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Has anyone ever looked up their birth/natal chart? I did today and started researching and now I worry about things I didn’t worry about before. I feel like I opened up a new phobia.
Has anyone ever looked up their birth/natal chart? I did today and started researching and now I worry about things I didn’t worry about before. I feel like I opened up a new phobia.
My mom’s obsessed with all that stuff, so yes. But I’m not, so she can say whatever random stuff she wants. It doesn’t affect me because I don’t let it.
When I first started with NOCD one of my biggest triggers was astrology relationship related stuff. I grew up with a mother who would tell me if a friendship wouldn’t work out because of our signs, or if I did something she didn’t like she would say “that’s such a Gemini trait.” I never truly believed in it but it started to scare me when I was in serious relationships that we may not work out because of some predestined chart. Especially since the first thing she does when she meets someone is ask what their birthdate is🙄 I’ve learned to accept that I can’t control that stuff but I can control my actions. And I don’t have to know if it’s fate that I’m with my fiancé because I choose to be with him. Astrology is cool but it doesn’t have to control the outcome of your life. Try making some Erps about it. To work on my own I had to read astrology related stuff that said my fiancé and I might not be compatible and just sit with that😅
As someone who wholeheartedly believes in astrology, your natal chart doesn't define who you are. Your natal chart suggests what you're like at your core, similar to genetics in the way that they're with you for life but they don't affect much. In my opinion, your characteristics are mostly defined by learnt behaviours and how you've been brought up to see the world. Even your traits from your natal chart can be controlled and altered throughout your life, you generally have full control over who you are and who you are becoming. Your natal chart just gives guidance about your inner traits
For example, I'm on the cusp of Leo and virgo, Virgos are suggested to be serious and stern, and I know I can be like that sometimes. I switch instantly and go into a serious and stubborn mindset, that might not be wholly because I'm a virgo, but even so, I can still be aware of when I'm like that and how I'm acting, and I can manage it accordingly. Your birth charts give you awareness of what you *can* be like
My OCD has definitely used my horoscope before to latch onto as 'evidence' that my fears are true. Madness when you think about it and I can laugh about it looking back but the fear felt so real. I'd take this as a prime example of OCD looking for evidence of stuff you need to worry about. Tell it you don't need to worry, tell it you don't need to answer these questions.
I was scrolling on here and now I’m having a panic attack. Someone posted resources and one of them was a NOCD article and I thought that was so great. I clicked on it because I like learning about this disorder and I love NOCD’s resources. But I read that one of the compulsions for pocd is watching cp? I thought that wasn’t a thing with POCD. I literally cannot breathe because I feel like this thing is now possible and I cant calm down. That was the first time I’ve ever seen that stated as a compulsion. I feel like I’m dying. What triggered my spiral in the first place was months ago someone contacted me and told me they watched it but claimed OCD and I felt absolutely horrified. I deleted my account and removed that person entirely. I am freaking out so bad I really can’t seem to breathe right now
New to this app. Do members find it helps, I'm worried I will start obsessing over things I hadn't thought about before when I read other people's OCD triggers...
I used to get caught in a loop with existential thoughts very frequently. Every question made my stomach drop: (TW: existential questions) … … ... "Why does anything exist at all? What will death be like? Is anything even real? Is there any meaning to this? Is the universe infinitely big, and if not, what's beyond it? Are there multiverses? Has the universe been around forever? Will the universe end for good, or will it keep going forever? What is forever like? What even IS reality?" It would get so overwhelming that I remember lying on the floor in a fetal position for hours because I felt like there was no escape. I spent most of my days reading articles and watching videos about theoretical astrophysics and philosophy in a desperate attempt to "figure it all out." Of course that only made me more anxious, raised more questions, and kept me trapped in the cycle. Things started to improve once I learned to turn TOWARD reality, rather than away from it, and ERP really helped me do that. I learned that these questions weren't the problem. I learned that I can actually handle the anxiety that arises when exposed to these ideas and concepts. I don't have to figure anything out to make the anxiety go away; it arises and passes away on its own. Ironically, bringing myself into the present moment and becoming more aware of reality helped me escape the cycle of existential dread. Because of that, this topic no longer takes over my life. If I'm triggered by something I see, hear, or think, I may still feel a little twang of anxiety, but then it just goes away. "Maybe, maybe not" has been the single most useful phrase of my life. Do you ever get trapped in a cycle of existential questions? Are you worried that the ERP approach would be too scary to handle? If so, I'm happy to give my advice.
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