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I can't
Just got my OCD diagnosis last week. In trying to tell my brother, he shrugs it off as "everyone has OCD" to a certain extent. Seriously can't talk to someone who won't even try to understand.
Just got my OCD diagnosis last week. In trying to tell my brother, he shrugs it off as "everyone has OCD" to a certain extent. Seriously can't talk to someone who won't even try to understand.
My mom says this exact same thing. The thing some don’t understand is that for us ocd is real & quite debilitating.
Honestly, I had very little understanding of ocd until I looked into it for myself. I just believed the media and the odd way its worked its way into daily conversation for some people. "I like to organize my books im so OCD". It sucks to see the popularized perception of OCD is so incredibly wrong. Honestly it took 2 years of talk therapy for me to just find a tiktok that mentioned ROCD and sent me down a spiral of research because I'd never related to anything more in my life. But when I saw ROCD was labeled under OCD I was just "nah I don't care about cleanliness so this isn't me". I've since learned, if someone hasn't experienced OCD or doesn't know somebody who has, its not likely they'll understand at all. Even worse when they don't make an effort. I'm sorry you have to deal with that in your home Its rly a shame
Yes same, I couldn’t relate to it either because I wasn’t washing my hand all the time etc. But when I found out about rocd my hole perspective changed, now I understand that it comes in many themes and it can be different for everyone. The only thing that is the same for everyone with ocd is the horrible feeling and doubts that you have all the time that haunts you
I’m still not diagnosed but I hope I will because I relate sooo much to it, like when I first read about rocd (which I was struggling with) I felt soo relieved and understanding
@San2 SAME. It brought me the greatest relief. I finally had answers to what I thought were issues that no one else dealt with, and I didn't feel alone anymore. It made so much sense
@CrimsonCaprisun Yes same it makes you feel like your not alone in it. I hope I will get better now
May I ask how long it took to get diagnosed? 😊 I’m also talking to a therapist now for 3/4 months and I’m not diagnosed yet but I hope I will soon
I have been in talk therapy for 11 years & only earlier this year did my psychiatrist office suggest checking about ocd with me. But I have had it since childhood when I look back. The first few sessions i had an official diagnosis.
That’s sooo long 🙁
I had childhood m trauma too work on at first & that was what they all treated during that time. It has only been in the last few years that even though I may do a little better with the talk therapy I don’t Maintain it long term & that is when someone finally saw the ocd I have in addition to that. So even though it has been a long while I have been in therapy I only started tbe ocd therapy about 4 months ago.
We’re treating also something else first in my case too. Fear of rejection. But they mentioned ocd before
So I recently got diagnosed with ocd, and due to me growing up in a household who doesn’t believe in it I have an even harder time grasping if it’s a real diagnosis or not. I know it is but my parents still get mad at me when I tell them not to reassure me and things like that, since they don’t want to understand me anytime. They always put the blame on me and they do everything and how I’m ungrateful. I am very greatful but I told my mom to try to understand this condition but she refuses to, my dad just completely ignores that it exists. It’s just hard to cope around it and not be stuck in a loop, I’m leaving in a few months after graduating so hopefully that will help. It’s hard when my parents don’t want to try to understand what I go through.
My symptoms are clear as day and they literally have disrupted every single thing in my life but I ask for help and they tell me to just change ,stop doing that,stop being weird,or they tell me it's in my head Im going crazy here and I don't know what to do.some one please if you have any advice id love to hear it Thank you.
My mom will sit and listen to me for quite a while, but she interrupts a lot and gets angry/upset. While I appreciate her passion, it's often stressful. Every time I come to her, if I even *mention* OCD, she gets frustrated and says, "Everyone deals with these issues, you know. It doesn't mean it's OCD." And I repeat, "I'm not saying my issues are unique — I'm saying the way I respond to them is a problem." But she just shakes her head and says, "Okay, I need to get back to my day." Full context, I'm an adult, and I live with my boyfriend, but I'm staying at my mom's for the next month. After living away from home for years, I went back to living with her during the pandemic, and I only recently left to live with him. Honestly, I think living with her for so long in my adulthood really messed with me and made me feel like a teenager all over again. I feel like my mental growth is stunted, and that's part of why my OCD is so bad lately. Not blaming, just noticing. She doesn't seem to understand how relieving the OCD diagnosis has been for me, because it explains so so so many things I've struggled with for years, and it's exciting to have more resources that can help me. But I think she sees it as me finding an excuse to *not* work on myself, which is just untrue. I'm not going to let OCD hold me back or use it as an excuse, but I'm also not going to pretend it's not a problem when I know it is — I was even diagnosed through NOCD. The whole point being to fix it, not use it as a crutch. When I have an issue, it's unbearable. Any issue, big or small, feels just the same. I feel a sinking feeling, my mind races, my heart beats out of my chest. I end up running to my support systems, crying, ruminating for days on end. Then, months later, the same exact issue can feel like nothing anymore, because it's no longer an obsession. I'm sure everyone deals with issues in a similar way, but I *know* there is something specific and debilitating going on with me. This is reassurance seeking, but in the face of being told I'm making a big deal out of nothing, can someone diagnosed with OCD tell me if they relate to the specific intensity of these feelings??
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