rocd just keeps getting worse

my bf suffers from intrusive thoughts just like me. but i think we are accidentally fuelling eachothers intrusive thoughts. we are both terrified of being in a toxic relationship, or using eachother. and deep down i know we arent, but we both get so scared and it feels so real. im terrified im using him, or manipulating him, and hes scared of the exact same. the song using you by mars argo triggered me really bad, to the point i had that horrible anxious feeling for almost 20 minutes. we are both in horrible situations rn, and we are both trying to get back into therapy. how can i help both of us calm down? i know its just our intrusive thoughts but they feel so real :[ i just want us to be happy, i love him so much

mcpopkinmd

Date posted: 3y

Try listening to these podcasts together to understand that these thoughts are just your brain sending you both skewed, irrational messages that your mind does not have to listen to. Also, get the book Brain Lock. I hope this helps. Watch "Lunch and Learn: Relationship OCD (ROCD)" on YouTube https://youtu.be/bGq_qiWnTeU Watch "OCD3: Dr. Phillipson Talks Science, Symptoms & Treatment of OCD" on YouTube https://youtu.be/9MBcKI1_N_w Watch "Dr Jeffrey M Schwartz 'You are not your brain' at Mind & Its Potential 2011" on YouTube https://youtu.be/qcrGlUHlu4M Watch "The neuroscience of habit with Dr Jeffrey Schwartz at Mind & Its Potential 2015" on YouTube https://youtu.be/S0-NmxR3Lcg

Micky ♡

Date posted: 3y

thank you, ill definitely talk to them about listening to these together :] i really appreciate it

ravineoceon

Date posted: 3y

idk how to help because I never had ROCD and im very sorry for u and ur bf. Everythings gonna be okay bud <3

Micky ♡

Date posted: 3y

thank you so much :]] im sure itll be okay eventually

SpiraledOut

Date posted: 3y

Thank you so much! I watched the 2nd and 4th videos listed and they were incredible. The 2nd one everyone with “pure O” should watch, very reassuring. The 4th blew my mind.

anonymous_an...

Date posted: 22w

Advice ROCD

How do you guys get past the anxiety? I feel like my thoughts are the only thing that control my mind. So often I feel like I should just leave my partner even tho I love them so much because I just feel like these thoughts are too much. I over analyze everything. I feel so stuck and defeated. I just want to be normal. I feel so toxic for the thoughts that I have

Relationship OCD

Uypvqcm5

Date posted: 21w

ROCD

For the past 3 months ish I’ve been struggling on and off with this anxiety and fixation over my relationship. To wondering if i still have feelings for an old friend, wondering if i actually love him, wondering if the thoughts are all real and im just trying to cover it up with ocd. It sucks, when im talking to my boyfriend i feel fine. The words i love you and talks about the future come naturally. I can’t imagine myself with anyone but him. But this constant rumination on my relationship is KILLING me and I’m scared it’s going to ruin what i have. It makes me numb and disconnected which therefore makes me believe the thoughts even more. They just feel so real sometimes and it’s so scary like why can i not just enjoy it. We’ve been together for a while so i know there’s periods of like feelings ebb and flowing but this is so much more. It’s just constantly sitting on my chest with anxiety. My compulsions are coming on this app, looking at photos of us and confessing it to him. He’s very understanding and helpful. I love him so much. I just need help / I’m also just starting new meds as well ..

Ladybruh

Date posted: 17w

Help

I feel like my Rocd has become more sophisticated. It’s made me feel as if my healthy loving boyfriend is this terrible person. Or I’ll be thinking to myself like “I love him”, and in middle thought I get “no you don’t”. It’s convinced me that our values and beliefs are just TOO different (we’ve only disagreed on one thing in our relationship, but we talk it out). It’s like my ocd is clinging on to every reason why I should break up, like I don’t want this anymore, even tho I do! It’s frustrating. And the idea of doing erp terrifies me. Because I’m afraid if I do erp statements, that I’ll agree with them. Can someone give insight

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