I think there could be a way that you balance both talking about your struggles as well as your husband’s too. He feels as though you only talk about your OCD and parents, which might be true, but you in turn feel as though you have to shut him out of that part of your life now. Why not dedicate time either once a week or a few minutes a day as your struggle-talk time, time when he knows that you want to talk about your OCD struggles and parent issues, then after that focus on the two of you instead. It doesn’t have to be an all-or-nothing situation when talking about it between you two. You might also realize that he is struggling with something too, but hasn’t had the opportunity to bring it up because he is trying to support you. Might be a good thing to take some time to let him know how you felt when he said that to you, but also offer a solution that fits the both of you. He loves you, otherwise he wouldn’t have confronted you about changing the topic of conversation (he could have just become withdrawn without you knowing it, but instead he saw something he wasn’t comfortable with and suggested a change). I’ve realized that there are some things our therapists will understand better than our partners, which is fine. Our partners didn’t study our particular disorder for years on end, and they don’t know how to help in the way a professional does. It’s not his job to find solutions, it’s just his job to comfort you and support you through this. Likewise, it’s not fair for you to only talk about your problems, when he wants to spend time with you as his friend and wife. Going back into your shell seems like a bit of revenge - like « if he doesn’t want to listen then I won’t tell him anything », kind of thing. But that doesn’t help either if you does it? He’s not asking you to never speak of your struggles and parents again, he might just want balance. Might be a good idea to talk to him about it and find a solution together