Just have to accept?

I hate the fact there is no cure. Just to accept a life of having these gross ass thoughts is as good as it gets. It’s a miserable existence. It’s bull shit. There’s nothing. Constantly thinking if I were only more spiritual. If I were only not doing this or that. If I just did this. Yoga, meditation, quit using pot, exercise more, run away to the woods. There is nothing that I can do to make these thoughts go away. I don’t even give a shit that there there sometimes anymore. But then I remember that that’s as good as it gets. That’s it. That’s the best I can hope for. And so I find no meaning in anything. And everything I do in my life will always have gross horrible thoughts just around the corner. And well that’s all I get. I really can’t get in board with this. But I guess I have to.

Username: NicaNica

Date posted: 2y ago

Everyone has intrusive thoughts and they’re gross too. Just like everyone in the world has to accept the uncertainty of life. We aren’t outside of all that—no one is.

Username: JB1020JB1020

Date posted: 2y ago

I'm so sorry you feel this way. It can be really frustrating. I personally would quibble with the idea that there is no "cure". With time and practice, acceptance and non-engagement of thoughts, many people with OCD have much lower instances of intrusive thoughts in general. Even before I got diagnosed I had long stretches for years where my OCD didn't bother me much, and now post diagnosis and with ERP therapy, I fully expect to get there again. It's not intuitive, because in order to get there we have to stop fighting the thoughts, which feels so unnatural. Ultimately, OCD, like many mental "disorders" is a thought pattern. Thought patterns can and do change over time. We aren't diagnosed with cancer. We're diagnosed with a way of thinking. There is much hope in that. Good luck.

Username: EFF_OCDEFF_OCD

Date posted: 2y ago

Every human has intrusive thoughts. Us with OCD just have a hard time releasing them. I finally had a few friends open up to me without OCD that told me they thoughts of killing people, Running off the road on purpose, etc….. the difference in us and them is we obsess about our thoughts and want to know “why” we are having them. Just know you aren’t the only one having them and thoughts have nothing to do with desires. Start saying “so what” to your thoughts. Bully them back. Maybe I am ___. Maybe I will ____. That seems crazy I know but I’m learning in therapy that learning to live in the uncertainty allows you to let the thoughts go easier! There may be no cure but you aren’t as different from everyone else as you think you are. I know people who had the worst cases of OCD and have fulfilling good lives. You got this!!!

Username: mattypmattyp

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2y ago

Thank you all so much for uplifting me and your encouragement. Emery. Yes please send the link. Thank you.

Username: lifeisworthit lifeisworthit

Date posted: 2y ago

https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-radical-acceptance-5120614

Username: mattypmattyp

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2y ago

@Emery. Thanks for the article! I found it insightful and will try practicing some of these things. Maybe it will help.

Username: lifeisworthit lifeisworthit

Date posted: 2y ago

@mattyp Great! It’s helped me. All my best to you.

Username: lifeisworthit lifeisworthit

Date posted: 2y ago

Hey I found an article once about acceptance that has helped me a lot. I reread it all the time when I feel like this. I’m not a therapist or anything of course but let me know if you’d like me to send the link.

Username: avapaulineavapauline

Date posted: 2y ago

can u send me it?

Username: lifeisworthit lifeisworthit

Date posted: 2y ago

@avapauline https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-radical-acceptance-5120614

Username: SoMi1907

Date posted: 4y ago

Just talked to my therapist and he said that I'll have to accept that I'll live the rest of my life with that thought. Although it seems extremely unsatisfying, it may be the only thing that really works. I've been discussing my fear from every angle and every time I feel relief, the doubts come back after a short time. So I can't solve it. I can't forget it. I can't tell it because it probably will be a compulsion and it would only hurt my partner. But I feel so disgusted by myself. Like I am making my OCD up to not have to tell my bf the truth about my stupid thoughts...

Username: Anonymous

Date posted: 3y ago

No offense but the idea of allowing your thoughts to run though your mind without resistance is complete and utter bullshit. It has made no difference in the amount of chronic sexual intrusive thoughts that run through my damn mind. I’m not a gay person, yet gay and incestuous thoughts run through my mind 24 fucking 7. It makes me sick to my stomach...all I want out of life is a beautiful wife and kids. Maybe i deserve this. Maybe I’m just helpless...

Username: OcdNutball

Date posted: 2y ago

Just Accept it

When people tell me to accept it, do they mean accept the thought or accept that you have these thoughts. Because I have Suicidal OCD and I get these thoughts and just can’t accept that I could do something like that

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