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Just got my OCD diagnosis last week. In trying to tell my brother, he shrugs it off as "everyone has OCD" to a certain extent. Seriously can't talk to someone who won't even try to understand.
Just got my OCD diagnosis last week. In trying to tell my brother, he shrugs it off as "everyone has OCD" to a certain extent. Seriously can't talk to someone who won't even try to understand.
My mom says this exact same thing. The thing some don’t understand is that for us ocd is real & quite debilitating.
Honestly, I had very little understanding of ocd until I looked into it for myself. I just believed the media and the odd way its worked its way into daily conversation for some people. "I like to organize my books im so OCD". It sucks to see the popularized perception of OCD is so incredibly wrong. Honestly it took 2 years of talk therapy for me to just find a tiktok that mentioned ROCD and sent me down a spiral of research because I'd never related to anything more in my life. But when I saw ROCD was labeled under OCD I was just "nah I don't care about cleanliness so this isn't me". I've since learned, if someone hasn't experienced OCD or doesn't know somebody who has, its not likely they'll understand at all. Even worse when they don't make an effort. I'm sorry you have to deal with that in your home Its rly a shame
Yes same, I couldn’t relate to it either because I wasn’t washing my hand all the time etc. But when I found out about rocd my hole perspective changed, now I understand that it comes in many themes and it can be different for everyone. The only thing that is the same for everyone with ocd is the horrible feeling and doubts that you have all the time that haunts you
I’m still not diagnosed but I hope I will because I relate sooo much to it, like when I first read about rocd (which I was struggling with) I felt soo relieved and understanding
@San2 SAME. It brought me the greatest relief. I finally had answers to what I thought were issues that no one else dealt with, and I didn't feel alone anymore. It made so much sense
@CrimsonCaprisun Yes same it makes you feel like your not alone in it. I hope I will get better now
May I ask how long it took to get diagnosed? 😊 I’m also talking to a therapist now for 3/4 months and I’m not diagnosed yet but I hope I will soon
I have been in talk therapy for 11 years & only earlier this year did my psychiatrist office suggest checking about ocd with me. But I have had it since childhood when I look back. The first few sessions i had an official diagnosis.
That’s sooo long 🙁
I had childhood m trauma too work on at first & that was what they all treated during that time. It has only been in the last few years that even though I may do a little better with the talk therapy I don’t Maintain it long term & that is when someone finally saw the ocd I have in addition to that. So even though it has been a long while I have been in therapy I only started tbe ocd therapy about 4 months ago.
We’re treating also something else first in my case too. Fear of rejection. But they mentioned ocd before
My symptoms are clear as day and they literally have disrupted every single thing in my life but I ask for help and they tell me to just change ,stop doing that,stop being weird,or they tell me it's in my head Im going crazy here and I don't know what to do.some one please if you have any advice id love to hear it Thank you.
My mom will sit and listen to me for quite a while, but she interrupts a lot and gets angry/upset. While I appreciate her passion, it's often stressful. Every time I come to her, if I even *mention* OCD, she gets frustrated and says, "Everyone deals with these issues, you know. It doesn't mean it's OCD." And I repeat, "I'm not saying my issues are unique — I'm saying the way I respond to them is a problem." But she just shakes her head and says, "Okay, I need to get back to my day." Full context, I'm an adult, and I live with my boyfriend, but I'm staying at my mom's for the next month. After living away from home for years, I went back to living with her during the pandemic, and I only recently left to live with him. Honestly, I think living with her for so long in my adulthood really messed with me and made me feel like a teenager all over again. I feel like my mental growth is stunted, and that's part of why my OCD is so bad lately. Not blaming, just noticing. She doesn't seem to understand how relieving the OCD diagnosis has been for me, because it explains so so so many things I've struggled with for years, and it's exciting to have more resources that can help me. But I think she sees it as me finding an excuse to *not* work on myself, which is just untrue. I'm not going to let OCD hold me back or use it as an excuse, but I'm also not going to pretend it's not a problem when I know it is — I was even diagnosed through NOCD. The whole point being to fix it, not use it as a crutch. When I have an issue, it's unbearable. Any issue, big or small, feels just the same. I feel a sinking feeling, my mind races, my heart beats out of my chest. I end up running to my support systems, crying, ruminating for days on end. Then, months later, the same exact issue can feel like nothing anymore, because it's no longer an obsession. I'm sure everyone deals with issues in a similar way, but I *know* there is something specific and debilitating going on with me. This is reassurance seeking, but in the face of being told I'm making a big deal out of nothing, can someone diagnosed with OCD tell me if they relate to the specific intensity of these feelings??
LONG VENT POST: This is my second post of the day. Seriously, I am SO sorry. I have therapy tomorrow, I promise I will shut up after this lmao. Anyway, for Memorial Day weekend, I spent it at my aunt/uncles vacation house. Fortunately it wasn’t a big crowd - just my mom, grandmother, aunt, uncle and I. For context, I come from a pretty big family, and I am the youngest of 7 cousins and a younger sister to two brothers. All my cousins are in their early to mid 20’s, each very successful in school and their careers. My half brother is 29, and absolutely crushing it. My full brother is turning 23, he’s also doing amazing with school. I just turned 20 in April, I feel very lost. I know I want to be a forensic psychiatrist one day, and that I want my PhD. I want to be the best therapist I can be, but the fact that I barely get by with ocd/adhd has been discouraging me, so I currently feel like a flop. Anyway though, spending time with my aunts/uncles/cousins/grandparents triggers my ocd the most, as majority of them can be on the judgmental side. ESPECIALLY my aunt, she’s on my moms side, and she and my mom are total opposites. My aunts a very calculated, straightforward, logical, stern, sassy buisnesswoman. She’s successful, but lacks a lot of understanding and can be so cold and just mean. My moms a kindergarten teacher in a struggling community, and she’s always thinking about others before herself, extremely emotional, caring, but neglects her own needs a lot. They’re sisters, and they bump heads a ton. My aunt and all of her kids aren’t neurodivergent. They simply don’t understand mental health. My mom does, thank god. My aunt and uncle think that if a kid is having a psychotic break, then that kid should be kicked out of the house and not helped at all. My mom and I entirely disagree with this idea, and that someone clearly mentally suffering NEEDS mental health help asap, and they need to be home. The streets are the last place someone suffering should be. While we were vacationing at the house, my mom argued about this with my uncle. I was asleep, thank god, but I seriously hate having people in my family like this. I can never tell them about me having ocd, they’ll think it’s just an “excuse” for not getting things done, or just me trying to feel special. The reality is, they don’t get it. My full brother went through the worst psychotic break a few years ago. It lasted two years on and off due to bipolar disorder, but thank god he got himself help and he’s doing absolutely amazing now. He’s frustrated and embarassed with himself but now he’s on track, and as I said, crushing it with school. But the entire time he was going through this, my aunt and uncle just didn’t understand. To keep it short, they thought his mental problems were behavioral, and that he’s a “crazy” kid. The reality is, he was coping with the loss of his childhood best friend and our other uncle who was like a second father figure to us. He had manic episodes from the grief and self medicating with drugs and alcohol. This was all the while Covid was happening and he was a freshman at a college states away. He was so vunerable. I’m saying all this because, well, how am I to seriously be forward about my mental struggles when they couldn’t even show the slightest amount of empathy to my brother, who was struggling, so much more intensely than me? I’m quiet at family gatherings when they’re around for this exact reason. I have so much resentment toward them for it. I try to avoid them when I can, because I love them, I just hate their actions/views. What do you guys do with these kinds of people?
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