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@Violet& look my last chat

@mrgg11 It doesn't show for me here. Also this app doesn't allow the whole copy and paste thing.

@mrgg11 I see, can we chat here, I say yes. Then can you answer and I say yes we can chat here.

@Violet& me was good before hocd i had hocd but i ignored that and i was the most man that fall in love and happy till we was trying to hsve sex with my girlfriend i touched her part i was so scared so anxionous and like that i felt and i stopped it because im scared of that part i dont know whats wrong with me when i see that part of woman im scared and if im attracted to shes body when i see part of girl my part body go down and its not hard

@Violet& what you think in my ques?

@mrgg11 I think that's a statement because a question poses a query. Like, do you think I'm gay? And I would say what do you think? Do you become attracted to women off and on? Or do you always send to only be sexually engaged by males?

@Jemma2 sometimes i attracted sometimes im so hard and sometimes nothing idont know but i dont feel attraction to boys like i felt to girlfriends to girls was nice this for boys was not nice

@mrgg11 You like the idea of being with women but dislike how your body reacts to a man's body? Sometimes or "all of the time" your body fails to react to a woman's? Sometimes or "all of the time" your body reacts to men? Have you ever been with a man?

@Jemma2 no i cant imagine be with man

@mrgg11 Then you have SOCD. Sexual orientation OCD. Unwanted thoughts and physical body sensations. It's okay you're not alone. Have you talked to your partner about this? I spoke to my partner as I had bisexual partners in the past and I am also bisexual, I asked him if he had a bi side to him and he said he didn't. If he said he did, we would have discussed how to feed that part of him. In America we have a vanilla way of exploring these areas. We have S&M models who will perform while you pleasure your partner and self. We also have brothels that feature highly paid models who are licensed sex therapists ( some are even doctors). A person can go there for anything including sex. I have an open mindset when it comes to "We". What I don't approve of is intimacy without "We". So perhaps speaking to your partner about how best to suit both of your needs may be useful to your sexual life. As I said there are vanilla ways to go about this. Sometimes we use porn as an aide to more intense sexual experiences but typically we don't. I have caught my partner beating it in his car and while it was a dang shame I didn't get to partake, I also celebrate my body alone. So ultimately it's a relationship and that means sharing, sharing of your sexuality and concerns with your partner. Perhaps your partner would be better satisfied with a whipping bench vs sex during these times. Many options so little time. OCD will try to steal your livelihood. Don't let it act up on your precious time.

@Jemma2 thank you you have instagram or something to we talk privat?

@mrgg11 I do but ultimately I find the structure of this app, reliable. I'll keep an eye out for your posts. Let me know if you have any questions.

@Jemma2 thank you im at work now and im busy ill talk here

@Violet& but like i dont know i dont want to lose my girlfriend

@Violet& i had hocd before i think and it goes awayignoring and my attraction to girls was back but i dont know now its hard bcz i got gf

@mrgg11 Remember never to make a decision under the duress of OCD. Why is it hard? What will it look like if you end your relationship? What will happen then? I responded to your post before and I told you that the truth takes time to formalize. It can take weeks or months to think on these things. OCD tricks you into thinking you "have to" make a choice or a decision. It's okay to be fluid. It's okay to be they/ them.

@Violet& i didnt want to lose her before but like im lost with her she see that im not like before happy i dont fking want to lose her when i feel i want i get anxious but i dont every time when we get angry to each other i cant stay without her i love her so much

@mrgg11 You can love someone and let them go. You can love someone after they have passed. Your love is infinite. So how are you going to spend it?

@Violet& i lloved one girl for 8 years and i loved her for 5 months i dont loce her….

@mrgg11 Love can happen in an instant or over a lifetime. It's a choice at the end of the day. Your perception is all that matters with love. It's also of no consequence to me, as an outsider, of how long you've loved. This is for you to know as I'll never know a love of 3 months or 6 months. My love is infinite. I love all my ex's to an extent. I care about their well-being but ultimately I do not seek them out because the love I hold is only for me to know. If I see them having a hard time. I'll reach out and let them know they got a friend in me. That's it really. My romantic feelings exit when I end a relationship. I allow it to change into a new meaningful relationship that doesn't involve romantic feelings. I instead save those feelings for my partner as it should be for me. For you, you decide how to spend your love bucks. We can go round and round all day but ultimately it's your cycle and like I've said it can take weeks to arrive at a truth moment with OCD. While your spinned this cycle your under duress and stressed out. Take a break. You can let love breathe as I mentioned before. A healthy relationship will withstand the test of time.

@Violet& i loved one girl for 8 years and i loved her for one month more than that girl 8 year

@Violet& but if i want let love breath i think she will nog understand me

@mrgg11 I hear you. Communication is key to every great success. That includes relationships. Have you told her how you're feeling? Perhaps you two can define what letting love breathe looks like and therefore establishing guidelines and boundaries. For me it would be no sexual relationships with others while your coming to self realization. I think that involving more people into an already cluttered mindscape can do more harm than good. I also would establish no judgement policy. When your with your partner it should be about feelings and not so much about arguing. If someone is upset that's easy because it's like I can see they are angry but what is the feeling behind the anger. People don't just reach for anger right away, you know?

@Violet& Can i have your instagram to we chat there thank you for trying to help me

@Violet& can i?

@Violet& can in healthy ocd have fake symptoms?

@Violet& do you had ocd?

@mrgg11 I have multiple OCD's. I have to be very careful or I just develop things naturally. Most of my family are suffers and some are in prison. It's a terrible condition but with management, therapy and support you can get to where you want to be in life. Where do you want to be in life? I am here to support you but I don't give out my personal details to anyone. I value my privacy.

@Violet& you got any fake instagram bcz me too dont give?

@mrgg11 I don't. Is there a problem with the app?

@Violet& can we chat here?

@mrgg11 Yes we can chat here

@Violet& can you snswer?