- Date posted
- 3y
Sexual Orientation Related OCD
I am here because I have no friends who I can talk to about my intrusive thoughts. It has come to a point where it is all I can think of 24/7 from the moment I wake until I go to bed. The thoughts persist no matter the time of day, just at different volumes. In some instances, I can focus and do the tasks that are needed at hand while having the thoughts as background noise, and other times it feels like they get so loud I can't focus on anything else. OCD has taken over my life, my friends, and now I feel like my sanity is slowly leaving my body. I tried doing ERP today, which typically works during my sessions, but it felt like I gave up. I went into ruminating and googling and stopped until I physically could not take the overwhelming amount of anxiety. My thoughts centered around my sexuality. What if I am gay? What if I am forcing my relationship with my fiance? What if I never loved him? What if I faked everything? What if me being distanced - physically and emotionally mean I am gay? What if I am using OCD as an excuse? What if my mom was right? (she would always tell me growing up that God told her I was gay). With ERP, I was trying to watch TikToks of this woman who considers herself a "late-blooming lesbian" meaning she had been married to a man and had a child before she came out. I tried to lean into the anxiety but my brain just started instantly comparing, spiraling, ruminating...Sometimes I would reassure myself and sometimes I would question why I didn't feel anxious for a second (that it meant it was true). When I first went into ERP, I did not think about how difficult it was just to simply say "maybe so, maybe not." Very Brief Background: My mother has very chronic and untreated paranoid Schizophrenia which consists of delusions (made-up thoughts like government going after her or Johnny Depp loved her) and hallucinations (visual perception that is not there - seeing demons, dead people, usually she would attach spirituality into things she saw). Anyways she would say I was a lesbian and that she needed to keep me away from my sister because God told her I was capable of terrible things. I grew up confused and remembered my mom making fun of me whenever I would be vocal about having a crush on a guy...she would tell me I was faking it and in denial. I think this most definitely has led me into the position I am in today.