Soph

Date posted: 2y

Fear of intimacy

I’m afraid my fear of intimacy will always be a problem because OCD makes me question whether it’s actually a sexuality issue that’s causing my anxiety in romantic relationships. I struggle with wanting to run away from intimacy and I wonder if I’ll ever be able to push through it because ocd will always come up with some scary ‘what if’. Anyone have any tips on how to deal with this? When it’s a real life issue that ocd magnifies and warps into something else.

ziggster!23

Date posted: 2y

Sometimes I will really struggle to be in the moment with my boyfriend because of the thoughts that come up. It makes it even harder because he’s SUPER sexual haha so it’s a trigger in itself sometimes that I’m not enough or it’s not right or what it what if. I find that sometimes (it doesn’t always work) but sometimes if the thoughts come if I just acknowledge to myself ‘ok I’m having these thoughts but it’s ok because this actually still feel pretty good, maybe i should be feeling something other worldly or amazing but this is good for me right now, thanks thought I’m going to carry on’ it allows me to get back in the moment sometimes without using avoidance. It’s really tough I know that but we’re all fighting a literally doubting disorder so just keep pushing on and hang onto the good points 😘 wishing you the best of luck with everything x

jag92

Date posted: 2y

@ziggster!23 I feel this! That’s a good way to think of it….I struggle with the idea that it should feel other wordly amazing! And it’s good but because it doesn’t it doesn’t make me initiate things as much which makes me scared as my fiancée is younger and alwayssss turned on 🤦🏼‍♀️ haha

jag92

Date posted: 2y

@jag92 And also because I think the groinal response for soocd is strong (I listened to a podcast by Chrissie Hodges in the ocd stories podcast she said the groinal can be even stronger than our normal arousal) it’s scary because it makes you think your normal sexual behaviour isn’t what you should have …if that makes sense….that’s how I’ve taken it anyway but the ocd is always there putting doubts in haha

mrgg11

Date posted: 2y

@jag92 can u read that what i commented here i need help

Arukawi

Date posted: 2y

This is great advice! I'm not OP but I will try this. I think it will help!

smilesforall

Date posted: 2y

Just push through it don't be afraid friend

smilesforall

Date posted: 2y

@mrgg11 Fear is a liar and it comes to tell you something opposite to the truth. Fear is not your DNA. I speak life in your situation and you have will to accept fear either to let it reign in your life. In others say fear you have no place in my mouth ears mind heart and in all my being. You were made to walk in freedom

smilesforall

Date posted: 2y

@mrgg11 I just did can you not see it

smilesforall

Date posted: 2y

@mrgg11 Saw what my friend

mrgg11

Date posted: 2y

@smilesforall what you think brother

jag92

Date posted: 2y

I can’t see what you commented?

mrgg11

Date posted: 2y

@jag92 you see it now?

mrgg11

Date posted: 2y

@mrgg11 its about sex lif

jag92

Date posted: 2y

No sorry

mrgg11

Date posted: 2y

@jag92 you got instagram because its here maybe bad to talk about it?

jag92

Date posted: 2y

No sorry you can post it here no?

mrgg11

Date posted: 2y

@jag92 i have sex problems

Sp1999

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2y

I think we are similar on this one

mrgg11

Date posted: 2y

@Sp1999 bro you have sex problems?

Sp1999

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2y

@mrgg11 No, I dont think so

mrgg11

Date posted: 2y

@Sp1999 well just relax if i wouldnt have that i would becthe happiest

Sillyguppy

Date posted: 25w

A fear of forming & getting into relationships?

Hello OCD friends! I'm new on here, but here has been the top question mark in my mind lately. How exactly is one with real event and false memory OCD expected to make or form relationships with others? I know confession compulsions are quite common place in this type of OCD, and that they should be avoided, but i'm not sure how exactly to get over that feeling of "lying" to your partner, even though you technically aren't lying about anything, just keeping things to yourself that are meant to be kept to yourself. I'm working against the confession compulsions and working on keeping the past in the past. But it feels so difficult to form a relationship when I feel this huge issue under the surface.

blorbo

Date posted: 23w

OCD and intimacy: under-discussed?

This is the one topic I don’t find much discussion about online, and I’m wondering how many of you have experienced this. Have any of you been prevented from engaging in intimate acts by your OCD? Has your OCD affected intimacy between you and your partner/s? I’m discovering that this is very much the case for me, and I know it’s probably the same for lots of folks out there!

Anonimus ME 🦋

Date posted: 17w

Sex and ocd!

What irritates me the most is that during intimacy with my husband, it happens that OCD puts an image and scene in my head, my sister or someone for whom my OCD is attached and it's literally as if that intimacy is happening with that person, and it seems real that I can and it's exciting! I'm working on ERP during that, but it's still hard to digest... I don't know if it's the same for you?

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