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Before I realized I had ocd, I would have this ONE panic thought that I couldn’t shake. Being in a long term relationship, and having intimate moments with my boyfriend, I would always get obsessively scared over the thought of being pregnant. I’ve been on birth control for the whole relationship but my brain never fails to tell me how I look so bloated, and that means I’m pregnant. I have panic searched for any sort of relief of ‘proof’ that I was fine. But in the end I would always get so triggered over being SOMEHOW pregnant. He has never finished inside, mostly pull out (way before he was going to finish) or actual pull out method. Also, he wants to finish inside next time we have sex, and I want to let him, to have that special bond with him but I’m so scared of getting pregnant and having a responsibility I desperately don’t want in my life. Again, I take my birth control (Junel FE if anyone is curious) and from all the reviews no one has stated how it failed them and got them pregnant, so I should be in the clear. Plus I’d most likely take plan b the day after I let him come inside…but I’m still so so scared. What do I do? ALSO what OCD does pregnancy fall in to?

hellocass

Date posted: 3y

I have this problem very badly. I feel your pain and I want to help, but just try to reassure yourself how it has worked well in the past. Birth control emergency contraceptives are also always available to you if you need them. Keep enough money for one and stock up on pregnancy tests, just dont scare yourself too much.

crybaby

Date posted: 3y

Thank you sm!! :))

allieandscrup

Date posted: 3y

First I’ll just say it doesn’t matter “what OCD pregnancy falls into.” The themes are just categories of common obsessions to organize and understand OCD better. Essentially all ocd is the same and treated the same no matter what the content of the obsession is. Anyway, Ive also been very afraid of this and gone to extreme (and unnecessary) measures out of fear of getting pregnant. I think it’s pretty normal, and even women without ocd get anxiety about this when they have no real reason to be afraid of getting pregnant. I’m currently on birth control but I still make my husband wear a condom or pull out. I really don’t feel like it’s an ocd thing tho. It just feels like being careful bc pregnancy is a risk lol. Birth control isn’t 100% effective, so combining methods seems reasonable. Idk I’m not going to recommend you do one thing or another because it’s your life and you should only do what you’re comfortable with, no matter what your boyfriend wants to do. So I’m not going to say oh just let him not pull out, it’ll be an exposure! But obviously with anxiety, you could combine every method of birth control possible and still be afraid of getting pregnant. You could be abstinant and still be afraid of getting pregnant haha. If we are dealing with it like it’s ocd, then I guess we just have to allow ourselves to sit with the anxiety that we could get pregnant and that even if there was an accidentally pregnancy, it wouldn’t be the end of the world, and we could cope with that. It probably doesn’t feel that way, but ocd likes to make things feel as catastrophic as possible

crybaby

Date posted: 3y

Wow…geninuely thank you. I appreciate the advise and all that. Truly! :’)

Kristen w

Date posted: 3y

Hey I didn’t read this whole thing but I have heard of this type of OCD occurring with religious OCD specifically purity culture… If that might be you you might want to check out the book pure by Linda Kay Klein

crybaby

Date posted: 3y

I’ll check it out!! I DID cry the first time I had sex, and told him it was because I was worried god would hate me…….so maybe 😅

Kristen w

Date posted: 3y

@crybaby Hey yes I had the same thing one time I starve myself sexually for over a year completely… I got praised by the people in church but really I was experiencing sexual anorexia and religious OCD… I realize now I can be religious and be free of this disorder at the same time… Read that book I suggest she will understand if this is the case…I listen to the audiobook on audible

mostdope42

Date posted: 3y

i felt like i was reading my own diary here. Me too!! also wht got me to realize i possibly had ocd!

Mika05

Date posted: 23w

Is pregnancy ocd even a theme?

I know this might sound silly but since I lost my virginity I'm constantly scared I'm pregnant even tho i have my periods. This month I didn't get it and every time a new month starts I say to myself if you don't get your period this month it means ur pregnant. Ps I haven't had any sexual activity for 6 months now and since then I got my periods except February. Also I've spent alot of money on blood test to confirm if I'm pregnant or not and all of them came back negative. Lastly I have bruises on my stomach cause everytime I wake up and I go to bed I press my abdomen hard to see if I can detect any abnormalities which indicate pregnancy. Anyways I'm not sure if this ocd or not since it feels dif that any other themes.

Holl1

Date posted: 17w

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So I’ve just found out I’m pregnant and I’m freaking out rn I’ve been getting thoughts like “I’ll be a bad mum” and overthinking everything & my OCD is convincing me that I’ll act on my thoughts because of my hormones and stuff. I’ve also got a fear of being sick & I’m stressing over that too. Anyone else who has harm OCD pregnant or a Mum can give me some advice pls😭

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FoolishMorta...

Date posted: 6w

Pregnancy exacerbating OCD

I'm roughly 2 months pregnant and I'm struggling so bad with OCD (specifically surrounding psychosis/postpartum psychosis, postpartum depression, postpartum anxiety, etc). I'm so discouraged because I was sub-clinical for over a year and this pregnancy and the hormones are undoing all of my progress. And it actually seems so much harder than BEFORE when I was at a low point. It feels like the hormones are ruining my brain and making me lose my mind. I keep looking over my shoulder, getting intrusive images of scary hallucinations that I might start to get, i fear hurting myself or my baby, etc. Psychosis in pregnancy is 1 in 1000. That's not that rare. I feel like I just upped my chances of my biggest fear happening and I have so much regret and fear around that. I'm also a Christian and I'm relying on God so much more now than ever, but I'm afraid of that too because people in psychosis often have religious delusions and I can't tell if I'm slipping into that or if God is really just using this trial to pull me closer to him. I just feel so defeated. I feel like ERP just isn't going to work for me because the hormones are a whole different animal that "normal" people with OCD don't have. Like they're making me immune to ERP or that ERP isn't for people like me and I'm hopeless.

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