Ugh. Seriously stressing here… can’t tell if I actually like the guy I’m dating or if if I’m lying to myself. I can’t stop questioning if my feelings towards him are real. The what if thoughts keep flooding my brain. Of course I turn to Google and it’s like “that because you don’t really like him” and now I’m freaking out even more. I would hate to lead him on any longer and I would never be able to forgive myself if I am .. how do I know if this is Ocd or if I really don’t like him!?

What was your orientation before this happened ?

Straight

Do you think I’m lying to myself and him!?

It’s most likely ocd playing tricks on you

I go through the same thing I identify as straight as well … They have support groups with Nocd and I actually joined one today and there was this very attractive girl and I was focused on her pretty much the whole time.

This is my opinion… is if you get butterflies when you see them & can’t stop making eye contact with them. That’s the real you . Also, when I see a woman with a fatty I just be like “Godda*um she got that thang on her” & continue looking

Yeah but anxiety can feel the same way bro, its all confusing af

But fasho shawty with fattys im like 👀👀👀👀👀

Hey bud, not to be a party pooper her but I believe she might have been asking for reasurance and you gave her some. Also, butterflies in your stomach and hyperfocusing in someone is a common thing for people with sexually themed OCD. The best advice I can give both of you, is stop trying to figure it out, your true self is likely to be the person you eer before obsessions started but don't keep questioning, I say from experience that it will only make it harder.

Best to sit and chill man, im currently doing that now 🤟🏻

You have a point !

this has happened to me so many times!! i find that the best way to manage it is just to try to be in the present in the moment- do they make you happy? do you feel good around them and enjoy their company? if you’re not sure- that’s okay too! it helps for me to remind myself i’m not forced to marry or commit to anyone forever and if i need to there’s always a way out:)

This is so helpful and insightful for me🥺

@qu33rsci3ntist i’m so glad:)) you got this

True

Ocd playing tricks on you , I've gone through this crap it's so frustrating and you feel alone. You're not alone I've gone through this crap. I actually worked with a guy who was gay had a fear of going straight, he was pretty much saying the same thing's as me just on the opposite end