Can ocd effect sexual attraction?

This is me right now. How do I know it’s just my ocd and not me being actually Lesbian or bi when I have a boyfriend that treats me well and I love him but I’m always questioning it

@Redrose I’ve been there firl. I’m still there at times! Hopefully we can all get help. I have multiple themes and when I’m worried about one theme for example ROCD or gender identity, I Know I’m straight and don’t have a sexuality issue. That’s the scary part of OCD

@SDW453 It’s just that my problem is lesbian porn for example turns me on and I fantasize about doing stuff with a girl / want to try stuff with a girl but I’ve neevr crushed on one or see myself dating one if that makes so Im not sure if its me just not being into my boyfriend and he’s nott he guy for me or if Im bi or lesbian😓 i love him hes so sweet and good to me

@Redrose We have the same exact story. Literally to a core.

@SDW453 Lesbian porn turns me on too and always has… but what I have learned is that actually MOST straight girls get turned on by lesbian porn… it doesn’t mean anything. I still doubt that statistic tho

@SDW453 Ugh I don’t know what to do how to figure it out ! Im the kind of person that has to figure things out or else I’ll be in constant anxiety and feel depressed and unable to function. I become irritable :(

@Redrose that’s the OCD trying to talk…. Trust me

@SDW453 I really hope so otherwise this is going to be very hurtful

@Anonnymous How do we deal with this ladies?? How are your feelings what are you mainly scared of

@Redrose I’m mainly scared if I am that means everything I thought I knew abt myself I didn’t and overall I don’t care much abt being gay it’s more if I am I would t feel like myself I’ll feel different like it would be a big change for me

@Anonymous Me too, I’m scared of that and because I have a boyfriend as well as I don’t know what I would do because my parents would never accept it I’m middle eastern and it just worries me

@Anonnymous I suggest u do exposure therapy it’s been helping me

@Anonnymous It gets better 💕

@Redrose I suggest doing exposure therapy it really helps u need to learn how to live without reassurance

@Anonymous Its so hrd though I can’t its not about reassurance its about being scared and not wanting to fuck up and hurt someone I need tk know so i can make accurate decisions in my life and my relationships

@Redrose That’s addressed in ERP, not just the sexual attraction, but the idea that you’ll come out later in life and totally destroy your loved ones around you. It’s similar to harm ocd, rocd, scrupulosity…all these things attack a core part of our identity. Most of this is not “am I this or that,” but rather “I don’t know who I truly am.”

@Nathan777 Sometimes it’s not even a sexual orientation issue sometimes it’s deeper than that not always don’t wanna give anyone reassurance

@Anonymous Good point, in fact, it’s prolly mostly reassurance me posting here much of the time!