anyone else have ROCD focused on their partner? like worrying their partner is going to leave/cheat or having paranoid thoughts about their partner? a lot of what I see about ROCD has to do with doubting your love for your partner (I've had that in a previous relationship so I know that blows) but just wanted to connect with people whose fears are focused more on their partner's feelings.
Yes this is exactly how my ocd manifests and it’s helpful to see someone else talk about this. Most ROCD seems to be around people having doubts about their partner. Mine is the opposite I’m obsessed with him. I’ve also obsessed about his life before we met and need so much detail it’s ridiculous. I obsess over his words and my ocd is constantly looking out for danger when in reality he’s been the absolute best husband and never done anything wrong.
ugh it's awful. I also deal with the retroactive jealousy. my partner can tell me he wants to marry me to my face and later my brain will concoct some bizarre narrative that he's leaving me. it feels so silly! and it hurts because it affected our relationship before I got on more medication and now I'm just trying to not ask him for reassurance. starting ERP soon and not looking forward to it but I'm hopeful it'll finally get me over this loop.
Yes this is my issue!
Hey @angel20 Okay I’m up to speed now. Would be great to hear from Renata. An update that I just got put on a 25 mg dose of Zoloft for my ROCD. I’m on day 3 and feeling more anxious than usual (which is normal for weeks 1-2 of medication) but I can circle back and let you know how it goes. Starting erp therapy in 2 weeks so I’ll let you know too.
@✨Leo Good luck 🤞. Are you having therapy through NOCD?
Oh gosh this is exactly me!! My brain concocts all sorts of scenarios and completely changes things he’s said to something scary. I’ve done so much reassurance seeking and I’m now trying so hard not to ask but I struggle with trying to reassure myself. Do you find that when you do get reassurance your ocd later tries to change the narrative? Does medication help? I’ve not tried it. Also are you starting ERP through NOCD? Sorry for questions just unusual to hear someone with same issues as me.
Have you all gotten any help with this? I’m in the same boat!
@Anonymous Not professional help just trying to educate myself through apps like this and podcasts etc. I believe AlexisRenata was due to start therapy 🤔. An update would be good.
Does anyone every worry about their significant other cheating on them with Rocd?
Does ROCD include fear of being cheated on or that your boyfriend will leave you or is losing feelings for you?
I’ve seen a few people talking about rocd where they get fears they aren’t attracted to or in love with their partner, I’ve gotten thoughts like this before. However, I also get the opposite where I get afraid my partner isn’t attracted to or in love with me and that they will leave me soon. This leads to a lot of reassurance seeking like asking if they hate me or are sick of me etc. I try really hard to suppress it because I know that can push someone away. I’m just wondering if anyone else struggles with this or could this be something else like attachment issues?
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