Anyone else deal with severe ocd/anxiety related to abandonment? It kills me knowing that people can leave me. Every time I meet someone knew I watch EVERY. single thing I say to make sure I say the right Thing so they don’t abandon me. It drains me and pains me and lol so much more too it but can anyone relate?
I definitely relate to what you feel and mean. It’s very hard to think that people have the choice to be around you and can choose not to be if they please. I struggle with this so much, but I think it comes down to how you perceive yourself. If you think someone is going to abandon you, it’s harder to act authentically. I think it really starts with the relationship we have to ourselves. If that relationship isn’t good and we don’t see ourselves as worthy of other people’s time, then we may perpetuate some self fulfilling prophecies. I am definitely not there yet and it is going to take a lot of work and time to get there, but you aren’t alone either.
@sendfrogpics Thank u❤️. It just really hard bcuz my entire life since I can remember (age 5- I’m now 21) people have walked away from me including my parents and family. To this day I don’t have any close friends. When something good happens I have no one I can call, when something bad happens I have no one I can call. I do everything by myself & spend Saturday nights alone. I’m just so scared of losing people that I try not to make them leave but they always end up leaving regardless. Maybe they can sense my now insecurity so that’s why they don’t stay. Ur right maybe I do need to become more confident and more people will want to be around me…idk sucks
@Anonymous Of course ❤️I hope you know that people leaving says more about them than it does about you. Especially if you recall from a young age. Some people seem to only have the capacity to think about themselves. I’m really sorry that you feel alone and that you don’t have people to call, but I also know you can 100% create that community with people who understand you too. Give people the chance to love you— you don’t have to be or do anything. You can just exist as you are. No performing. If that isn’t good enough for someone, it again comes down to the relationship they have to themselves and some people require others to fill the voids within them. I think sometimes people do run from others they deem as insecure, but it’s okay to have insecurities. If people don’t accept that about themselves, then they often can’t accept that in others. But also becoming confident doesn’t happen overnight, so don’t beat yourself up about it my friend. We are all on a journey to loving ourselves. I don’t think most of us were taught how to do that. But also, I think it’s most important that YOU want to be around you. And all the rest tends to fall into place. It’s not perfect and it’s not black and white of course, and that’s what’s hard about ocd sometimes. lots of black and white thinking. But give yourself patience and time and grace okay? No one gets through things entirely alone okay, you really do got this.
yes this is one of my worst themes. i am married and i will become convinced that my wife has cheated or doesn’t love me anymore. It can be from the slightest thing and my mind plays the worst images of her leaving me. I have been trying hard to overcome this because it’s obviously not healthy for the relationship. I also had this fear with friends. Used to have this feeling that people “get tired of me” really frequently
Totay hear this, it is impacting me and my relationships right now! Thanks abandonment OCD and abandonment issues! Ugh.
Is anyone dealing with responsibility OCD? I don’t see it talked about much, but it’s one of the subtypes I struggle with the most. I just feel like everything I do is in order to “protect” my family and friends. That means everything from magical thinking, to repeatedly calling people to make sure they’re ok, to bargaining with god to keep them safe (even though i’m not religious at all). I spend A LOT of my time worrying about other people and trying to control what they do. For example, I’ll try to talk someone out of taking a trip because I feel like something bad will happen, or I’ll stalk someone’s Instagram to make sure they’re posting regularly, because that means they’re ok. Logically I know I have no control over other people, but OCD tells me there’s always at least SOMETHING I can be doing to keep them from getting hurt or sick. And obviously the pandemic has made this 1000x worse. Can anyone relate?
How do you deal with ocd latching onto some you care for? Not once in a million years did I think I would be struggling with this. It’s awful because I genuinely don’t know who I am anymore. I feel so confused most of the time and I hate not knowing how I truly feel because of the doubt. My mind is scaring me more and more everyday. It tries to trick me in any way possible. I’m worried that one day this will actually be my reality .
My relationship OCD has been bad lately I actually feel like it’s starting to cause problems in my relationship. I constantly think something bad is going to happen with the relationship or him. Like when he’s driving I’m terrified we’re going to get in a crash and him die and me have to be without him. I worry all the time he’s going to leave me. It’s an obsession. I find myself trying to be PERFECT and that’s just not possible. I feel like he’s constantly mad at me when he’s not. We have a good relationship. We have our moments but everyone does. I don’t have issues with him cheating but I always am TERRIFIED about it. I’m scared of him dying, or leaving me. Is this something common with OCD or is this something else?
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