Some advice for someone with someone with rocd

@LexThePisces Hi what other sort of ocd situations does he struggle with he sounds like my boyfriend, my boyfriend goes through stages of ocd so first started of judgment on way I look then moved on to missing his ex and a mixture of avoiding looking at girls and now it’s about his feelings towards me constantly checking how he feels, luckily I have done a lot of research on rocd and spoke with his therapist to try get my head round it all but sometimes it does really hurt

@LexThePisces Sending love ur way I know how hard it is

@Sam38373 Oh love everything you just said in that paragraph has just happened to me this past month. He started to judge me in his head and point out the flaws in me. He told me he was thinking about his ex and didn’t know what he was feeling. And he has dreams about his coworkers, and has feelings for them so he avoids talking to them or looking at them. He constantly tells me he’s unsure about me and feels like he just isn’t attracted to me. It’s become so hard. I’ve tried to stay through it all, but today I decided to let go because that’s what he wanted.

@LexThePisces That is exactly what happen to me and my Boyf. did you leave your boyfriend today? Has he has therapy it really helps only thing that’ll work also maybe get him this book I got my boyfriend who has just started to read it it’s called Sheva Rajaee Relationship OCD: A CBT-Based Guide to Move Beyond Obsessive Doubt, Anxiety, and Fear of Commitment in Romantic Relationships also tell your boyf to read about 5 stages of love x

@Sam38373 Anxiety will kill feelings as there’s no room for love due to anxiety around thoughts that book has everything he needs to understand rocd x

@Sam38373 Yes I just left him today, blocked him. Everyday it was just him constantly feeling like we should let go, and then when I would he would start telling me not to let go and he would be better for us. But like I told him, I would stay through everything no matter what. But it’s like no matter what I did for us, it seemed like he wanted out. And today he said to let go, so I didn’t fight it. It’s just a part of me that’s scared, because it could be rocd but also what if it isn’t. What if he really just doesn’t want to be with me.

@Sam38373 I will definitely look into those books, thank you so much.

@LexThePisces It’s so hard not to doubt what they are saying is true when they’re not sure themselves but that’s ocd. The thing making his ocd worse is him telling you all his unloyal thoughts ocd attacks what’s important to you making u doubt everything. Ocd is thoughts and feelings so if it’s not under control it can be really hard. It’s important not to show that you doubt what they’re saying and thinking too! I know a lot about rocd but even I am times start to believe his doubts but we just got to remember it’s ocd and when to notice it’s ocd like them confessing to us them obsessing about it all day till they tell us. Has ur Boyf has therapy erp therapy ect is only way to get ocd in control you can totally live a happy relationship with rocd with the right help as it can be very challenging and hurtful for both sides. Do you have Instagram we can talk on I have always found it has helped me deal with this better talking to people going through the same thing.

@Sam38373 My boyfriend is currently stuck with getting better side of things after therapy where as before he would avoid looking at girls ect but now he looks and now confesses to me time to time that he has the urge to look at girls now one because his Therapist told him too and 2 cuz he ‘feels like he wants to’ then he goes on to say which must mean I’m better of single if he’s interested in other girls and gets more excited about seeing other girls then me ect. Ocd just takes common normal thoughts and make them pick to pieces what it means to have that thought which is the opposite of what they really think and want

@LexThePisces My boyfriend has 3 times the last 4 weeks told me he’s worried about his feeling towards me other girls ect whenever I have said well we should break up then he would always want me to stay as he’s constantly trying work out his feelings testing them he said if he dosent always feel ‘in love’ then he worries when he of course knows himself he loves me but just doubts it a lot due to his rocd the doubting illness

@Sam38373 That’s what would happen to me. I started to get a lot of anxiety and started to break down a lot. I didn’t like when he would look at me anymore because then I would feel like he would judge me more in his head. Everything just got so bad. And it sucks because I didn’t want things to end, I was in love with him. I still am.

@LexThePisces How long was you two together ? What was your Instagram again i can’t seem to find the message above now. I know it’s really hard but worth it in the end with therapy x

@Sam38373 We were together for a year.

@LexThePisces When triggered his first rocd with you mine was 3 months in when I fell pregnant then had an abortion

@LexThePisces When triggered his first rocd with you mine was 3 months in when I fell pregnant then had an abortion

@Sam38373 I believe it was a dream that triggered it.

@Sam38373 He’s been different ever since.

@Sam38373 Also has your boyfriend been told he’s got ocd/rocd has he ever had a different theme of ocd before rocd my boyfriend had harm ocd towards his mum when he was 9