Compareing/social media
Does anyone ever compare themselves to people on social media im a mom and do this all the time and worry I'm not doing enough or what if I don't love them enough and I constantly check to see if I love them is that a thing or am I a horrible person :(
I’m currently going through that myself and it stinks
Me to I'm always at it and I don't no how to stop its like a obsession
Yes, I compare myself to social media, family members, friends. OCD is seriously trying to isolate me from everyone. I'm at a family reunion right now (my husband had to work so he isn't with me) and in talking to my siblings I think, "I don't love my spouse as much as they live each other" or "I am not as good as them". So many things. I'm sorry you are going through this too. It's the worst.
Aw girl I feel you 100% im always checking to see if I like and love people like I should hun its awful especially my family and the social media I always compare myself especially to other moms its awful girl
I’m a first time mom, so I’m always comparing myself or checking social media and be like “they look like they are in love” or “they seem happy with their kids” or “are they really happy or faking?” Just yesterday I had date night with my husband and even though we had a blast and really trying to connect again, my mind was trying so hard not to make me feel connected with him and it raises my anxiety
That happens me all the time hun even today we chilled all day and it made me question all the what ifs about my family ocd cab be a very very cruel thing to love with
Yes! It sucks cause I used to cuddle with him when we sleep, but now my heart races and I have a hard time falling asleep
Me to were sitting eating dinner and all my thoughts are saying u don't love him ur just fooling urself ughhhhh
Have u had other themes in the past
@Hope1 Yeah, I would start having SOOCD with ROCD but I’m learning that overall I’ve had minor OCD but since Covid when everything was shut down and we stayed home 24/7 for 2 months, it got to us big and I started getting scared on and off
@Millerbm And then of course, I got pregnant and that’s when my hormones got really bad and I ended up having ppd and postpartum anxiety and ocd
@Millerbm I had ppd and pp ocd to do u have fb or Instagram so we can chat we are very similar
@Hope1 I have facebook
@Millerbm Cool so do I we can chat if u like
@Hope1 Sure, it probably would be helpful since this is my first son and he’s 1 and it still feels like I’m not getting the hang of some things, especially the emotions
@Millerbm My name is Ellen fox on fb add me
@Hope1 There’s a bunch of Ellen foxes on fb lol
@Hope1 My Name is Bernadette miller my pic is close to the same as the pic on this app a pic of me my husband and son
@Hope1 Can I add you and Millerbm on FB? My name is Carrie Stonehocker. I don't use it much, but I use it more than Instagram (which I already talked to you all about)?
@Maeday Sure
I’ve been struggling with so much mommy guilt lately except I’m not even a mom lol. I work in child care and I worry about the same things you do and social media does not help that.
I had the same issue when I worked with other kids. One time when I worked with a 9 month old and when his mom came to get him, he turned to me and called me “mama” I felt so guilty and the mom wanted me fired just for that
I have obsessions about my appearance that I am ugly. I check my face in the mirror and seek reassurance from others. I am constantly comparing myself to my friends and thinking they’re so beautiful and I am disgusting. It’s so hard to not hate myself when I feel like this :(
does anyone else fall into the bad, unhealthy habit of checking old friends that maybe you had a bad (or civil, natural) falling out with? i’ve only ever seen this discussed in the context of stalking ex partner’s social medias. for me, i have a lot of trauma from past friendships that were toxic and for some, straight up abusive. and yet, sometimes i still catch myself looking at their tik toks or vscos like trying to see who “won”? ofc social media is such a carefully edited and fake image we put out of ourselves to make us seem more interesting or cool. but i cant help but feel inferior and sometimes i obsess over if i was truly the problem/was the bad guy/made all of the issues i had w them up. anyone else get this?
I’m having very bad anxiety/ocd about myself as a mom. I struggle with harm ocd but have gotten SO much better. But of course, it always finds a way to show up. I have a 3 year old and sometimes when he gives me a hug, I don’t get the “warm and fuzzies” and that’s bothering me so bad. I asked my husband if he does every time and he said yes. So now I’m really freaking anxious that it must mean I’m a bad mom or I don’t love my son because I don’t always feel that way when we hug. Now because I’m paying attention to that, when we hug.. I focus the whole time on if I feel it or not which then I feel like ruins it. I know all of this probably sounds silly. But I’m just bothered that I don’t feel that.
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