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- Date posted
- 2y
Try and remember that thoughts are just thoughts- in and of themselves they are not good or bad- thinking something is not the same as doing it. Thats the first thing. Second- ERP teaches you not to give into the compulsion when you have OCD. Thats because when you give into the compulsions you are inadvertently strengthening the fear- you are basically telling your brain that there was an actual danger when there wasn't. It is a faulty alarm system that is going off in your brain. The idea is that you sit in uncertainty- maybe this is a sin, maybe it isn't- I find it helpful to recognize (not as a compulsion) that God knows our intents, our hearts, even when we doubt them. Hope this helps. Seeing a ERP therapist would really help you to better develop specific ERP surrounding your obsessions and compulsions.
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- 2y
I have scrupulosity too and struggle with this. The sermon on the mount really enforces my thought action fusion. Christ said if we think about adultery then we are adulterous. To me that verifies that just having that thought makes me guilty of the sin. Then I find myself feeling guilty and heavy burdened by my horrid wretched self. But as Christians this feeling shouldn’t be there we live under Grace so there is no condemnation for us. With scrupulosity we tend to feel like we still live under the law but we are saved through Christ and our sins/thoughts/compulsions are forgiven for He paid the price. One thing I have to go back to again and again is the scriptures tell us not to judge well that’s not just others we shouldn’t judge ourselves either. God loves us and because we have a harder path then most our reward will be greater then most when we complete our mission. Remember we can’t be perfect and God knows this that is why Christ came and redeemed us all through His sacrifice.
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- 2y
Yes I agree with Stacy. Our God understands we are dust. He understands our battle to not give into our compulsions because he literally experienced it too when He was here. The focus we need is not to think "Is giving into this compulsion mean my thought is true?". That turns our eyes onto us and away from Christ. Compulsions are rooted in fear, they are completely different from how we fight actual sin and temptation. In my compulsions there are always red flags of a choking anxiety, a "I HAVE TO FIGURE THIS OUT NOW" drive, and a lot of fear. Not so with real sin. Remember in those moments, when your compulsions scream for relief, who God is. What is his heart towards you in that moment, when that thought lands on you? How does He look at you in that moment, as His child? Fight the lies with truth. Be brave. Move in His grace through the uncertainty to not do your compulsion.
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 2y
If you are having to do a compulsion to address a thought, is that a wanted thought? I don’t know maybe it is and maybe it isn’t. Having a thought means nothing more than having a thought. It is not a wishful experience but rather a human experience.
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- 18w
Hello everyone. I was just wanting to post on here regarding a situation that I have been dealing with for a few months now. I have been taking my walk with Christ seriously for about a year now and ever since I started I’ve noticed a bunch of intrusive thoughts and it’s caused me much distress. It all started back in June of 2024. I missed a church service because my wife and I were taking care of our daughter and I went to a Best But store and upgraded my old Apple Watch to a new one. I felt like doing so I committed idolatry because I went and bought that instead of going to church. I felt immense guilt for doing so and the next day I cancelled my order. I thought that maybe I was over thinking the entire thing so I went ahead and placed a new order and got the watch. For two weeks after getting the watch, I ruminated about whether I should keep it or not. It didn’t feel right with me and was overwhelmed with guilt for having it and it was debilitated with anxiety and stress. Eventually I decided I would just give it back so I went to go return it on the last day I could do so only to find out I could not. I thought that was a sign from God that I could keep it. I felt the most relief after that that I had experienced in quite awhile but then the next day after I started have thoughts again thinking that I didn’t try hard enough to return it and that I’m some how putting it before God. Well eventually I came to terms that there was nothing I could do about it and I was able to stop worrying about it being an idol. Well my mind jumped from that to another thing in my life and this one has been harder to get over. I have been on hair loss medication for 7 years and I had a thought one day telling me that “if I’m a true follower of Christ, then I shouldn’t take the medicine because I’m placing too much importance on my looks” I again felt immense anxiety and dread and tried fighting these thoughts away but could not help but think” what if it is and this is conviction of the Holy spirit”? I would constantly look up online any answers I could find to help relieve my anxiety but I can’t. I pray to God all the time for his will to be done in this situation and sometimes I feel better but then it all comes back. It’s hard for me to read the Bible because there’s so much about idolatry I always feel like it’s God talking to me like it’s a sign or if I’m just taking it that way? I asked God to show give me an answer about this situation and a day later a YouTuber I follow posted a video about removing idols from our lives. I felt that was God speaking to me or wasn’t sure maybe it was a coincidence? I just feel so cornered and out under so much pressure on what to do. Of course I would like to keep taking my medicine because it has helped me but then I have thoughts that tell me it is an idol because I am not able to give it up. I cut back taking the medicine a lot more often over the last months but I don’t know if this is God telling me to do so or my own mind. Like if I want to keep my hair I believe God allows healing through medication and it’s a gift. But these thoughts are telling me that I rely on taking it and it’s an idol and that unless I give it up completely I’m not following God’s will and it’s an idol. It’s caused immense doubt because then I read Romans 14 and it says anything you do with doubt is sin because it’s not of faith. I feel like I’m being attacked and cornered because I’m forced to stop taking something that has helped me. Now I have thoughts telling me to stop wearing my retainers every night because I got Invisalign a few years back to fix my teeth and that unless I stop taking my medication and wearing my retainers I’m not authentically following God. I don’t know what to do at this point. I don’t want to go against God and I don’t want to commit idolatry. I know God is all loving so I doubt this is all coming from him. I have to take/wear these things daily for them to work and the ocd will twist that in saying they are idols because of that and I just feel so cornered and defeated. I try to find things constantly online to see if anyone else has similar issues but I can’t. I know this is a long post but just trying to get some clarity on the matter. What should I do to help my situation?
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- Therapist
- Date posted
- 16w
When OCD latches onto your morals, it can make you question whether you're a good person, even over small things. Have you ever felt overwhelming guilt over something others would brush off?
- Date posted
- 8w
I am a christian guy who grew up in a christian community and family. For as long as i remember, ive had horrible thoughts about all kinds of things that i dont know where to begin. Due to my extreme thoughts, i feel as if i am unworthy of practicing my religioin, such as praying, reading, meditating, etc. I feel ashamed when i go to church, as if i dont belong there because i feel like i am secretely evil, and that God knows i am evil and i am committing blasphemy by going there, and refusing to "repent", from my thoughts. But then again, my thoughts are just thoughts, sure. So whats the problem? - The problem is that in my faith, i have been taught that we must control our thoughts, so they do not get power over us to make us commit sin. Such as "If you think lustfully about a woman, you have already committed adultery with her in your heart". This verse has killed my self esteem, due to the constant unwanted sexual and disturbing thoughts. It makes me feel like a monster, who secretely just wants to abuse and be horrible to people, even though i know very well i do not want this. Sometimes i think horrible things about the people i love very much, such as my girlfriend. It feels so wrong and evil, even though i know it isnt my true will.
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