Need advice im going crazy

So my thought currently which im obsessing over is “what if 2 years ago when i was chilling with my guy friend i wanted him to make a move whilst i was dating my current boyfriend” So not even doing something BUT THE THOUGHT OF IT and i dont even know if i had this thought i dont think i did😭😭😭 I feel so guilty- my brain is twisting everything because i used to have a small crush on this guy but i didnt have it when i was dating my bf😭😭😭😭 I feell like i have to confess this because ive been unfaithful:(

Aivlissa

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2y

OCD is a liar, filling our minds with UITs (unwanted intrusive thoughts) to trigger the compulsions it needs to get stronger & thrive. OCD latches on to the things we value & love the most. The fact that these UITs give you anxiety in the first place is proof that you are NOT an unfaithful partner. "Confessing" is a compulsion I struggle with, and I suspect your need to "confess" is also a compulsion triggered by your OCD flare-up. This is a PERFECT opportunity to practice ERP... DO NOT confess, and instead acknowledge your UITs, but go about your day ("I see you thoughts, I feel you thoughts, but I'm not going to let you ruin my relationship. Now excuse me while I continue about my day".).

Aivlissa

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2y

If you do this every time you have an OCD flare-ups, your anxiety will SPIKE, but I promise you the relief you will feel by NOT acting on the compulsion is GREATER than the temporary relief you get from acting out the compulsion in the first place. Overtime, your anxiety will lessen every time your OCD is triggered if you don't give in to the compulsion.

Anonymous

Date posted: 2y

@Aivlissa Thank you so much! Im currently in a bad state where i constantly feel really sick and guilty and i think my relationship is over because ive been unfaithful. I know deep down i haven’t but the feelings are so real and my brain is mixing up timelines making me think theres been overlaps early into my relationship

Aivlissa

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2y

@Anonymous I know exactly how you feel. I was in the same "bad state" back on Halloween (I even had to leave work early that day because my OCD flare-up was so bad). But you heading in the right direction. NOCD's therapy & online resources have helped me tremendously (and it hasn't taken as long as I thought it was going to). Do you have a therapist yet?

Givenup

Date posted: 2y

You haven’t been unfaithful. In fact the anxiety and fearfulness of this means you’ve been a perfectly faithful girlfriend.

Anonymous

Date posted: 2y

@Givenup The fact that my ocd makes ne feel so guilty about a thought i don’t think i ever had 2 YEARS ago is INSANE - why would i mention this to my bf? But then i feel like i have to😂😭 thank you for the response though

Givenup

Date posted: 2y

@Anonymous You seem like a very loyal and kind woman. I really hope your relationship lasts!!! 🙏🙏🙏

anonymous737...

Date posted: 22w

feeling like i did something

I often feel like i did something wrong even tho i am positive i didn’t, my boyfriend and i have been together for like 6 months and i’ve been completely loyal to him the whole time but recently i’ve been feeling the need to confess that i cheated on him even tho i didn’t and there’s absolutely no proof that i did something even close, i don’t talk to other men and if i do my boyfriend has full access to my phone and it’s usually a friend or me asking a simple question but i still feel the need to confess even tho i’ve done nothing wrong🥲 someone please help it’s so confusing

anonymous737...

Date posted: 22w

plss helpppp

Anonymous

Date posted: 20w

HELP PLS I NEED ADVICE

Ii spoke w my bf this weekend and he mentioned that he has thoughts just like me, but his don't bother him like me. I then felt a lot better and he tried dissecting one of his thoughts like I usually do and realized it felt more real for him after. That made me realize that none of my thoughts were ever true and I blew them up. However, yesterday I had a thought ab “wait wut if you liked that one guy? How dare you bc youre supposed to love your bf and not secretly like someone else” and treated it as I usually did bc I accidentally wanted to see if it was true but didn't rlly but I would check to see if it was there and now that thought feels so so so real now and I feel really bad how do Ik it's not real? I feel so bad and guilty bc lividly this makes 0 sense but it feels so prominent. It felt pretty real when it happened yesterday too. And now I feel awful bc how is it possible after my clarity the other day? Why does it feel so prominent 😞😞😞

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