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Hey so it’s been a year with rocd and I fortunately got into erp very early on and getting in contact with my therapist. I’m kinda upset because after year, medication, erp, and therapy has not done one thing to help. I went to 4 therapists now (not on here) and I just never seem to get any better. I feel super lost and hopeless. I’ve been so scared of even getting close with someone because I dread the feeling. Just in case I’m doing things wrong can people give me erp examples that they actually used. My issues seem to feel like this…I like a girl and then I realized she’s not really my type in looks. But too me I’d rather have personality. Also I’m obsessed with having my partner look good at all times. The one moment they look bad or don’t look good seems to set me into an rocd spiral. Another thing is as soon as I get a girl I just don’t want them but as soon as they ghost me or lose interest I fall in love with them. It’s extremely annoying and hurting me. I have no money for therapy and my therapy group stopped because my insurance doesn’t cover it anymore.

Maritza Solano

Date posted: 3y

Hi! For someone to offer erps that potentially arent tailored to you wouldnt be helpful to you. But i will say it does sound like you have some work to do on yourself. Try working on yourself and growing yourself. Learn your attachment style, know your values, and learn about your traumas that you may have and heal those.

Marrkk18

Date posted: 3y

Thank you unfortunately I feel as tho that would be a compulsion. The more research I do the worse it gets. Even it’s learning more about my issues which makes no sense. I feel like the more I find wrong with me or for better words my “issues” the more I become self aware of them which just makes me feel useless. :(

Maritza Solano

Date posted: 3y

No worries! Believe in yourself and take care of yourself!

Marrkk18

Date posted: 3y

Ty sm

Marrkk18

Date posted: 3y

Hey one quick question. I met this girl online. She’s pretty cute but lives far away. She wants to come down or set up a time in the summer for me to take a plane over. We have been taking everyday for about 3 months. Altho in my opinion she isn’t perfect obv no one is. But I find myself enjoying time with her. She is pretty but also isn’t my type. I have a lot of friends that dated ppl that they weren’t into the looks as much as there personality. My one friend use to say “id rather date someone who has a great humor then a super hot girl who’s like a brick wall” lol. Basically what I’m asking is with ocd I find it extremely hard to like someone because I really don’t know what it’s suppose to feel like as everyone is different. By me asking if I should go for her would that reassurance. Should I just follow what I feel is right even tho logically with ocd it feels wrong. I came to conclusion that I rlly don’t want to date someone unless there are a 10/10 which isn’t realistic

Maritza Solano

Date posted: 3y

@Marrkk18 Youre seeking reassurance in the sense that you want someone to tell you if youre doing the right or wrong thing.

Klynn2700

Date posted: 3y

If you’re ever bored, Mark Freemsn is great to listen to on YouTube! I believe in you. Change is not linear.

Marrkk18

Date posted: 3y

Ty :)

Maritza Solano

Date posted: 3y

A compulsion is doing something to get reassurance or to feel better or to get rid of unwanted feelings. If youre doing these things to learn and grow then thats not a compulsion. Be aware if you are using it as a compulsion and if you are then tone it down and take it bit by bit. Growing and learning and healing wont feel like the greatest feeling in the world, its okay to feel how you do, push forward and keep living to have a better future for yourself

Marrkk18

Date posted: 3y

Ah gotcha. Sorry if I came off negative or aggressive I just got off of work and I’m just tired mentally and physically.

UUCM

Date posted: 22w

How to do ERP for Harm & ROCD regarding my spouse?

My spouse is my best friend. A few months ago I basically worshipped the ground he walked on. He’s the best partner in the world so no “maybe he’s not the right person” commentary. Lately my fear of going psychotic has brought back my intrusive thoughts about harming my husband. Now, whether it be from emotional dissociation or medications, I can’t feel any emotions so I’ve developed ROCD. This is ruining my life and has been a month from hell since my spouse/comfort zone makes me feel nothing. My therapist hasn’t given me any info on how to do anything about this other than reading a book (didn’t help). Any ERP suggestions? I haven’t done ERP before for these types of OCD

Anonymous

Date posted: 12w

ROCD policies suck

I am struggling to live life and do my ERPs. I am taking medication and doing ERP still along with therapy (had 10+ years of PTSD therapy). I don't have anything to look forward to. I've accomplished a lot in life but they don't matter to me anymore. There's little to no reward or there's stimuli of feeling or being treated badly even if I did good. Coping skills have become maladaptive. My values have changed and there is nothing I really want but my ex for the past years. ROCD is making my body react as if I am unable to be happy without my ex. He helped me through hard times and heal from trauma, but he was his own mess of trauma that I could not heal (he needs a real therapist and to go consistently). Yet when I was with him ROCD (didn't know about it at the time) kept telling me to leave from his unreasonable actions. Hard time sitting in limbo as I'm unable to decide and hard to keep doing nothing without something to look forward in life. I feel self abandonment whether I go back to him or stay away. I want to be able to live with myself even if I'll never end up with anyone. I hate not doing something of self care or feeling anything but apathy or worse every day despite doing things anyways. I worked hard to get safe only to have no joy in life anymore.

jerreisstrong

Date posted: 6w

Rough time getting started in therapy

Has anyone else had a rough start? I’m 4 sessions in and have had no actual ERP work happen, I have 2 different therapists because none have availability to meet 2 times a week. Both those therapists are not available for the next 2 weeks so now I’m going to see a new 3rd one. Each time I’ve seen a new therapist I feel like the whole first session is spent with them re explaining everything. I’m paying for this out of pocket because they don’t accept Tricare which is my insurance as a Retired Marine. So I’m 960 in, and honestly feel worse than when I started. I get zero suggestions on what to do between sessions and feel so incomplete after my session finishes. I feel like I’ve gotten more help asking chat gpt questions on EPR and how to deal with ROCD than I do in my sessions . Does anyone have any insight or helpful advice here?

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