my biggest obsession is about possibly being racist (i’m confident that i’m not racist). it was germ fear before, but that has subsided and now im obsessed with not being racist. can anyone relate? how do you deal with socially-driven obsessions? i have invasive thoughts whenever i’m around anyone who isnt a close friend.

I think this like any other pure o obsession is to not give these thoughts any meaning and just let them pass by like clouds in the sky. The thoughts will come but they mean nothing and you don't have to ruminate or analyze them. How did you get past the fear of germs? I'm currently struggling.

I can identify with the fear of being racist. I work with people of many races. I think I just want them to like me. I want to be accepted , but I feel like they are not interested. I know I’m not racist. But I’m starting to obsess about it.

You're not racist if you're worrying about being racist xx

I have the same problem. I even over analyze how much I look at people of diff races and disabilities. Like I’ll just be walking and looking around normally and if I see someone of a diff race/disability I’m automatically like “You’re racist/discriminatory. You creep, you looked at them too long or abnormally. You’re probably upsetting them. You’re a horrible person.” And even though Ik I love everybody I still get these awful thoughts:(

i am still very afraid of germs. i can’t eat with my hands without thoroughly washing them and not touching anything. i haven’t had voluntary sexual contact in over 4 years (unfortunately there has been some terrifying involuntary sexual contact that i am still traumatized by). however, i’ve had to work in retail environments recently and had so much exposure to germs that i am able to be more functional. i don’t know how i’m ever going to get over my obsession with racism. i am very grateful that you all shared your similar issues. if i am comfortable with someone, i don’t think of race or other distinguishing factors. i have a diverse friend group. it’s only around strangers, it’s horrible, and i am trying so hard to train myself to not have invasive thoughts. i have gotten a little better. it takes an intense level of concentration and i am mentally exhausted. i got into an abusive situation at work this week and i found out that my new friend/bandmate obsessed for years about killing attractive women and he finds me attractive. it’s been rough.