rocd just keeps getting worse

my bf suffers from intrusive thoughts just like me. but i think we are accidentally fuelling eachothers intrusive thoughts. we are both terrified of being in a toxic relationship, or using eachother. and deep down i know we arent, but we both get so scared and it feels so real. im terrified im using him, or manipulating him, and hes scared of the exact same. the song using you by mars argo triggered me really bad, to the point i had that horrible anxious feeling for almost 20 minutes. we are both in horrible situations rn, and we are both trying to get back into therapy. how can i help both of us calm down? i know its just our intrusive thoughts but they feel so real :[ i just want us to be happy, i love him so much

ravineoceon

173d ago

idk how to help because I never had ROCD and im very sorry for u and ur bf. Everythings gonna be okay bud <3

Micky ♡

173d ago

thank you so much :]] im sure itll be okay eventually

mcpopkinmd

173d ago

Try listening to these podcasts together to understand that these thoughts are just your brain sending you both skewed, irrational messages that your mind does not have to listen to. Also, get the book Brain Lock. I hope this helps. Watch "Lunch and Learn: Relationship OCD (ROCD)" on YouTube https://youtu.be/bGq_qiWnTeU Watch "OCD3: Dr. Phillipson Talks Science, Symptoms & Treatment of OCD" on YouTube https://youtu.be/9MBcKI1_N_w Watch "Dr Jeffrey M Schwartz 'You are not your brain' at Mind & Its Potential 2011" on YouTube https://youtu.be/qcrGlUHlu4M Watch "The neuroscience of habit with Dr Jeffrey Schwartz at Mind & Its Potential 2015" on YouTube https://youtu.be/S0-NmxR3Lcg

Micky ♡

173d ago

thank you, ill definitely talk to them about listening to these together :] i really appreciate it

SpiraledOut

173d ago

Thank you so much! I watched the 2nd and 4th videos listed and they were incredible. The 2nd one everyone with “pure O” should watch, very reassuring. The 4th blew my mind.