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Hey bud, not to be a party pooper her but I believe she might have been asking for reasurance and you gave her some. Also, butterflies in your stomach and hyperfocusing in someone is a common thing for people with sexually themed OCD. The best advice I can give both of you, is stop trying to figure it out, your true self is likely to be the person you eer before obsessions started but don't keep questioning, I say from experience that it will only make it harder.
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Best to sit and chill man, im currently doing that now 🤟🏻
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You have a point !
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this has happened to me so many times!! i find that the best way to manage it is just to try to be in the present in the moment- do they make you happy? do you feel good around them and enjoy their company? if you’re not sure- that’s okay too! it helps for me to remind myself i’m not forced to marry or commit to anyone forever and if i need to there’s always a way out:)
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This is so helpful and insightful for me🥺
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@qu33rsci3ntist i’m so glad:)) you got this
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This is my opinion… is if you get butterflies when you see them & can’t stop making eye contact with them. That’s the real you . Also, when I see a woman with a fatty I just be like “Godda*um she got that thang on her” & continue looking
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Yeah but anxiety can feel the same way bro, its all confusing af
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But fasho shawty with fattys im like 👀👀👀👀👀
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Ocd playing tricks on you , I've gone through this crap it's so frustrating and you feel alone. You're not alone I've gone through this crap. I actually worked with a guy who was gay had a fear of going straight, he was pretty much saying the same thing's as me just on the opposite end
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It’s most likely ocd playing tricks on you
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I go through the same thing I identify as straight as well … They have support groups with Nocd and I actually joined one today and there was this very attractive girl and I was focused on her pretty much the whole time.
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True
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Don’t try to figure it out, Do erp.
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What was your orientation before this happened ?
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Straight
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Do you think I’m lying to myself and him!?
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I’ve had so many moments of clarity with my OCD that I love my boyfriend and I’m beyond willing to go through this to be better and be with him. in the back of mind I’ve in a way known I was at least somewhat sexually attracted to women (I’m a woman) since the start of the ocd it was always like “okay. Fine, but I don’t want to date a girl” I only just realized this after the ocd started, I never really argued with this. my ocd has always revolved around if I’m romantically interested in women and not men. I’ve done so many compulsions through this year and a half and 9 times out of 10 have come to the conclusion that I don’t want to be with a woman romantically. I always end up feeling like I know I love my boyfriend. But the doubts don’t stop about whether I want to spend my life with a woman instead, my heart literally breaks to think of not being with my bf and imagining him with someone else. I don’t want to be with a woman I know deep down somewhere underneath the anxiety that that’s not what I want. It doesn’t feel natural for me, unfulfilling. I want to tell my boyfriend about the possible sexual attraction to women (ik it’s still ocd related) but I’m scared that once I tell him, I’ll realize that I actually do want to be with women and not with him. Ugh I’ve spent hours today ruminating about this after being solid in my commitment with him for a little while, I’m stuck in this loop and idk how to get out right now
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Im a 21 year old female in a straight relationship with the best guy a girl could ever ask for. About 2 months ago, I went to get coffee with a friend and as I dropped her off, I got a “weird” vibe from her and the look she gave me which lead to the thought of “should I kiss her”….Ive never had a thought like that before and I never have ever wanted to kiss another girl. I have also never had a desire to be with another girl (sexually or romantically). Now though, I have had one other experience of being with a different friend going to get lunch and it felt weird. Ever since then I have been on google non stop with hundreds of different searches, questioning if im lying to myself of my boyfriend, wondering about my past relationships even though Ive only dated boys, been attracted to boys, crushed on boys, etc… boy crazy! Reading on other forums has been a big thing too or doing quizzes. I believe its SO-OCD but im so scared that what if its not. I am in therapy and actually had two weeks of not even thinking about it or googling it until yesterday. I dont know what to do.
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Hi everyone, I’m a 30-year-old woman, and I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 5 years. I’ve always felt emotionally close to him — he’s caring, supportive, and we planned a future together, including having a family. I don’t want to leave him. He means so much to me. But for a while now, I’ve been obsessing over the fact that I don’t feel much sexual attraction to him anymore. It’s not like I never felt anything — when we first met, there were butterflies, excitement, emotional connection… something real. He was never “just a friend” to me. But the physical side of the relationship feels like it’s slowly faded, and I’m panicking about what that means. I keep thinking things like: – “Maybe I chose the wrong person.” – “You can’t be in love without sexual desire.” – “If I was truly in love, I would still want him.” – “What if I’ve been lying to myself this whole time?” Sometimes my body reacts — I can feel physical closeness or even arousal — but my mind shuts down and says: “no, this isn’t right.” Other times, I feel tension, resistance, or even disgust during intimacy, and I can’t tell if that’s anxiety or if something is fundamentally wrong. What makes this even more confusing is that I truly believe that real love includes sexual attraction. For me, it’s all part of one feeling — not separate. So if the attraction is gone, does that mean the love is too? Is it possible that this is still OCD — that my mind is obsessing and disconnecting me from my real feelings? Has anyone experienced something similar? Any support would mean so much. I feel so stuck between my mind and my heart.
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