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ROCD
Anyone else go through this thing, where the thoughts about your partner no longer bother you, but the feeling it came with is still there??
Anyone else go through this thing, where the thoughts about your partner no longer bother you, but the feeling it came with is still there??
That me right now. Like i feel sick to the stomach but the thoughts aren’t coming as repetitive and they don’t scare me as mich
I just wanna feel attracted to my partner again. Like I know I am. There’s just the anxiety and the other things still there. I feel like I’m just trying my best to hold it all back
@NoRocd1991 i want too but i got hocd too thats problem
@NoRocd1991 I’m in long distance, and I’ve gotten over the me actually wanting to break up fear ocd thoughts i was having. Now it’s like severe anxiety that what if next time I’m with him it doesn’t feel right.
@kirby7980 Keep in mind that you’re not always gonna have butterflies. Feelings come and go, ebb and flow. Do what you wanna do with your partner, despite your thoughts and how they make you feel. Don’t let OCD win
yes. i still feel the intense physical sensations of anxiety like racing heart and i get very hot but thoughts do not accompany them. i try to acknowledge them as physical sensations that will pass and i do my best to not make any connections or assumptions about why its there
no clue if this is compulsive, but I’m interested to hear any obsessions others have that aren’t the “common” ones you see online about what ROCD is? a few for me: - thoughts about their partner being with someone else instead (sometimes a specific person) and then trying to analyze your reaction to it? e.g. does it *feel* more right than us, do I actually feel happy for them, etc. - trying to imagine your partner in your current situation or maybe a specific future situation (when they’re not around) and trying to decide if they “fit” in it? - being super scared of losing them, then suddenly feeling like you don’t care much for them at all, and just constantly cycling? - I almost never fully enjoyed sex because I was constantly obsessing about whether or not I was turned on, turned on “enough,” if I was just having groinal responses and wasn’t actually turned on, looking at his face just to decide if I find him attractive enough, comparing my experience with how I feel watching content alone, etc.
How do you guys get past the anxiety? I feel like my thoughts are the only thing that control my mind. So often I feel like I should just leave my partner even tho I love them so much because I just feel like these thoughts are too much. I over analyze everything. I feel so stuck and defeated. I just want to be normal. I feel so toxic for the thoughts that I have
For the past 3 months ish I’ve been struggling on and off with this anxiety and fixation over my relationship. To wondering if i still have feelings for an old friend, wondering if i actually love him, wondering if the thoughts are all real and im just trying to cover it up with ocd. It sucks, when im talking to my boyfriend i feel fine. The words i love you and talks about the future come naturally. I can’t imagine myself with anyone but him. But this constant rumination on my relationship is KILLING me and I’m scared it’s going to ruin what i have. It makes me numb and disconnected which therefore makes me believe the thoughts even more. They just feel so real sometimes and it’s so scary like why can i not just enjoy it. We’ve been together for a while so i know there’s periods of like feelings ebb and flowing but this is so much more. It’s just constantly sitting on my chest with anxiety. My compulsions are coming on this app, looking at photos of us and confessing it to him. He’s very understanding and helpful. I love him so much. I just need help / I’m also just starting new meds as well ..
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