My family is inconsiderate of my ocd

I have a rare auto immune disease that attacked my brain causing me to have ocd. No one in my family had ocd and no one gets it. I had an incident tonight when I get home from a trip to notice that the pillows on my bed are put on there differently then I put them everyday, I also notice my lamp remote is on my left night stand when I always put it on my right night stand. I question my family and they said that my cousin slept in my bed the other night when I was gone. I broke down shaking and crying cause it’s 10 pm and I have school in the morning so I don’t have time to wash my sheets but there is no way I will be able to sleep in my bed after knowing my cousin slept on my sheets for a night. Plus I noticed a few of my drawers not pushed shut completely which I only do cause you have to push them extra hard to keep them shut which implies that she looked through some of my things and now all I can think about doing is disinfecting my entries room and excessively clean it. I just feel so betrayed but my family needs to understand that I have ocd and with that comes some things that they NEED to respect. I need to talk to them and tell them that this is not ok and that this gives me anxiety and distress probably causing me to not be able to sleep tonight. How do I tell them this?

Username: blesingblesing

Date posted: 2y ago

i have OCD too my parents don't respect my boundaries but you should let them that when they do this it negatively affects you, when they violate your boundaries they are making your things worse and stopping you from getting better this condition is serious hopefully they respect your boundaries moving forward if they try to manipulate you remember your not crazy you have OCD it sucks you will get better and you are doing great

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 2y ago

That is definitely disrespectful. I think a lot of people take ocd symptoms and think it’s just “being overly sensitive” when no, it’s a disorder that causes compulsions. If your family knows that those things bother you, they should take that into consideration. My dad does similar things, like he makes fun of me for checking my closet and under my bed every night and says stuff like “what are you 5?” Or when I tell him not to move stuff around in my room, because I have it a certain way, he’s like “oh don’t be so sensitive”.

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 2y ago

Are you in therapy? Your therapist should be able to offer education to your family, including what you are going through, how they can help, and how to compassionately resist enabling the OCD. Just request that they attend your next appointment, and the three of you should be able to put together a plan

Username: Jesse M.Jesse M.

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2y ago

I'm sorry Lora :( It sounds like your family may have behaved disrespectfully toward you. Can you work out an "I" statement to share with them about the impact of their actions? Using that formula helps me to communicate with my loved ones when we are stressed or upset.

Username: beautifully

Date posted: 6y ago

Need to vent... I was at a family event earlier (husband’s family) and my bitch of a sister in law asked me for a Tylenol. I didnt think about it and I told her just grab it out of my purse pocket, the same place I keep my Prozac. Instead of pulling out the Tylenol she pulled out my Prozac and asked me- IN FRONT IF EVERYONE-why I took prozac. She jokingly said “ohhhh these are your crazy pills” i said no I have OCD. She looked at my husband and said “lucky you, most men would love a wife who obsessively cleans and keeps things organized” I was humiliated because I didnt want to sit there and explain the severity of my mental illness to all my in laws, but my sister in law made it look like I take pills because I like to clean too much. She just brushed it off like it was a quirk I was taking medicine for... my husband just stood there not knowing what to say because he knows the depth of my struggles but knew I didnt want him to say anything...

Username: MissLovely

Date posted: 5y ago

Someone reply ? I am absolutely shattered, my whole body aches, maybe I got an hour sleep if I was lucky, but don't remember sleeping at all. It's clear to me that I can not sleep round anyone's house but my own. I slept at a friend's because of my pocd because I'm so scared of my head. I told my cousin about my intrusive thoughts whilst a bit drunk last night by text, I said I had to stay at a friend's but I lied and changed my ocd into a different thing. Because it was clear to me that she wondered why I avoid my nephew. So I said I was worried I'd throw him out the window. Cause of course I couldn't say I'm worried everyone will think I'm a pedo cause I think I look shifty in the face around kids. And she said why are you worried about throwing him out the window he is just a little boy. Well of course that made me feel absolutely shit, and now I'm worried she'll tell everyone. I made it clear that I'd never act on the thoughts and she said oh I get it. But she might tell people in the family. And then everyone will think I'm horrible. Someone help. Also anyone know how I can make myself sleep when I get home when he has hopefully gone home? Also I feel so bad about not staying because he begged me to stay ?

Username: Chellie

Date posted: 5y ago

My dad and I got in a physical fight today. I was screaming in a panic attack, frustratedly yelling and he decided to spit at me (contamimation OCD so that was awful), it eventually escalated to the point where he hit me, choked me and kicked my leg. I peed myself from fear when this all happened onto the floor. My mom and sister had to restrain him from hitting me more. My leg still hurts hours after. I'm at my uncle's now as the crisis service did not think me staying there was a safe situation. I can't stop thinking about it. My relationship was great with my dad before I got OCD. But ever since it has gotten to this point. This is not the first time it has happened either. He promised last time it wouldn't happen again. I still love him and want to forgive him as we had a great relationship before OCD. I don't know how to cope with all this. I am trying to sleep but my leg hurts and it keeps reminding me of what happened today. I sometimes wonder if I'll ever be able to trust him again... certaintly not while having a mental illness I feel like. I wish I could sleep but I just feel like crying.

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