Realization? Maybe

So like all the articles say, reassurance doesn't work and makes your OCD worse. The only thing you can do is to accept these thoughts and accept that it's happening, which is easier said than done. Although I suppose it's still rationalization, I do think it's true. That no matter what the topic is, nothing's sacred. If I feel that something is sexually innapropriate, I'm going to react reguardless of what it is. Whether that's my Mom talking about her sex life, or a child half naked, or animals mating, or sex crimes, I will react to it. And I need to learn that's ok, that it doesn't mean I'm attracted to it at all, but it's so difficult. I think with this mindset I may be able to move on, but I feel it'll be an uphill battle reguardless. I also need to learn that although it's unsual to find a child not being fully dressed as uncomfortable, it's still normal to feel that way-- that's even harder.

totallyanxio...

Date posted: 3y

I completely get it. I’ve started trying to keep this mindset up too and OCD, being the monster it is, crawls up and goes “you’re not reacting!! You must like it!! You secretly do” etc etc. but I just go “okay OCD. Sure. Definitely. Mhm.” Not sure if it’s healthy or not though.

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Date posted: 3y

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PoppySeed34

Date posted: 3y

@Anonymous_1 Relax man, I just said it was unusual, I'm sure people without OCD don't like being around children who aren't fully dressed. Especially people who've never raised kids of their own, or had young siblings growing up.

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Date posted: 3y

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Anonymous

Date posted: 3y

@Anonymous_1 When did you discover you had this? Because sometimes pocd might be there but you don’t realize it until it becomes more present.

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Date posted: 3y

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SofiaLovedAn...

Date posted: 3y

@Anonymous_1 That’s what the OCD wants you to think. Just want to say sometimes I feel uncomfortable with my 4-year-old nephew when he’s naked or he takes his pants off then I panic because I saw his thing and I even confessed to my husband how I felt and asked for reassurance that I am not a pedophile. Don’t give meaning to the groinal response, reassurance is only a temporary solution, and you know it. You are stronger than you think you are. Don’t give power to those thoughts.

SofiaLovedAn...

Date posted: 3y

@Anonymous_1 It’s the fear of being someone we don’t want, and the fear of whatever we feel, if we’re a P then we are a P. Which is just not true. We are stronger than our thoughts.

SofiaLovedAn...

Date posted: 3y

@Anonymous_1 I really want to answer your question. But I realized you’re asking for reassurance if you did right or wrong, and the main point of ERP is being okay with uncertainty. And I know it’s so hard. Maybe you might have had the theme before you even noticed it, maybe not. These thoughts will come again whether I say you that was wrong or right. I know because I do this A LOT.

SofiaLovedAn...

Date posted: 3y

@SofiaLovedAndHealed Whether I say what you did was***

Anonymous

Date posted: 25w

Will groinals go away with acceptance

I keep getting these groinal responses when I think about kids or see one and it's really distressing, I only just learned that OCD can make you feel that and it's not actually attraction but it's so hard to remember that and I've seen people talking about accepting uncertainty but I'm so scared to think "maybe it's attraction maybe it's not" instead of "no it's not attraction that's disgusting" and idk what to do

HOY

Date posted: 15w

Wow

more advice for sexual/pocd sufferers I read somewhere that if you hyperfocus too much on your body's reactions to intrusive thoughts, you're unwillingly just making it intensify the sensations. Your body, after enduring severe anxiety and stress from sexual obsessions, will now just react to anything sexual that comes into your mind, whether forced or randomly. It can happen in any way. OCD makes anything possible, and is driven by fear. Knowing this I realized, it doesnt matter at this point, and to let it happen. And you guys should too. Remember what your real values and desires are. It can feel as real as it gets, but it is still not you.

emma345

Date posted: 13w

Pocd and accepting uncertainty

17f So basically I think you know this whole accept and sit with the uncertainty thing. It applies to pocd as well. Because you can ruminate, test yourself, seek reassurance as much as you want but it will never be enough for you brain to be sure you are not a P. So you need to sit with "Maybe I am a P maybe not" and just don't do anything about it. So sometimes I can do that. But here comes moral ocd. If I accept the chanse of me being a pedophile, isn't it morally wrong for me to be around children? Look at children? Watch movies with children in it? Cause now I can't even look at children even if it was an accident without freaking out and thinking that I'm a monster. Sometimes it feels morally wrong to leave the house because there is a chanse I can meet a child on the street I genuinely don't know what to do. It feels paralyzing at this point. Seems like I can't do anything. Like I even need to cover children on the screen with my hand when I watch a movie. It's exhausting.

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