Sometimes, you can even take some infatuation for others people! But that, like I said, it's normal! You can't control your feelings!