Need advice :( cheating thoughts?

@bugsuitcase Thanks for the reply! I think even though i didnt voice anything or act on anything the fact i had that thought and at the time thought it was ok to have that thought makes ne feel so bad. I also don’t even know if i had that thought because this occurrence was around 2 years ago but idk why i would feel this guilty if it didnt happen if that makes sense?

@Anonymous It's totally okay to think. Intrusive thoughts are not who you are. I have intrusive thoughts all the time. And causes me to suffer from anxiety. But I find writing them down and looking at them later helps. Or writing them on a piece of paper and burning it. If the event happened two years ago, I suggest sitting with the thoughts and learning to forgive it.

@Anonymous I'm also not a specialist on the matter, but this is from how I learned to cope a bit. I'm still learning to ways to cope.

@bugsuitcase Thabk you so much- i really appreciate the advice!

@Anonymous Hey :) this sounds really horrible for you. I experienced something similar a couple of years ago. The more I tried to remind myself of reality, the worse the false memories and intrusive thoughts became. Do you have a therapist you’re seeing at the moment? As bugsuitcase suggested, speaking with your partner may also be really helpful. I thought I was crazy for so long because I didn’t know other people had these thoughts. Just know you’re not alone. Sorry to hear your going through this.

@Sienna90 I dont really know what to say to my partner, he doesn’t fully understand which i get because i think you only fully get it when you have ocd. But when i told him about my false memory ages ago he was very supportive - i just dont want to confess :(

@Sienna90 Its just horrible though i don’t think that I would ever have this thought but i feel so guilty 😭

@Anonymous I hear you. I still have flashbacks of that particular false memory and still feel the guilt, even though I am aware it’s a fabricated thought. I still haven’t found a therapist because damn they’re expensive, but I suggest books, audiobooks, podcasts, etc. I’ve now equipped myself with more tools to deal with false memories when they flow in.

@Anonymous Unfortunately you can’t stop the thoughts, but you can absolutely manage how you address them. It can get better :)

@Anneis Thanks so much! I listen to mark freeman and ali greymond! I find them so helpful maybe check them out :’)

@emnav Yeah because my interaction was so long ago i cant remember if these thoughts actually happened! 😭😭 i didn’t act on it though but im so disappointed if i actually thought these things