So, how do you tell the difference between groinal responses and actual sexual arousal? Is what I experience arousal or a normal groinal response when I see or visualize teenagers or otherwise (yes, I know)? P.S. Please don't hide this post. 😅
As far as I know, there is no actual way to tell a difference.
Oh, goddamn it... 👍
There’s an article somewhere about this. My therapist says let the groinals be
@68273 The thing is when you are in a high state of anxiety, especially about these themes, I don’t know that you can tell the difference . Someone posted here too that they had a groinal x10 that felt greater than arousal so yeah, idk
@68273 😐 😯 😤 Man, I miss when I was the fun uncle. I wanted to be a dad, you know? 😞 But I digress. Do you personally deal with the theme?
@Whyacleverusername? Not any more, I have three kids now
@Whyacleverusername? I have hocd
So, groinal responses aren't a good way of determining your sexual orientation?
Not at all! Groinals are annoying when they aren't for who you want them to be for, but they shouldn't be a determining factor who you are or want to be. I deal with this all the time. Because I started having false groinals when I was really young, as an adult I have no way to determine what is real attraction and what is false attraction. I have found for me it all boils down to what I want. I want to love and grow old with my husband. So I have groinal attraction to other men? Sometimes. Do I have groinal attraction to women? Unfortunately, sometimes. Do either play any factor in who I choose to love and sleep with? Not really, no.
@Scooterino Omg we’ll said. So, my therapist told me to invite the groinals to come and come hard , after I did that exposure they left but recently they are back and need to do the same. I told my husband today I have hocd because I’m really struggling. He said he doesn’t care and he is supportive.
@Scooterino Hmm. So, it's just continually choosing? I remember having groinal responses concerning H-OCD as an adolescent. This theme, I think, was present from when I was 21-years. Weird thing is that I've had minor outbursts of panic here and there when I was wondering, "What if I am attracted to kids?" However, ollowing those outbursts, I just moved on and spent time with my siblings kids with little issue (no identifying details here - Haha). If you don't mind, may I ask you a follow-up question?
@Whyacleverusername? Yup
@68273 Basically, I can feel my consistent cognitive reactions are outright disgust or cringing away, yet the groinal responses just confuses the Hell of it. What does masturbation mean with regards to this theme?
@Whyacleverusername? You can have groinals to just about anything. And you can masturbate to groinal arousal at any time. That's the primal part of our brains. I don't recommend masturbating to thoughts that make you cringe or feel disgust, because that will perpetuate the OCD. You'll feel like because you acted on your thoughts they must be true. I've had groinal responses to my intrusive thoughts as long as I can remember. It's really wrecked my ability to tell what I'm actually attracted to and what I'm not. But I've determined that we make our realities by our choices. You don't have to do or be anything you don't want to do or be.
@Scooterino Been a little while since I last checked this post, but thank you for your input!
I keep getting these groinal responses when I think about kids or see one and it's really distressing, I only just learned that OCD can make you feel that and it's not actually attraction but it's so hard to remember that and I've seen people talking about accepting uncertainty but I'm so scared to think "maybe it's attraction maybe it's not" instead of "no it's not attraction that's disgusting" and idk what to do
Does anyone else when they have the thoughts, they feel against it, but they still get arousal or tenglings sensations in the groinal area? Because this is what I experienced today and I feel like crap. This is going to be very triggering for a lot of you, but there are a lot of times that I notice things from kids. For example, there is a thirteen year old kid who looks very developed for her age, and I take notice of (and this already sounds creepy to me) her chest. Today with my thoughts, I imagined as if I were touching it, and although I usually "no no or "I don't want to do that", she is a kid, etc., I still get responses in my groinal area, and It felt very real. Even now, I feel as though I am faking it, even though I groan 😮💨 from it, and feel as though I am a fraud. Does anyone relate?
hi does anyone ever get a random grounal response then feel aroused but you don’t want to be like before i had the thought i was feeling a little aroused then i had a random thought and it had the ground response and i felt aroused i don’t understand.
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