anyone else have ROCD focused on their partner? like worrying their partner is going to leave/cheat or having paranoid thoughts about their partner? a lot of what I see about ROCD has to do with doubting your love for your partner (I've had that in a previous relationship so I know that blows) but just wanted to connect with people whose fears are focused more on their partner's feelings.
Yes this is exactly how my ocd manifests and it’s helpful to see someone else talk about this. Most ROCD seems to be around people having doubts about their partner. Mine is the opposite I’m obsessed with him. I’ve also obsessed about his life before we met and need so much detail it’s ridiculous. I obsess over his words and my ocd is constantly looking out for danger when in reality he’s been the absolute best husband and never done anything wrong.
ugh it's awful. I also deal with the retroactive jealousy. my partner can tell me he wants to marry me to my face and later my brain will concoct some bizarre narrative that he's leaving me. it feels so silly! and it hurts because it affected our relationship before I got on more medication and now I'm just trying to not ask him for reassurance. starting ERP soon and not looking forward to it but I'm hopeful it'll finally get me over this loop.
Yes this is my issue!
Hey @angel20 Okay I’m up to speed now. Would be great to hear from Renata. An update that I just got put on a 25 mg dose of Zoloft for my ROCD. I’m on day 3 and feeling more anxious than usual (which is normal for weeks 1-2 of medication) but I can circle back and let you know how it goes. Starting erp therapy in 2 weeks so I’ll let you know too.
@✨Leo Good luck 🤞. Are you having therapy through NOCD?
Oh gosh this is exactly me!! My brain concocts all sorts of scenarios and completely changes things he’s said to something scary. I’ve done so much reassurance seeking and I’m now trying so hard not to ask but I struggle with trying to reassure myself. Do you find that when you do get reassurance your ocd later tries to change the narrative? Does medication help? I’ve not tried it. Also are you starting ERP through NOCD? Sorry for questions just unusual to hear someone with same issues as me.
Have you all gotten any help with this? I’m in the same boat!
@Anonymous Not professional help just trying to educate myself through apps like this and podcasts etc. I believe AlexisRenata was due to start therapy 🤔. An update would be good.
Can relationship ocd not just be doubts about my partner of my feelings for them? Cause my ROCD started as that like “what if i didnt love them as much” or something then it translated to more things like “she’s a slut” or “she’s ugly” even though she’s NONE of those things. things like “i will cheat on her” and such. Plus feeling like i like somebody else, imagining myself with other people. Fear i might fall for someone else and overthinking that and feeling guilty. Just my thoughts, my ex was always involved and it made me feel guilt and doubt and anxiety and i HAD to confess it to them. Cause someone asked here whats ROCD and someone simply said doubting feelings and it makes me nervous cause i’d like to think i had rocd but seeing that makes me nervous that what if the thoughts were true?
Hey beautiful people 🌈 Anyone else have cheating ROCD ? Constant fear of being cheated on and cheating ? How do you cope with it, and with your partner if you have one ? I need some coping advice please 🥺🫠🫠
I think I have relationship OCD. I will be doing great with my boyfriend then out of no where I get this intrusive thought that he thinks other people are attractive and has a wandering eye for others and I need reassurance immediately. And when he gives me reassurance, I think he’s lying. After like an hour of back and forth repetitive conversation I feel better, then the next day it happens again. Every. Single. Day. I freak out and blow up and need reassurance. I can’t tell if I’m getting these thoughts because they are true or because I’ve been with someone in the past who has cheated on me so I believe that all people get these thoughts. I’m so ready for a cure. Does anyone know what to do? I don’t want to live with this
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